"Man Up" campaign by SafeIreland

iptba · 09-04-2022 2:54am

FWIW. Not 100% sure this would be considered domestic violence.

Woman assaulted her boyfriend and best friend after Snapchat messages exposed affair

https://kqeducationgroup.com/woman-assaulted-her-boyfriend-and-best-friend-after-snapchat-messages-exposed-affair/

iptba · 15-04-2022 7:30pm

https://www.independent.ie/opinion/comment/i-was-johnny-depps-biggest-fan-as-a-teenager-but-id-never-admit-that-now-41556439.html

No starry eyes

A teenage Harriet Williamson saw Johnny Depp as a gentle, misunderstood soul – a tortured artist, someone who wasn’t prepared to be a manufactured teen idol after early success. No longer a starry-eyed adolescent, she chooses to believe women who report experiences of abuse, like Amber Heard. (Premium)

I haven't followed this relationship closely but Amber seemed to no angel in what happened.

Probably not the best advert for "believing women".

iptba · 06-05-2022 2:27am

Extract from: https://www.independent.ie/news/glass-ceiling-broken-but-challenges-remain-a-female-led-solicitors-team-on-criminal-defence-volatile-clients-and-abuse-of-the-system-41616068.html

Domestic violence is one area the women take a particular interest in, but lawyers have concerns grounded in their collective experience that could be described as controversial.

They believe that a “small cohort” of women abuse barring orders and safety orders, which they describe as a “blunt instrument”.

“There has been a noticeable rise in domestic abuse cases in the country, especially since the pandemic, and there is a definite need for barring orders and protective and safety orders which we deal with from both sides – victim and defendant,” Ms Mimnagh says. “But they [orders] must be treated with respect by both the person obtaining the order and the person who is the subject of the order.

“Sometimes, in a minority of cases, we see how a woman may use the order she has in place to control the partner and the breakdown of a relationship. Some people abuse these orders just to get the partner out of the house.

“If the orders are not respected and dealt with in a responsible manner by the person who has the order, then the system becomes ineffective and unjust.

“Frivolous complaints can result in a defendant being unable to access employment – especially if it requires garda vetting.”

She also points out that while women are the victims in the “vast majority” of domestic abuse cases, there is also a “significant cohort of men” who are abused by their partners in heterosexual and same-sex relationships.

“There is coercive control and abuse to both genders, which sometimes is forgotten,” she adds.

They argue that when encountering allegations of domestic abuse, the current legislation and directives that are in place are removing discretion from the gardaí.

Ms Baxter says: “As the system currently stands, if there is an order in place and the gardaí are called, then regardless of the particular circumstances the garda must arrest and hold that person in custody.

“I know one case where a man had been in a relationship with a woman for about four months when they both realised it wasn’t working out and decided to go their separate ways.

“The woman obtained a safety order that allowed for her to continue living in the same house as long as the partner did not put her in fear. She called the gardaí on several occasions and each time he had to be arrested, and then brought to court.

“Twice he was held overnight, but the gardaí, who could see what was going on, did not have discretion in the matter. This man was working full-time and this was his own house.

“The issue was that the woman had no home and, probably in desperation, decided to abuse the process to get him out of his home.

“My concern is that if you have a small minority of people prepared to abuse the system, then it takes away from the real victims.

“The judges and gardaí see this but can’t do anything, even if it is a petty argument.”

Ms Mimnagh cites another case where a man in a family law case was so frustrated that he was not being listened to that he offered the judge €100 “just so he could have five uninterrupted minutes” to explain his case.

“He felt that there wasn’t enough time for him to be heard. He hadn’t seen his children for several months.

Regarding the phrase "real victim", is not the man in the case above a real victim.

iptba · 17-05-2022 1:51am

A man who died in an Irish domestic violence incident.

He doesn't sound like he was any angel but I wonder whether if the genders were reversed, whether a man would be walking out with no conviction of any sort.

