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  • Moderators, Category Moderators, Arts Moderators, Sports Moderators Posts: 49,380 CMod ✭✭✭✭magicbastarder


    funny. i was taught religion in primary school (and in secondary school, a catholic boys school); they were more interested in teaching us about religion than about morals.

    telling a bunch of 16 year old boys that masturbation is a sin is not going to counter any effects of gross materialism and narcissism. however, the weird thing was that the sex ed session we got in primary school (fifth class, i think) was more liberal than anything i heard in religion class in secondary.



  • Registered Users Posts: 28,346 ✭✭✭✭looksee


    Look I give up. Kids get all the sacraments and come out atheists. Thus calling it indoctrination is silly.

    You really are missing the point, aren't you!

    It serves as a counter point in terms of value to the gross materialism and narcissistic culture we are in. Kids might not believe in God after it but they might absorb some non head up me hole values.

    As already pointed out, getting the sacraments and getting paid for them is not gross materialism? Baptism, First Communion, Confirmation, Weddings, Christmas, Easter...are there any of these that do not involve significant materialism far outweighing the spiritual aspects? Even holding a 'house mass' involved ridiculous levels of redecorating and even building at huge expense, no sense of modesty or humility there, thankfully those are now a thing of the past afaik.

    There are opt outs for religion. It's up to you to look them up.

    Again, as already argued, religion should be an 'opt-in' in a state funded school, not an opt-out.

    By your own arguments the whole business of teaching religion to children in primary school is a waste of time so why not have them engaging in more useful subjects. Including the 'non head up me hole values' in the form of social and cultural classes.



  • Registered Users Posts: 28,939 ✭✭✭✭AndrewJRenko


    They come out as atheists who tick the Catholic box on the Census and put their own kids through the sacraments again, just because. They'll pepper their conversations with 'thank gods' because apparently their god helps their football team or gives them nice weather for the weekend. They'll do the weddings and funerals in the Church, just because. It is deeply, deeply engrained. As the Jesuits say, "Give me the child for the first seven years and I'll give you the man".



  • Registered Users Posts: 2,740 ✭✭✭Bobtheman


    I think you should see a therapist about this or speak to a politician. This time Im breaking free.

    Posting here won't change a thing



  • Registered Users Posts: 20,047 ✭✭✭✭cnocbui


    My wife wanted our kids baptised, I'm an atheiest, I refused, so they weren't.



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  • Registered Users Posts: 34,648 ✭✭✭✭Hotblack Desiato



    Article 44 of the Constitution:

    4° Legislation providing state aid for schools shall not discriminate between schools under the management of different religious denominations, nor be such as to affect prejudicially the right of any child to attend a school receiving public money without attending religious instruction at that school.

    There's only a handful of primary schools in the country which are not receiving state funding.

    Fingal County Council are certainly not competent to be making decisions about the most important piece of infrastructure on the island. They need to stick to badly designed cycle lanes and deciding on whether Mrs Murphy can have her kitchen extension.



  • Moderators, Business & Finance Moderators Posts: 10,245 Mod ✭✭✭✭Jim2007


    Even 40+ years ago with I was in school and we had both Jewish and LDS kids in the class they were not required to attend any type or religious class, mass nor prayers and it was a school run by the Presentation Sisters. So I take this comment with a very large pinch of salt.



  • Registered Users Posts: 28,939 ✭✭✭✭AndrewJRenko


    I know of cases in the last 10 years where non-Catholics were expected to 'do colouring' during religious classes, to stand for Catholic prayers at multiple occasions during the school day. For school masses, they were told to sit at the back of the church, because there was no teacher in the school to supervise them. At Christmas, their choice was to take part in the nativity play, or to 'do colouring' for all the preparation and rehearsals, and miss the big night out for the school community each Christmas.



  • Moderators, Business & Finance Moderators Posts: 10,245 Mod ✭✭✭✭Jim2007


    And just as simply to explain it to you: You live in a part of the world with a Christian ethos and expecting the population to change its was to accommodate you are unrealistic not matter how you want to dress it up. Now you could try to move to another part of the world, but all you will find is emphasis on another religion. So one way or another your kids will have to figure out how to live in this world and shielding them from it at a time that is all about figuring out how to deal with the world is not helping them.



