Dealing with trainer who seems to have temperment issue

I honestly feel you're over thinking those two comments. I personally see nothing amiss with them.

His comment to you when leaving, telling you to "Disappear" was unnecessary and aggressive. Him saying that you're lambs to the slaughter, infers that he thinks that he has some kind of power over you. You would need to be able to prove that he hit you with force. Basically you need a witness. It might be worthwhile to outline how it all to a manager. I know you probably don't want to make a fuss of this, but you don't want to have people treating you like that either.

She said that he nudged her with force, like hitting a cow in a mart.

Lambs to the slaughter means that they are innocents, new to the job. It doesn't have sinister overtones.

Brid is a him (if it matters), and everywhere he works he meets arsholes out to get him. You know what they say about meeting arsholes all day...

The title of the thread must mean that there's more to it than that. There's obviously an element of aggression in the interactions.

It really doesn't. This poster has form in looking for offense where none was intended.

So the OP reads more in to what was said than is reasonable and then you read between the lines for pure supposition? Remarkable.

Meanwhile,off the Internet and back in the real world...

By the way Brid is a he,that's the least of his worries though.

It means looking for a reaction. Have you brought up any of the issues with someone in the company? Do you think that you're too sensitive and have you gone over the incidents again in the past few days. You need to keep a record of any incidents for future reference if you do want to make a complaint.

But in a lot of the incidents you witnessed, workers may have had a case for workplace bullying. I don't think that there's enough in Brid's experience for doing so yet. He probably just wants to feel comfortable at work and that he's in a safe space. Some people have different triggers. If he had called out the trainer, it would have helped stop it.

I'd consider the lambs to the slaughter remark and the dissappear remark as light ribbing. I wouldn't say dissappear to anyone but it's really not worth getting cross about.

I don't know how to phrase this without it appearing to endorse bullying. But mild ribbing is normal for new staff to a job. It's a mild version of an initiation test. You take a mild slagging and show that you're not too sensitive and people can relax around you. That's how it worked in olden times anyway. It doesn't mean the Work environment will be brilliant or happy or bad or anything else. I would just smile and take it easy to see hat happens next.

I wouldn't say anything based on those incidents. The physical shove might be a different story but it could have been a mistake or a loss of balance or a shove.

I'd stay positive and see how things progress. Might be absolutely nothing in it.

Wow, if you managed to find any of the above even mildly offensive then I genuinely don't think you should be in the workforce until you sort your issues out. You will likely make a complaint against this person which will end up their record.

Toughen up, life is going to be extremely difficult for you if you don't.

"The trainer (who had walked on) just replied "when I assault you, you'll know it"!"

I would seriously consider quitting that place if I were you. There are plenty of other jobs out there at the moment. You'd have to have witnessed the tone that he made the reply in but it sounds nasty. Did it sound like a joke or banter? Keep a record of all these incidents, who was there etc, in case you want to do something about it in future.

I don't find it credible that some one says they are experienced in not taking things seriously but then is entirely offended by a bit of ambiguous clumsy banter.

Unfortunately in some companies there's a culture of bullying. If you have two or three senior people engaging in bullying it's very hard for HR or anyone else to stand against it, especially if they're regarded as being very important to the organization. I left a job a few years ago because of this.

Don't cod yourself. They'd only see one appointment in a different light and it wouldn't be him.

Not really. You can't be hyper sensitive one minute and impervious and easy going the next.

It's a bit like taking a hard zero tolerance approach one minute and letting things slide the next.