Cheating

Did you put the word 'drunkenly' in front of 'cheated' to mitigate what you did?

I cheated on 1 girl in NY years ago. Only time. Been cheated on by a spouse. And I know who. Not a one off but for years. I see posts on Facebook about how him and his now wife are SO in love. Mutual friends) and how he's such a devoted husband to her and their 2 ,maybe 3 children.

Little does she know the for their whole courtship he was cheating with their mutual great friends cousin.

She wasn't a steady gf ,in my mind anyway. A weekend hookup , or so I thought. Yes I regret it. Looking back on my regrets, they always happened because I couldn't grow up a be a man, rather than a boy around town.

Fixed that for ye.

I'd a lady used follow me back to my digs to give me a blow job years ago while I was working away from home for a few months, we used go for a few pints after work some nights and she was working behind the bar, she never let me ride her for some reason so I never understood what she got out of it, but who was I to turn down blow jobs, I'd have been letting down the entire male race to knock that on the head, I was going with a girl at home but blow jobs are incredibly hard to turn down

Would you not be worried about the fact that there was no ride, that "she" might have been a "he"and be packing a piece.

Yeah I've been cheated on, and cheated when I was younger. Both painful, I was filled with regret afterwards. Now I think feck it, I was young. I definitely would not stray now, no way.

What I can't understand is why do these people get into relationships I mean surely they know the sort they are why not just do everyone a favor and stay single if your going to be the town bike or vice versa. No one will have a problem then.

I've never cheated in a relationship, I just leave the relationship if that's the case don't need to be cowardly and all cloak and dagger I'll tell the person outright.

I do look down on people that cheat and In general have less respect for them I think it represents a serious character flaw and they aren't to be trusted in any regard.

A kiss and a feel up are absolutely not grand. Don't be fooling yourself.

If I heard my wife did that on me, I wouldn't feel any worse if she had effed the guy.

That said, I did cheat before we were married and I wouldn't rule out doing it again if the circumstances fell that way. But I wouldn't be bullshyting myself about degrees of infringement, its all feckin cheating lads. I'd be going into whatever it was with my eyes open.

Kissing is cheating

Oral is cheating

Any sort of intimacy, even if there is never sex, is cheating.

Sexting is cheating.

Having a long term confidante online that might or might not involve sexual talk, but your partner not knowing about it, is cheating.

I think cheating is such a dishonest thing to do. I don't approve of it and I would never do it to my wife. Its such a horrible act to do. If you stray from your partner just do the right thing and tell him or her you don't want to be with him or her anymore and just end it.

I had a married woman trying to come onto me one night on a work event. I work with her, she is a very attractive woman and she had a few drinks taken, I was heading out to the toilet and she followed me out and called me back. She started talking to me and said she wanted to kiss me. I froze I actually didn't know what to think or do. She put her hands around me and tried to kiss me but I pushed her off me and told her no. It was awkward for both of us at work after all of this but I was delighted I didn't allow her to try her stuff on me. Yes she was a really attractive woman but she was married and I had a partner at the time who I was very loyal to.

I'm probably about 1 in every 10 man that wouldn't do such a thing but I know plenty of other men who wouldn't miss the opportunity especially when the woman on show was quite hot.

Its only cheating if your caught!

But being serious I think its the most natural thing in the world to "cheat"

We are as a species just like any other on the planet here to survive !

I honestly feel like its really a primeval instinct in all of us that allows us to behave that way!

Of course alcohol and other substances help to dull our inhibition's so most of this stuff happens under these conditions!

Someone mentioned about being tied down with kids and family life and not having the time! I feel that but being honest with myself Im capable of cheating if all the stars aligned rightly or wrongly!

Nope, just 50%, you said it yourself to open the discussion.

And I'm not one bit surprised. I really don't know about the liklihood of women cheating on men, but I'd be completely accepting of a stat which said 1 in 2 of Men would cheat. Its absolutely believable.

I say 'would' and not 'have' , because the reality of it is too stressy for some people and as others have said, some simply don't have the time.

I don't get what was in it for her? Was she an older woman or just did it when drunk? Did she stay the night or go home?

An ex of mine got in touch when her marriage had problems but I stayed well away. Last I heard they were still together and had another kid. She could suck for Ireland but no way was I opening that can of worms.

No about my own age and she was working most of the nights behind the bar but she used to have a few beers if she was off, she used stay until the morning and go home then, she only lived a few doors down from where we were staying, she was ideal in fairness to her

She spills the beans and the wife initiates a divorce and he's forced to leave the house and has to live happily ever after in a self-directed life of peace and serenity.

Just curious, but where do you all pick up these people ?? Lol. Writing as a singleton btw

People to have an affair with? Usually work.

All the Guards are effing each other. I'm not even exaggerating.