What’s the Norm

Yes, a married couple splitting the bill is a bit eccentric.

We split the bill. But we both pay with our cards from the same joint account. But only my wife is earning, so it's only her money that goes into the joint account. But she works for me (I own the company, but I don't take a wage). But she also owns the company that's my company's only client. Which my company is the only supplier of.

We find it less complicated to just split the bill than figure out who should pay each time.

To each their own I suppose, if they're agreed on the arrangement. However in this situation it sounds like they aren't.

Why do you ask if the man should get it?

I guess many couples do split it in a fashion, but usually in the format of, you got dinner last time, this is on me. Or pay from a joint account they both pay into. Very odd to ask to split the bill between a couple at a table, even if they were planning on paying their own way, usually one would pay and one reimburse.

The notion of separate financial lives in a marriage is strange to me, whatever about each half having some of their own to spend after they've contributed to household costs, but to keep it 100% separate seems bonkers.

Why would you suggest "should the man pay?" unless you're in your 70s of course.

How do we know the wife isn't wreckless with money and the man is the one managing the finances?

Every relationship is different and what I think is fair is that the higher earner pays an extra percentage when splitting bills or covers the bill more frequently and that goes for the man or the woman.

Are they both oddballs? Marriage means sharing the lot 50/50, sounds insane what they are doing.

Wut?!

If you're both paying your half of the bill using your own joint account card, for the same joint account, why not put it all on one card. And why would you even pay your half on your card if the only money in the joint account is your wife's? In essence she pays twice then, she pays with her money on her card, and you pay with her money on your card.

Makey no sense to me. I'm sure I'm missing something here!

Anyways, whatever works for you both 😁

i think its nice for one person to pay the bill especially if one person earns more than the other, maybe sometimes its the woman, maybe sometimes its the man, i dont know how someone owns company and earns nothing, but sometimes people open a llc, because it reduces the tax bill on certain assets ,or it may take years before you have enough clients to make a profit.im in favour of equality,

I know a couple of people down the years for whom this would have been normal. Even if this exact story isn't true, such a thing does absolutely happen.

sounds tax efficient

(or inefficient, i dunno)

@Marymoore are you that boardsie person again??? the one with all the mate's issues (or your own lol)..

(apologies in advance if your not)

Don't worry you will get your payback when you are living mortgage free and the kids are driving you to a restaurant and picking up the bill 🙂