What impact talking about your finance is having on others?

You have two choices if somebody in your family is nosey enough to ask you these questions. Either lie outright and give them low figures. Or deflect their answers by replying with a vague, unhelpful one. You get extra marks if you pretend to be amused.

"You'll be looking for my inside leg measurement next"

"I wouldn't give information like that to the police"

"Jeez you're fierce nosey" (This probably works better in Ireland than in other countries)

"I'm doing alright/I'm not going to starve"

Rent: "Enough to keep a roof over my head"

Which couple are you part of OP?

I know it could be difficult but you have say no in general say any savings you have are put away and you do not have access to for a couple of years .If it's your family they sometimes be the quickest to take advantage .I don't know if you plan to stay here for good but if you do you will need quite a bit of money to live on after you are no longer working and you never know what can happen so money is important to have .Any money you hand over for things you will most likely never see it again .If people keep asking they have no respect for you so keep your distance I feel .

There is literally no value to anyone apart from your partner to give that information. I wouldn't share even if people asked me.

I have a friend who never shuts up about how much of a bonus he is getting this year etc. I don't know why he thinks that's ok to say it. It's a real turn off especially if you are a hard worker and making somewhat less. That kind of stuff is classless.

Keep it to yourself.

I agree with one of the posters above. I don't think when people ask this question that it has any good intent or purpose. My husband and one of my friends knows what I earn, that's it. I would also say that once it's known that you are a high earner in comparison to family or friends, that they might come looking for "loans". If you want to help people financially, then that's ok, but don't view it as a loan, cos you'll only be disappointed! Any money you give, be prepared to never see it again. Therefore only give what you can afford to see be paid back, and consider that in your budget.

I think it depends on the people involved and the context of the conversation. I have open conversations with some of my friends in terms of how much we earn and are saving. We're in similar fields so it's a good way to benchmark against each other if one is earning less than the potential market. It's never done as a bragging or one-upping each other so we take it at face value and leave it at that.

With anyone else who asks how much I earn my standard answer is "Enough". That's all they need to know. I may give an actual figure in terms of saving per month but that's it.

In Ireland, many people who earn more than you look down on you and many of those who earn less despise you and are jealous. Talking about money or displaying either signs of having money or lacking money provoke the same reactions. Come into work in a new car and the office begrudger will be able to tell you after half an hour exactly how much the list price is and who has a more expensive car.