Guys on dating sites…

I’m on other sites as well. I matched extraordinarily well well a while back, inotherwords I am a former private pilot, he is is private pilot in training L, woweewe. And a real looker to boot! That was months ago, my poor head was seriously messed up for about 4 months by circumstances I’ve come through.

I have a very moral outlook on my interactions à with people, I do not want to lead antibody up the garden path and met them down. It is hugely against my nature to let anybody down, I just don’t start anything with anyone unless I can carry it through.

Years before colectomy all relationships were organic, they were with people yo my got to know in person. The concept of online dating to be has been peculiar. All people who fancied me heretofore were people who actiallly knew me, and vice versa! There was always abundant passion in the background!

We know images are verified in dating sites by poster having to have A picture validated on own phone. In theory I could borrow my slightly better looking friend to pose, though I dare say I might be found out 🤣. If there was a basic enough similarity, though, I might sort of get away with it. And maybe there are techy ways around it too that I have yet to know about.

I have been a tiny bit suspicious as to why some insanely good looking guys (& gals etc) would be out there on the search, unless there was some catch, like bring a raving drug addict or something. On the other hand I have a relative who met her partner (through a site), who is an absolute catch on all counts and he is without any complications whatsoever. Although she insists she never noticed he is very good looking.

There’s a lot of totally sincere types out there, but many of those are on the syndrome, so to speak. That means there can be a slight issue in understanding. Attraction is great, but understanding equally important.

I’m laughing at some experiences. Got a Jesus freak type onto me, trying to convert me I suppose, or I reckon his ultimate goal might have been to try and extract money from me going on the vibe I was getting. Blocked without explanation.

Have had younger guys (yeah I’d be physically attracted, as would any older guy to an attractive younger woman) who obviously want a mammy figure type, almost certainly breast-fed as chiselers.

There’s the absolutely haggard guys, worn beyond their time, posing with pints. No-no.

There’s guys with half-faces, masks showing half a lovely face (more’s the pity if the other half is half-ok ), posing in darkened rooms: maybe grand guys with little confidence, but that give the impression there’s something to hide.

When I was really involved over getting something pretty time-critical accomplished some time back, I matched with somebody who seemed incredibly suited in his rare niche interest which I share, along with other stuff, and seemed so damned grounded. I put one thing aside for that potentially really good match, I just want going to mess uP what seemed to be a genuinely good person by procrastinating.

There must be surely better matching algorithms… just I think they cost a little bit! 😂

Yes, I know about time wasters, had one classic one looking to deceive me for money. I could see it coming so blocked him immediately. Started out by sniffing out my financial assets, so to speak. Do you have your own car? Do you have your own house? Have you a mortgage? What is your career? Are you religious, because I believe a woman can only be faithful to a man if she’s faithful to God?

Then you get at least the odd straightforward statement: “would you enjoy sex with a younger man, I would like it with an older woman, nothing else please”.

There are some sincere-seeming people on for a chat and see where it goes. You don’t want to mess up a really decent individual deserving of the best of you, whilst at the same time filtering out the people not deserving of you at all. As one of the most important things my father taught me as a teenager was always to do my best in not causing hurt to any man.

All these antigen test requirements before meeting are a nuisance, indeed aren’t we being told not to meet people outside of household/circle at all. My view on it is that if the other person hasn’t vulnerable people in his family, with this highly contagious variant, just effin well share the virus as well! 🤣🤣🤣

Ah yeah but when you have video chats do ya keep yer gob shut, and when it comes to meeting to do also keep yer gob shut… and then when she goes to kiss you and discovers the gap with done surprise what is her reaction? 😂

Decades ago I remember kissing a guy after a fancy dress party in his car, and was horrified when I ended up with his full set of false teeth in my mouth. 😱 I said “thank you for the ride home”. He had been a flying instructor and had just become so distracted by me (not my intentional doing) that if I hadn’t taken evasive action we would have ended entangled in trees. Later his mate swore he didn’t have dentures as they had shared a room during a flying trip and he saw him brush his teeth in the conventional way 😂

I mean on WhatsApp, Signal etc after exchanging numbers.

I’ve encountered stunning looking guys on Tinder etc, I’m in conversation 😁🙏😇 some only too good to be true 🙏😁🙏

Several stunningly attractive guys have been in touch - but it remains to be seen if these are genuine pics 😂😂😂

I can just hear her voyis, lol! Like wan of de cawlurs to de Liveline! 😂🤣😂

Like, how do you say to someone like that “well you are rough, I’m sophisticated, it won’t work”, without sounding like the complete w@melt snob that you would be 😁? How does one put it, diplomatically?

I’ll let you into a secret. Ladies often get their female friends in on the act to help evaluate potential matches, I don’t know if men do this kind of thing much. 😁

From my point of view I like a natural looking photo, but one that has been chosen with a little bit of thought. I see lots of guys taking photos of themselves in bathrooms. Sometimes with half of face cut off, or grimacing. Good to get a friend, or maybe a sister to take a quick series of pictures, pick the best for the profile. If you have a good smile, use it, but some people just don’t but it is always good to “think happy” when the photo is being taken. Think of a nice woman seeing the picture and giving the thumbs up to a friendly looking guy.

One particular text I got that I really liked was when a guy said “I really feel a bit awkward on a dating site, just not used to it, but here goes”. It immediately told me he’s not a pushy type or full of bravado and got a big thumbs up from me.

Gonna be meeting someone who seems to be a very nice guy, for coffee over the next week or so, all Covid scenario permitting etc. There’s plenty of potential matches out there, but I really only want to talk to one at a time. Nothing seemingly wrong with a little list of others, but above all don’t want to be messing people around, so won’t respond to raise false hopes without first seeing if this guy checks out well in real life. Might be worth getting Covid for 😁

Would that not be the same for women on POF? Except maybe women get more replies there maybe?

A lot of guys put up absolutely terrible photos, which are off putting to say the least. A lot would definitely benefit from a friend or relative taking a decent picture, half the battle.

I have as my no. 1 match somebody who to me is entirely attractive and very compatible, wants to meet but is very shy and totally new to online dating. My female friends said they’d definitely give him the thumbs up. How not to make him too nervous and reassure him that I don’t bite… errr I might actually 😂