"Woman found not guilty of murdering her husband after night out"

https://www.independent.ie/irish-news/courts/woman-found-not-guilty-of-murdering-her-husband-after-night-out-41655605.html

iptba · 19-05-2022 2:01am

At least 11,000 women with addiction problems endure domestic violence

Hard-hitting report reveals nearly 50,000 have lived with dependency and brutality

https://www.irishtimes.com/news/social-affairs/at-least-11-000-women-with-addiction-problems-endure-domestic-violence-1.4881095

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I have to wonder whether at least some of these 11,000 women with addiction problems are themselves abusive in some way towards their male partner.

iptba · 22-05-2022 11:55pm

My brother has returned to his abusive wife and I’m worn out

Subscriber only

Ask Roe: I thought that after years of heartache he was finally going to break free

about 18 hours ago

Roe McDermott

https://www.irishtimes.com/life-and-style/health-family/my-brother-has-returned-to-his-abusive-wife-and-i-m-worn-out-1.4874787

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You can help him research therapists, give him an alibi for his appointments if he needs one, and if he resists, make sure that he knows there is an open offer to help him get professional support should he decide to. You could also look at specialist resources such as SafeIreland.ie, which has information on all kinds of abuse as well as a comprehensive list of helplines across the country. Looking at resources like this will help you understand what your brother is going through, and also give you advice on how best to support him.

I'd prefer if the different website was listed

Can you imagine an Ireland where women and children are free from violence and abuse?

That is what Safe Ireland is aiming to achieve. Together, we can make Ireland the safest country in the world for women and children. We believe that by achieving this, Ireland will be safer for all its citizens. How are we going to do that?

https://www.safeireland.ie/

FishOnABike · 23-05-2022 12:06am

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119083552#Comment_119083552

At least some? I would say, based on available research, it is likely that in a significant percentage of those cases the voilence is mutual.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1854883/

iptba · 23-05-2022 2:27pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119100361#Comment_119100361

Yes indeed. My point was that I would guess that people with addiction problems are more likely to be abusive in some form.

FishOnABike · 23-05-2022 10:54pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119102552#Comment_119102552

Agreed a significant number of addicts would be in a relationship with another addict. Their whole environment could probably be described as totally chaotic.

iptba · 24-05-2022 1:21pm

>Agreed a significant number of addicts would be in a relationship with another addict. Their whole environment could probably be described as totally chaotic.

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Indeed. But even where the male partner wasn’t an addict, with one partner being an addict, it would be unusual if none of the addicts were abusive.

petronius · 24-05-2022 3:11pm

There seems to be so much misandry and hypocrisy, in the media and marketing industries.

Demonising male traits, then as in this case expecting them to, and condemning men for not displaying male traits. Despite thoughts of self-preservation, I have and would and feel most men would intervene if they saw a woman in trouble. I feel I should and we all should, also intervene if I see a man be threatened with violence but I don't think this is the case.

The comic actor Robert Webb, did a programme and wrote a book on his problems with the term "man up". I strongly disagree with it, but there are obligations to being a man, it may not be fair but it is what it is.

I don't hear the clamour or accusations of sexism that Ukraine allows women to leave and seek refuge abroad, but men over 18 have to stay and be available to fight!

iptba · 28-05-2022 12:29am

Trial halted after mother pleads guilty to murder and attempted murder of her infant sons

https://www.independent.ie/irish-news/courts/trial-halted-after-mother-pleads-guilty-to-murder-and-attempted-murder-of-her-infant-sons-41696417.html

She had also written a series of notes that morning, declaring: “I’m doing this to hurt the ones who have hurt me and the one who is continuing to hurt me.

“I’m taking my kids with me because I can’t leave them with their dad; he is a horrible person; doesn’t have any empathy; please understand I LOVE my kids; I REALLY don’t want to do this; I don’t want to do this but I feel I have no choice.”

