He cancelled our date last minute

This is terrible advice. They aren’t even in an established relationship yet. I know couples married 10 years and they don’t feel they have the right to check each other’s phones

Whatever about the cancelling, some people have work to do and don't have all day to spend texting.

Yes, that's his personality. It's up to you to decide if you can live with him being a bit more blase about time keeping than you. My assumption is, probably not. If lax texting gets you this annoyed this early on, I can't see you putting up with someone whose regularly late or just forgets appointments completely. It's incredibly annoying but some people are like that, out of no intended malice.

Depends on what you define as busy. You might think he's not busy because he's not at work or has the day off. He might have errands to run, or be catching up with a friend for lunch, calling over to his parents and having a chat with them, getting some laundry done etc etc. Can't spend all day going around with the phone glued to his hand. Long, drawn out text conversations can just be time sapping.

OP you could also read a lot of articles that advise not to text too much, and that (generalisation here oops) men usually do not like to text a lot especially lengthy conversations and especially if it’s chit chat and not something immediately relevant. Guy I’m seeing at the moment used to say how about a phone call once the back and forth texting went on for a while.

To me he sounds about as into somebody as a person should be after only a month of dating. You guys aren’t even confirmed exclusive. Not to say it’s nothing heading that direction but it’s wise to be a little cautious and give people a bit of space to decide if you are what they want to pursue instead of chasing them.

Agree with another poster the sex thing is probably part of this especially it’s off the table for another long time.

OP, you seem incredibly wound up over an issue that to me would warrant no more than momentary annoyance, then forgotten. You barely know this guy, you haven't even been intimate yet. Is he really worth twisting yourself into knots over? If he's a relaxed individual and your quite tightly wound it seems a poor match to me.

I'd be more curious about how his sex issue could impact your potential relationship. The rest seems a non issue.

Eight social meetings, private intimate date cancelled...

I am not sure at all. Just think it is wise to exclude such possibility. And it is not me, who suggested alcoholism. I only suggested problematic drinking. And it usually includes chasing such occasions.

How often guys are tired because of hangover and how often because of other things? It is proved that guys after exercising see women even more sexually attractive, so this kind of tiredness wouldn't be a problem to meet....

Whose feelings would you hurt in this case? If it was nothing, you would easily say it.

It always amazes me that people lie especially in dating situation, when building trust from the very being is very important!

It's not a white lie. You're telling it for your own benefit - not for any of the guys you're dating.

You're dishonest and it's making you suspect the guy you're dating is too.

Many people wouldn't consider taking their time responding to texts or cancelling a movie night because you weren't feeling well to be the end of the world, and other people would lose their minds over it, and others would decide you were an alcoholic off riding around you.

OP have you actually spoken to this guy. Try not texting and actually speaking. It will change your life.

Brilliant advice. If you pick up the phone and ring the person. Spoken words can get lost in translation over text. Verbal communication is the best way to solve an argument

It's been a month! Perfectly normal time frame to still be in the "out and about" phase of dates.

But you're on tinder too, no? Or am I reading that wrong? Why would it be one standard for him and another for you?

You're going to have to just talk to the guy. Say that you like him and want to be exclusive (I'm only about 10 years older than you and using that phrase makes me feel ancient because it didn't exist 'in my day' - I blame love island!) and see where it goes. If he's just not that into you so be it. At least you'll know.

Why is it ok for you to go on Tinder but not for him? You say you feel hurt because he was on Tinder, well maybe he feels the same if he goes on and see that you were on it. Honestly, you are going to have to start communicating better if you want this to last. Pick up the phone and talk to this guy. You seem to want to have it all your own way, with short conversations on text, because that is what suits you, and you say that he drags out conversations. He probably doesn't see it like this at all. He's just replying to a text from you when it suits him.

I understand why the cancellation thing annoyed you, I think we often have more of a build up to dates in our heads than guys do - they just turn up whereas we'd often spend an evening getting ready/deciding what to wear and all that. So cancellation is annoying. BUT I'd recommend saying that to him if it happens again rather than going down the "do you still like me" route. He might well have been out with the lads. Or he might have been doing something at home on his own that he wanted to focus on instead. Or the headache might have been worse. Or he might have just been in a shite mood. It doesn't really matter because the root of your annoyance is the insecurity of where you stand.

With the current Tinder situation - if you want to be exclusive then tell him that's what you want & that you're going to delete your Tinder. He'll likely say he's going to also. But don't be checking it every hour after to make sure he does, some guys just really don't think this stuff is important and it might go out of his head for a few days until he gets around to it.

If you trust him, none of this should really be a thing. If you don't trust him, I'd end it before it starts because it's not going anywhere.