  • Registered Users Posts: 28,939 ✭✭✭✭AndrewJRenko


    Funny how the interest in the Christian ethos seems to be absent when it comes to getting out of bed on Sunday morning to go to mass or other service.



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  • Registered Users Posts: 2,740 ✭✭✭Bobtheman


    MY God the tyranny of it all. Get real mate. Kids are being exposed to porn before 10. Parents installing TV in bedrooms. Kids watch a ton of bullshit on YouTube. Arrive in with no attention spans

    We don't have homes for kids who are being sexualy abused. So why don't you volunteer instead of this virtue signaling??

    Or give to a third world charity where kids can't get to a school.



  • Registered Users Posts: 28,939 ✭✭✭✭AndrewJRenko


    What’s all this got to do with indoctrination in schools?



  • Registered Users Posts: 34,648 ✭✭✭✭Hotblack Desiato


    Actually I live in a republic which is supposed to respect the human rights of all citizens, the education system does not do this.

    It is not normal in a developed country that 95% of taxpayer funded primary schools are controlled by churches.

    Fingal County Council are certainly not competent to be making decisions about the most important piece of infrastructure on the island. They need to stick to badly designed cycle lanes and deciding on whether Mrs Murphy can have her kitchen extension.



  • Registered Users Posts: 34,816 ✭✭✭✭o1s1n
    Master of the Universe


    Not wanting your children indoctrinated is not 'shielding' them from the world, it's not wanting them indoctrinated.



  • Moderators, Category Moderators, Arts Moderators, Sports Moderators Posts: 49,380 CMod ✭✭✭✭magicbastarder


    Seriously. At this stage you've had so many announcements that you're leaving it's beyond funny. You know breaking your word is a sin?



  • Registered Users Posts: 34,816 ✭✭✭✭o1s1n
    Master of the Universe


    You have whataboutery down to an art form in that post.



  • Moderators, Category Moderators, Arts Moderators, Sports Moderators Posts: 49,380 CMod ✭✭✭✭magicbastarder


    i've had a few drinks so i might struggle a bit to adequately explain my issue with this post. the 'our side won, so get used to it' attitude, for a start, rankles; it's an argument from strength (albeit massively reduced strength, thankfully), and arguments from strength rarely count except to people for whom strength is key, and we've another word for them. the reference to 'well, other parts of the world would impose the same on you' is an *exceptionally* weak defence, it's basically a argument to the lowest common denominator, a 'we're no worse than the rest' approach.

    you've offered nothing about why christianity should be taught as the dominant worldview bar from a 'well, we're already here' position; and this is the issue you very often come across when arguing with people who declare as christians. they assume that declaring their argument as being a 'christian' one is itself self-evidently good, because to them being christian is the default 'good' position. whereas for the rest of us, 'christian' just means 'followers of christ'. the word 'judaism', for example, isn't nearly as loaded with meaning as the word 'christianity' is, in the sense that judaism is used to describe a religion, but christianity is often used to describe virtue. but the meanings are often confused.

    anyway, long story short; if jesus was the son of god, why wasn't he able to offer some practical, useful advice for humanity? such as 'hey lads, after you have a ****, wash your hands, trust me, it's good advice'? christianity was basically reheated morals which were already knocking about, but crucially, wrapped up in a good story.



  • Moderators, Business & Finance Moderators Posts: 10,245 Mod ✭✭✭✭Jim2007


    To make is simple for you...

    I'm not religious. I'm just pointing out that expecting the country to change is entire perspective to accommodate you and then getting all upset when it doesn't is foolish.



  • Moderators, Business & Finance Moderators Posts: 10,245 Mod ✭✭✭✭Jim2007


    Shielding your children for the real world at a time when they should be learning about how to deal with it in a more forgiving environment is not helping you children. One way or other kids have to learn to living in their environment and doing so as kids and young adults is the time to do it.



  • Registered Users Posts: 28,346 ✭✭✭✭looksee


    I am struggling to understand the argument about 'shielding'. Are posters saying that religion is something that is problematic but children should not be shielded from it as they need to learn to cope with issues? Does this same argument extend to exposing children to other problematic situations, such as cruelty, violence, trauma etc in order to help them learn to deal with them?



