Struggling with a difficult co-worker

I agree, you don't have to prove anything.

I'm sorry if I upset you.

This does seem to be getting to you OP, I'd say let it go if you can. No need letting other people live rent free in your head. That said it really doesn't seem like your co worker is the one being difficult at all. Good advice from others to have your Manager actively step in and advise in these types of situations in future though. Above all else mind yourself

You could equally argue the OP is trying to diminish the role of this other person. It seems everyone in her work apart from herself is onboard with how it has been approached though. All the more reason for her to get her managers opinion directly AND make sure she isn't seen as the bad person

You can't fix someone else. Trying will only make you look bad. You need to cut them out of your head.

What you have to do is focus solely on yourself and work smarter not harder.

Sometimes being smarter is not delivering (or being very slow) on the work you don't want to do, while knocking the ball out of the park on the work you do want to do.

The nature of boards is to to attack the poster not the content of the post. Because that's they come here for. If you have a problem with a post, report it, or it's a poster put them on ignore. Then move on..

Be careful, what you consider to be facts can be seen very differently by others. Normally others won't give you the benefit of any doubt, less so judging by what you've said here about your workplace. You can be 100% right and still be made out to be the bad person. Just some advice, focus less on that individual and more on the overall issue itself

Venting is all well and good. However, opinions will be challenged. By the way, its the people in your work who won't give you the benefit of the doubt. Its sounds like you have made up your mind how you are going to approach this situation. Best of luck with it

Do you think you are 100% in the right here OP? Genuine question, just a yes or no?

So no. Thank goodness for that :-)

Thanks!

That wasn't the logic...clearly you missed it ;-)

The OP is too proud to admit to the possibility of any fault on her part.

Unless we aren't allowed to call this out for fear of hurting feelings?

Nonsense, challenging an opinion in the first place does not equate to psychoanalysis. How dramatic

Completely relevant in every case. Uncomfortable? Sure but relevant and in the long run arguably more helpful then just telling someone what the want to hear. And incorrect, the problem is the overall process not the people. Processes are there to manage peoples expectations in the workplace. It always amazes me to see how some people seem to take things so personally while looking to blame individuals instead of taking a look at the larger picture.

Agree, a management & process issue. If anything is irrelevant its blaming her colleague in the first place.

Nonsense, I've challenged the points made and in no way made this personal. But I understand how that can be misunderstood when emotions come into play.

Totally agree on your last point, all the more reason not to just appease the OP.