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In relation to that issue, the jury heard background evidence from the boys’ father and the defendant’s ex-husband, as well as her two older teenage children, who all said she was violent and aggressive to her respective partners.

iptba · 28-06-2022 5:45pm

‘Zero tolerance’: Domestic violence sentences will double under new laws

https://www.independent.ie/irish-news/zero-tolerance-domestic-violence-sentences-will-double-under-new-laws-41796778.html

iptba · 18-07-2022 1:07am

https://twitter.com/IrishPharmacy/status/1542780359594631168?s=20&t=82hysELqgjibIcyZoXzXCg

Irish Pharmacy Union @IrishPharmacy

The Safe Pharmacy initiative, being launched today, enables people experiencing domestic abuse and coercive control to receive support in

their local pharmacy. The IPU is proud to partner with @SAFEIreland, @gardainfo and @HSELive #SafePharmacy #ThinkPharmacy

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SAFE Ireland doesn't support victims who are men so one wonders whether a man going in would be treated equally. What information is being distributed to the pharmacists?

One could easily do an experiment where men and women actors were given the same script and see what response they got. This will be much more scientific than much of the "gender research" in the social sciences.

iptba · 30-08-2022 5:36pm

Wife in Australia 'ran husband over, attacked mistress' after uncovering affair

https://www.stuff.co.nz/world/australia/300675046/wife-in-australia-ran-husband-over-attacked-mistress-after-uncovering-affair

iptba · 30-09-2022 12:27am

Half of people know of a domestic abuse sufferer and say victim-blaming culture is rife, study finds

Given that domestic violence is often mutual, with both partners involved, perhaps so-called "victim blaming" is actually justified in some cases. It's not the same as some crimes.

https://www.independent.ie/irish-news/news/half-of-people-know-of-a-domestic-abuse-sufferer-and-say-victim-blaming-culture-is-rife-study-finds-42025115.html

Ursula Murphy, a chief transformation officer with Allianz Insurance, conceded that Ireland had become more progressive and inclusive in recent years, but yet "we still see too many tragedies involving violence against women”.

"On February 6 next we’re asking everyone to join us, in standing strong to support those women, and to push for zero tolerance of domestic abuse in Ireland.”

No attempt to be gender neutral there.

iptba · 01-10-2022 1:21am

Ireland can lead in efforts to end scourge of violence against women across Europe

Helen McEntee

Helen McEntee is the Minister for Justice.

https://www.independent.ie/opinion/comment/ireland-can-lead-in-efforts-to-end-scourge-of-violence-against-women-across-europe-42027816.html

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The Dublin Declaration is heavily aligned with work already under way in Ireland through the zero-tolerance strategy I published in June. Among other measures, the declaration will:

:: Encourage initial and in-service training of all relevant professionals, including within the criminal justice system.

:: Promote the teaching, at all levels of education, issues such as equality between women and men, mutual respect, non-violent conflict resolution in interpersonal relationships, gender-based violence against women, and the right to personal integrity, including online.

:: Commit to increasing the provision of perpetrator programmes for domestic violence and for sexual violence.

:: Stress the importance of ensuring a systematic, long-term approach to awareness-raising on the various forms of violence against women, again including online.

No mention of male victims on a quick skim.

iptba · 03-11-2022 3:04am

Woman must pay former husband €1.6m as part of divorce settlement, judge rules

The judge equalised the former couple’s pensions, ordering the woman to contribute €470,000 to the man’s pension pot

https://www.irishtimes.com/crime-law/courts/2022/11/02/woman-must-pay-former-husband-16-million-as-part-of-divorce-settlement-judge-rules

The ruling was made by Mr Justice John Jordan, who granted the pair a decree of divorce. He rejected the woman’s claims that her former husband had assaulted, abused and threatened her.

The woman made serious allegations of misconduct against the man, which the court must examine. The judge said a spouse, and anyone involved in an intimate relationship, is “entitled to be treated with the complete respect by the other partner”.

In this case, the judge said, the woman’s allegations of assault, abuse and threats had not been made out, and the court was not satisfied to make orders in the proceedings

No credible or convincing evidence was produced to prove that the husband is or was violent or a person whom the woman feared. There was no independent evidence that supported the women’s allegations and the evidence produced by her was not persuasive, the judge said.