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  • Registered Users Posts: 28,939 ✭✭✭✭AndrewJRenko


    It is absolutely possible to teach children ABOUT the world, about religion, without indoctrinating them IN religion. Indoctrination is a choice, not an inevitability.



  • Registered Users Posts: 19,383 ✭✭✭✭Donald Trump



    Schools that do not receive State funding do so by choice. (Or they might alternatively not receive it if they do not qualify in relation to standards etc).

    I'm not sure why your quoting of the Constitution is trying to say here. You may be misunderstanding it. That Article just says that the legislation which provides public funding cannot discriminate between different religions, or none. So you can set up an "atheist school" tomorrow and be subject to the exact same legislation and rules governing funding as the local Catholic or Protestant School.

    The Supreme Court has found that provision of funding to denominational schools does not amount to endowment of religion (Most people who try to "argue" some point about the Constitution for schools try to rely on 42.2.2). And the Article that you quote was used as a basis for that decision.



  • Registered Users Posts: 2,740 ✭✭✭Bobtheman


    That is being simplistic. It's just if people really think this is important they have their heads up there backsides in terms of what Irish children really need. If you think children having to colour during religion class is terrible you need to get your head from your arse.



  • Registered Users Posts: 28,939 ✭✭✭✭AndrewJRenko




  • Registered Users Posts: 2,740 ✭✭✭Bobtheman


    There are much more important issues for children today. Chronically bad parenting and the expectation that schools can fill in the gap being one.

    I doubt any of the above posters have ever done anything for kids. Anything beyond things that benefit their own kids.

    I doubt they ever got off their pub arses and even tackled a BOM on their small minded issues



  • Registered Users Posts: 504 ✭✭✭HazeDoll


    Fascinated by Bobtheman's contributions.

    I agree that bad parenting has resulted in schools being expected to fill all the gaps in children's non-academic education, and this is the biggest issue at both primary and secondary.

    However, I don't see why this means we should allow one faith (which has, like so many belief systems, a very VERY sketchy record with vulnerable groups) to pervade our education system.

    Are you saying we should deal with religion once everything else has been solved? Why not try to tackle more than one thing at once?

    Or are you saying that it's such a lost cause we should just leave it?

    You clearly feel very strongly about it, judging by the number of times you have stormed off only to come darting back again. I just don't get any of your logic.



  • Registered Users Posts: 2,066 ✭✭✭HerrKuehn



    This is pure whataboutery. You have no idea what any of the posters do. You have an awful attitude problem. It is fairly typical of teachers online as well I might add. It is almost as if you are talking to children rather than other adults. I think in your case it is coming from feeling threatened by people moving away from religion, especially seeing as you are a religion teacher in secondary school.



  • Registered Users Posts: 485 ✭✭guyfo


    You clearly have done your research and are looking at the whole baptism thing objectively, what you are doing by baptising the child is promising to brainwash them towards a certain ideology. It's literally what a baptism is.

    You are promising to not let your child make their own decisions, and you can guarantee that you will have to confirm your child to that religion before they are able to make the conscious decision themselves.

    What the hell is so wrong with letting a person grow up and make their own decisions... I don't understand why so many younger people in this day and age are so bloody backwards when it comes to religion.



  • Moderators, Category Moderators, Arts Moderators, Sports Moderators Posts: 49,380 CMod ✭✭✭✭magicbastarder


    You are promising to not let your child make their own decisions, and you can guarantee that you will have to confirm your child to that religion before they are able to make the conscious decision themselves.

    the thing is, most people don't do this; but that just exposes the futility of baptism, it's an empty gesture people are making for the sake of tradition, or family peace/politics.

    if i was catholic, i'd be a bit cheesed that people were using what should be the most significant religious event of their kids lives for not much more than a photo op, in many cases.



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  • Registered Users Posts: 28,939 ✭✭✭✭AndrewJRenko


    Interesting to see the weakness of your position exposed, as you play the man, not the ball, making personal attacks based on your assumptions, which miss the target widely, in my case at least.



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