Issues with my Manager

Pointing out bullying or malpractice by a manager should in now way have any bearing on a future reference which from HR tend to be completely generic these days (person A worked here from xxxx to xxxx).

It could come back to bite you down the road in other ways depending on how small the industry you work in is and how influential your manager is. If you do have another job lined up, then maybe better to say nothing. Depends on how unreasonable you feel your manager's behaviour has been. In this case, it seems very bad so worth at least alluding to it I think.

“Ignoring when others praise you”, is that a thing now? You have to be praised if others praise you?

It is? Every manager must praise you because one does? Is is possible some managers would just view it as doing the job the op is being paid for?

You're deliberately misconstruing what is being said I reckon.

The OP isn't looking for an announcement on the intranet every time they did something but the case they outlined and the lack of any sort of recognition from their Line Manager is telling.

I've worked in mid-level management roles for years and it is a frequent line of communication between people at that level to ensure people are recognized by their line manager (and others as appropriate) when they have excelled in a particular way. It costs nothing for the company to do it, but can have a very positive effect on employee moral.

The company I work in at the moment has a monthly newsletter from the CEO and frequently after successful projects have been delivered someone may be identified by name in for the efforts they put in. The company has offices in 7 locations in the US and 4 other countries and not everyone knows everyone else but when someone is recognized in this way, it generally leads to positive vibes within their team/office and that can only be a good thing. The CEO doesn't know the minutae of who did what on a project but the fact that the information got as far as him for the article shows the PM, the Group Manager and Office Director recognized the efforts and that is where the benefit is.

No in both cases, but it indicates a pattern and is worthy of being noted.

You know that is not what is being implied here. But, carry on.

Personally, I wouldn't go near HR to state you're being bullied as I don't think it would warrant any more than a quiet word from HR to the manager at best. Despite being confidential, these things travel around and as your line manager will be responsible for assessing your performance and development potential within the organization, it might hold you back down the road. Also, if your desired manager was aware he/she may think that you could be problematic to them also and not endorse a change.

Perhaps it might be better to approach it a bit softer to HR indicating that you love working for the company and see your future there but that you don't really click with your current manager.... just one of those things and there is no hard feelings etc. etc. Then you could propose a the other manager.

Good luck!

Of course its bullying.

She's being singled out unfairly, treated differently and blanked. It also unprofessional and unproductive.

If I was the OP I would just make lateral move to another team. I would ask around see who is looking for staff. I wouldn't go through HR, I just go where I was needed more.

Just because you say it isn't, doesn't make it not bullying either...but it ticks a lot of the boxes.

The problem for this manager is they are most likely creating a history of treating the OP differently in their communications without realising it.

The OPs best option is just move to different manager. Avoid the drama queen and get back to work.

..and always keep paper/email records. Even if a person is ignoring you or trying not to leave a trace. Nothing so useful as a long paper train.

"Further to our meeting, (even if its verbal in the corridor) at location, at time, items discussed, agreed. With regard to our phone call, ,....as agreed..."

You can be sure if someone only ever does things verbally, especially if they are at a senior level, it often done very much on purpose.

Learnt that lesson on one my first IT jobs as a contractor. Been a lifesaver so many times.

Excellent. Great early Christmas present. Just a word of caution if I can, don't gloat towards your current manager, continue to be professional and polite and don't make any reference to the grievance you felt existed. If they ask you to do something before you transfer across, try to do it as long as it is any way a reasonable request. And even in the new year, if you have any dealings with them, stay professional.

Well done. You should take a self confidence boost from navigating this.

How is it going with the new Manager?

Why?