He said the man had accepted losing his temper on occasions and, while the man let himself down when that happened, the judge was satisfied the man was not violent.

iptba · 10-12-2022 3:33am

More than 90% of garda members have received specific training to deal with cases of coercive control.

https://www.rte.ie/news/ireland/2022/1209/1340922-gardai-abuse

I wonder who is providing a lot of the training? Previously a lot of feminists who are biased were involved in at least some of the training.

10-12-2022 6:50am

More than 90% of garda members have received specific training to deal with cases of coercive control.

So thats why you never see a garda on the street. They are all in class rooms.

iptba · 13-12-2022 6:14pm

Saw this popular tweet

So Rowling's only allowing female victims over the age of 16 into her refuge - what about teen sons who still live at home? Does she think they should be forced to stay with the abuser while their mum gets to escape?

https://twitter.com/rachelcdailey/status/1602293481057419264?s=46&t=KnXhJXkVlyfnjtmRpuJFxw

13-12-2022 6:27pm

I’d be inclined to always help someone in trouble but when scum bags are involved there’s a good chance you’ll end up with the damsel in distress and her fella turning on you 😂😂

iptba · 16-12-2022 4:12am

A safe haven in a time of crisis

How Airbnb is helping Safe Ireland to support women forced to leave their homes due to domestic violence

https://www.irishtimes.com/sponsored/2022/11/23/a-safe-haven-in-a-time-of-crisis

While it nice to see support for people affected by domestic violence, it’s disappointing when men are excluded as presumably is the case with the various aspects of this, past and present.

iptba · 19-12-2022 10:38pm

Women’s Aid ad for Virgin Media One documentary on domestic violence which sounds like it will be mostly or all on female victims:

https://twitter.com/womens_aid/status/1604919397457477632?s=46&t=bZMp_TJTT4IkQjRGLZBXPg

iptba · 31-01-2023 1:25am

https://www.independent.ie/irish-news/crime/violence-against-women-at-crisis-levels-as-one-woman-a-week-has-been-killed-so-far-in-2023-42318214.html

Ivanna Youtchak, NWC’s violence against women co-ordinator, said: “It’s also crucial that the Government takes an intersectional approach to DSGBV.

“We know for example that, after gender, disability is the single biggest risk factor for gender-based violence.

“Government must ensure all services are designed with disabled women in mind.

“They must also ensure minoritised groups, such as migrant women, Traveller women, and LGBTQ+ people – including trans women – do not face obstacles in accessing services.”

A much bigger group of victims are males. It is a disgraceful joke how male victims get such a poor service here (and elsewhere) and how bodies which are supposed to be about equality ignore such a large group.

iptba · 09-03-2023 3:32am

Domestic violence:

Woman admits to drowning grandmother because she couldn’t afford nursing home: ‘I feel like I put the dog down’

https://www.independent.ie/world-news/north-america/woman-admits-to-drowning-grandmother-because-she-couldnt-afford-nursing-home-i-feel-like-i-put-the-dog-down-42375062.html

From Facebook (written by a woman):

If a man did that he's a d**k but when a woman does it... oh jesus that poor woman at the end of her tether to do that god love her etc.

iptba · 24-03-2023 1:57pm

WOMAN (63) SMASHED EX-HUSBAND’S TRACTOR WITH GOLF CLUB OVER €200,000 DEBT

https://carlow-nationalist.ie/2023/03/23/woman-63-smashed-ex-husbands-tractor-with-golf-club-over-e200000-debt/

In evidence concerning the incident, the husband told the court that only a bar on the tractor door “is all that saved her from hitting me” during the August 10th, 2020 incident.

The man said that he had gone with his daughter to check on cattle on a field beside the family home which is near Gort.

He said: “Only for the bar that was there that you pull in the door with she had me got. That is all that stopped her.”

The man said from the golf club strikes to the tractor “I had blood on my hands and I had blood up here from glass coming on to on top of me and if the golf club had hit me it would have been a different case altogether”.

