Trying to force the sale of my house with ex

well, there's your problem right there. Get a solicitor right now.

That kind of equity could give both of you a new start.

As the child of a broken home where my mother used us as weapons I thing the best option here is a total split. Obviously the courts will have the child stay with the mother no matter what happens and that may be for the best but seperating the lives of the warring parents is the best thing to do for any child.

To stop the war both must be allowed to move on with their lives. And then they can both concentrate on giving the child some sort of a settled life where the parents arent pitted against each other.

Lol, solicitors are wolves looking for sheep to gobble up.

Friend and his sis are at war over property, the only thing any of the solicitors are interested in is selling the property. He's taking the sis to the High Court by himself.

True, for a few years but he’s currently living in a shed and she’s totally uncooperative. Naturally better if solicitor could work something out but in Ireland totally unlikely.

A very tragic and sadly all to common problem OP.

I'm no legal expert but can share my very best friends near 15 year battle not unlike yours.

Firstly it's highly unlikely any Judge will force a sale whilst there's a child involved (my friend has two daughters in late teens when breakdown occured) . He moved out and absolutely adhered to his responsibilities regarding maintaince, paying mortgage entirely and maintaining property for 10 years.

There's was court arrangements in place, wife worked P/T and in essence contributed nothing nor adhere to a contribution to mortgage etc or a number of court mandated agreements.

My friend maintained his part of the agreements in place but it became unsustainable. When Daughters reached 18, they attended college etc and finally my friend sought agreement on house being sold but understood daughters would be dependent until 23/24. The nastyness got to a stage were to Court had to intervene, various orders against wife and an instruction house was to be sold. It dragged on with various subtle obstacles thrown in the way, refusing viewings etc, disputes on valuations etc, this incidently after Daughters had completed studies.

My friend remarkably remained calm used proper legal recourse, documented everything and the Judge actually commended him. It actually also involved a contempt of court order against the now ex wife.

It took an enormous toll on my friend, both his daughters turned aflgainst him but I'm glad to say he's in a much better place now and re developing a relationship with is daughters.

House was sold almost 15 years to the day the marriage broke down.

There was Children involved, there was a Marriage And Joint mortgage.

Whilst incredibly painful to watch what occurred, eventually house sold and all and any monies owed (un paid) by wife were taken from her share of proceeds. My friend recouped most of what he was owed but not all. It took a long time yes but I'd be dishonest in trying to tell you this will be straight forward.

You need an experienced family law solicitor, they'll in turn brief a Barrister, there'll be numerous court hearings, you need to remain very focused, document everything and if necessary have court orders enforced. But ultimately I'd be skeptical a house sale will be forced if there's a child involved and whilst easy for me to say, try remain focussed, it will eventually resolve itself, it's going to be very difficult but it will resolve itself but in time. Do not expect a quick resolution and prepare yourself.

I wish you well OP