Male Victims of Domestic Violence

I'm confused. only 14% of men will experience DV but 16% will experience severe DV

how can the second be higher than the first?

I'd guess 1 in 7 men will experience it and of them a 1/6 will experience severe domestic violence.

Women are much more likely to use coercive control in a relationship which is often ignored as domestic abuse. How many men are told they aren't allowed do something or break friendships due to their female partner. It is played for laughs quite often.

I know 2 men who had partners intentionally get pregnant against the will of the men. You can joke about they were not forced to have sex but they were told and believed the women were taking contraception and they were in relationships. One didn't want any children ever and the other didn't really either but said maybe in the future. Men have been charged with rape for interfering with contraception.

So it worked out in one relationship as he got used to the idea and accepted it what she did and forgave her

The other is a disaster, they hate each other and she uses the child as bargaining chip often not letting him see the child. He is very honest that he never wanted children but this is his child and he wants to be in her life.

That is bad enough but what I found worse was when talking to my mother she saw no issue with it and so did some of my female friends. Their view was women have limited time and if the guy doesn't want children that doesn't really matter due to the ticking time bomb.

Society/the herd/women do not and never will care about domestic abuse of men. Society abhors "weak" men, it's similar with mental health and no amount of Darkness Into Light or advising men to open up about their issues changes those primal instincts.

If criticism and verbal humiliation are included in the definition of abuse, a large percentage of men in relationships experience it.

The problem is that women want badasses who tick all the boxes. Most men are far from being badass but women's eggs aren't going to fertilise themselves - so they "settle" and then resent their partner, niggling at him for not being good enough.

How many TV ads make a joke put of "useless" men, dopey dads etc. Abuse of men is endemic in society. Men are also routinely mocked for things they have zero control over such as height.

Strong bang of “Current Affairs” off this one.

Same crowd who bleat on about the over representation of people of colour on tv ads are now trying to make out that men are the “real victims”, once again.

Greater policing of, and stronger sentences for, perpetrators of domestic abuse, both male and female, would be great but, let’s face it, the women’s prisons won’t be the ones filling up fast.

A new record for boards.ie, it took two posts to blame Feminists for men suffering from domestic violence.

Dismissing men's groups just as feminist groups were dismissed in the past as just angry.

There are certainly legitimate concerns for equal rights for men and the narrative in media. Look at the Johnny Depp situation and the absolute mess made. We have an abusive person using the narrative against men to abuse some more.

If people don't see an issue with the education system where male students grades are constantly going down and less and less men are becoming teachers, we have a problem. It would not be tolerated if it was the other way around but it is passed off as female students are more mature and study better. It is amazing that it is ignored

What do you care you just dismiss it? Do I only have the option to ignore them or join them?

I didn't gaslight but there you show toxic masculinity in that you have to put down others to feel your point is valid. Where you actually made up a narrative about me unlike me pointing out what you said. I am not outraged just think it is sad how men can't show solidarity which you illustrated perfectly.

Yet when you said you will leave it there you couldn't. Have your own opinions all you like without putting others down. This shows you are the angry man. You probably don't understand this given what you have said. I will leave it there

Not just angry men, angry LITTLE men.

the post was complete bollox. that it was the first response makes it even more so.

Find it very telling that “certain” posters aren’t trotting out the ‘any of the male victims of domestic abuse I know just want to get on with their lives and ignore all the nonsense’ line.

yeah. Woman gets raped on a night out: her own fault

men on the receiving end of domestic abuse : is the extreme feminists fault.

You'd want to be pretty brave to do anything overtly in that space

note the mention of "second post"

What's your point here?

There are a minority of men who do likewise.

Maybe you might think they are being cutting, but maybe they cant stand people going on about WOKE all the time. That would fry your last nerve, man or woman.