If a man didn’t this after a separation, even if he might have due cause to feel frustrated (say, with regard to his ex-partner getting in the way of having access to his children), I think likely he would get a more serious sentence.

iptba · 21-04-2023 1:39am

https://www.irishtimes.com/health/your-wellness/2023/04/19/for-as-long-as-l-have-remembered-my-mother-has-been-an-alcoholic

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‘My mother has been an alcoholic for as long as l can remember and is abusive towards my father’

iptba · 26-04-2023 2:28am

Sometimes, it’s a little too ridiculous for its own good.

Take, for instance, a scene in episode three when an enraged Kate sucker-punches her infuriating husband under a tree next to their house. I won’t spoil the set-up, but let’s just say it involves one partner asking the other for an honest, open communication — and it does not go well.

First comes the punch, then Kate wrestles Hal to the ground. Instead of intervening, a group of special security types watch as Kate knocks seven shades out of her spouse. Afterwards, a mud-and-twig-covered Kate meets with the US president William Rayburn (Michael McKean) about important international affairs. He then advises her to take a shower.

Does this show really treat a deplorable act of domestic violence as some goofy, throwaway punchline? It does.

https://www.independent.ie/entertainment/hey-netflix-that-domestic-violence-scene-in-the-diplomat-is-not-cool-at-all/42446445.html

iptba · 06-05-2023 1:24am

Domestic Violence: Women and children left in ‘life-threatening’ situations due to failures by courts, gardaí and Tusla

Report finds courts, gardaí and Tusla are failing women and children and leaving them exposed to danger at home

Women and children are being left in “life-threatening” situations because of a failure of the courts, gardaí and Tusla to collaborate on domestic violence cases, a joint Department of Justice and National Women’s Council report has found

https://www.irishtimes.com/crime-law/2023/05/03/domestic-violence-victims-made-feel-stupid-and-guilty-by-justice-system

So a Department of Justice report that ignored male victims.

iptba · 09-06-2023 10:03pm

A 48-year-old woman who injured her partner after discharging a shotgun when she discovered he was having an affair has been given a two-year suspended jail sentence.

Andrea Booth, of Nurney Bog Road, Nurney, Co Kildare, pleaded guilty at Naas Circuit Criminal Court to a charge of recklessly discharging a firearm at the home she shared with her partner, Patrick Healy, on 7 October 2020, contrary to Section 8 of the Firearms and Offensive Weapons Act 1990.

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The court heard that Mr Healy heard his partner hitting his car and later hitting the wall of a bedroom with his legally held shotgun.

Gda Young said the gun was discharged during the incident and Mr Healy suffered wounds from two shotgun pellets which struck his arm.

https://www.rte.ie/news/courts/2023/0609/1388342-andrea-booth-shotgun-court

I'm left wondering whether if the genders were reversed, a tougher punishment might have been given.

iptba · 10-06-2023 8:57pm

When looking at some discussions at the last case, someone flagged this case:

‘I’ve stabbed you now, good enough’ – woman (38) spared jail for calling to ex-boyfriend’s home while drunk and knifing him

https://www.independent.ie/irish-news/courts/ive-stabbed-you-now-good-enough-woman-38-spared-jail-for-calling-to-ex-boyfriends-home-while-drunk-and-knifing-him/41631487.html

"A woman who called around to her ex-partner's apartment one morning and stabbed him in the torso has been given a suspended two-year sentence and ordered to pay him €2,000."

FishOnABike · 10-06-2023 9:29pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120696509#Comment_120696509

I'm left wondering how one 'accidentally' discharges a shotgun, twice, in such circumstances.

The law requires that "A shotgun shall be disassembled and each part shall be stored securely and separately when not in use. The trigger housing shall be secured against use with an appropriate trigger lock." and also "that when the relevant firearm is not in use, the ammunition for it must be stored in a locked receptacle that is separate from any firearm in which that ammunition is capable of being used."

