Online dating horror stories

I’ve met a lovely guy much younger than me via Tinder, great mutual attraction, a shared super sense of fun and playfulness, and very sexually compatible. No awkwardness. But there were a couple of hiccups in matches, some purely practical because of circumstances of location etc, one or two chats fizzled out, I had to ghost one as I was getting extremely bad vibes, and I’m casually friendly with one or two because of similar interests, with the odd text going “how are you doing, how did that date go?”. There’s a many very de ent people out there, some of these can be shy or nervous and sone have said how they hate this idea of clicking on a profile mainly based on looks.

When it came to making my decision to super-like (I got super-liked by same guy too) it was absolutely instantaneous, lime a button had been pressed. A beautiful black&white photo of a guy with the most lovely sleek long hair who stood in a pose that simply appealed straight off. He was holding his hair piled up over his head. There was a quick text delighted I had given my approval, an immediate sense we had the same playful sort of personalities, lots of picture sharing. He also revealed himself as a very sweet natured person with great sentiments about people, animals, everything.

So guys, put your most sensual pose on and you will get an arty sassy sort of lady taking note of your profile 😉 It’s the instant hook that matter so much, even if we think it should not.

My tiny bits of advice for what it’s worth: No. 1 A feckin decent flattering picture. Take a ton of them, get a sibling etc to take tons of them for you, various poses, expressions etc. think black & white, it’s arty and attractive to ladies. Let the picture show the kindliness as well as the sensuality in you, a nice relaxed pose, with an arm douching another part of you can be very nice. Re profile: honesty about age and basics is essential. Age is no barrier to anything except maybe childbearing in case of a female.

There is a storm outside tonight, I am at a considerable physical distance to my “match”, there are sensual texts, just about to be another comparing him to the storm 😉

It’s sensuality, physical attraction first and foremost. That said I am not far behind with a lot of caring and compassion, so that is equally important to me. Otherwise dead on the water.

That’s very nasty and unscrupulous of her. There’s a certain cohort like that who have ulterior motives, and I’ve have friends taken in and treated appallingly by Brazilian males, I heard a detailed such story at Christmas. There seems to be a particular sub-culture in a certain cohort of that society which uses sex and persuasion of a type to get their own ends. It all hinges on taking advantage of another person.

Re having a glass (or bottle of whiskey) it may seem to lubricate the shyness or awkwardness of the moment, but heavy consumption over time destroys the neural pathways to the penis, which what then need medical intervention to regain sexual functioning, apart from all other functioning.

My friend at Christmas related how the Brazilian guy she met on Tinder had endured she had a good number of strong drinks, but didn’t drink himself. He never said he was a non-drinker, otherwise she would have arranged a date over a meal, an outing, a walk etc. Rather he was keeping his head clear for a purpose, and she copped on before the next drink, and made excuses to leave saying she had an appointment in the morning and politely thanking him. He suddenly got furious and started shouting at her as she walked home nearby. Fortunately he didn’t follow her all the way, she had plans of walking into a Garda station, he went off in another direction in a temper that some plan had been frustrated.

Exactly. It would be awful to have a child you might then not be allowed contact with if she hot her visa to recommence life maybe with existing partner or spouse from Brazil, maybe a whole family coming over to join the new sibling. In some of these cases you just don’t know what unscrupulous people are up to. Maybe getting out of a favela scenario and doing desperate things to succeed, maybe wiping conscious by saying to self “sure that Irish guy wasn’t serious anyway, sure he’ll easily find someone else just like I found him for my present needs”. Really, it’s awful, but one has to at times do a little double guessing as to motivation and the earlier one can go that the better, if it is possible. But we are all human.

Great idea 🤣🤣🤣

Its not a disorder. Its a description of behaviour. Psychiatry just loves putting a diagnostic label on bad behaviour