An accident? Twice? Once is an accident. Twice is a decision. The mind boggles at the operation of our legal system at times.

iptba · 20-07-2023 7:13pm

Derek Byrne: People in same-sex relationships also suffer the blight of domestic violence

Many in the LGBT+ community are reluctant to talk about abusive behaviour

https://www.independent.ie/opinion/comment/derek-byrne-people-in-same-sex-relationships-also-suffer-the-blight-of-domestic-violence/a1715152463.html

Other Irish researchers have pointed to the difficulty in engaging lesbians in this form of research, partly because many women in female-to-female relationships don’t recognise what they are experiencing as domestic violence as there isn’t a man involved.

Another surprising characteristic of domestic violence in same-sex relationships is that it tends to be bi-directional: that is, both partners tend to be abusive towards each other. Problem drug and alcohol use are also a key factor, with alcohol being prevalent in female relationships and recreational drug use similarly in male relationships.

However, as far as calls to the Men’s Aid helpline are concerned, men in same-sex relationships appear to have gone back into their closets, if you’ll excuse the analogy. I have also witnessed a resistance from some groups within the LGBT+ community to discuss the issue of domestic violence as something that happens in same-sex relationships.

One eyed Jack · 21-07-2023 12:35am

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120876804#Comment_120876804

There will always be higher rates of unreported issues like domestic violence among minorities, because of the way they know their communities are perceived in society already and the social stigma which exists, and that’s why men like Derek who are looking to highlight and address the issues will find little research on the topic or victims willing to speak about their experiences - because they fear being ostracised from their communities, they fear not being taken seriously, and they fear that they are betraying their own communities if they make a complaint to the authorities.

There is also contributing to this the pervasive attitudes in society that people can’t get their heads around the idea that men could be victims of domestic violence and/or abuse, which feeds into the perception that men shouldn’t talk about it, which leads to the assumption for men that they can’t. Women experience the same feelings but there’s much greater acceptance of women being victims of domestic violence, coupled with the assumption that only men are capable of being violent.

iptba · 05-08-2023 7:56pm

Sex education to be compulsory in Irish schools

https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/ckrjvj3lnxlo

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Among the topics covered will be "consent, intimacy and mutual pleasure" and how to identify abusive or violent relationships.

That will include "a particular focus on violence against women and girls."

Blinked_Missed It · 06-08-2023 11:41am

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120876804#Comment_120876804

Funny how when its lesbians its apparently ok to say the domestic abuse is bidirectional. 2 or more violent abusive women. But when it comes to domestic violence in heterosexual relationships DV suddenly becomes "gender based" where only males are violent and only women are victims. Got to keep the millions in taxpayer funding coming in to the misandry political, academic and NGO industry.

iptba · 09-08-2023 2:02am

Fully paid domestic violence leave to start in autumn

https://www.rte.ie/news/2023/0808/1398633-domestic-violence

iptba · 23-10-2023 6:12pm

Man’s wife wouldn’t let him shower in case he was meeting someone after work, court hears

Family Law Court grants Protection Order to man as he fears for safety and mental health due to alleged abuse from ‘paranoid’ wife

https://www.irishtimes.com/crime-law/courts/2023/10/20/mans-wife-wouldnt-let-him-shower-in-case-he-was-meeting-someone-after-work-court-hears

iptba · 30-10-2023 3:37am

Daughter of Jason Corbett to release balloons marking End Domestic Violence month

https://www.irishexaminer.com/news/arid-41258218.html

iptba · 08-11-2023 2:56am

Judge deploys new stalking law in case against Co Clare woman

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A judge has deployed a new law aimed at dealing with alleged stalking by ordering a Co Clare woman not to go within 500 metres of her ex-husband’s home.

At Ennis District Court, Judge Alec Gabbett made the restraining order on the woman under new legislation that only came into force last week.

Making the application on behalf of the man, solicitor Mairead Doyle said her client’s ex-wife “is constantly watching him”.

https://www.irishexaminer.com/news/courtandcrime/arid-41264113.html

iptba · 21-11-2023 1:59am

Looks like there is now and will be likely in the future a further imbalance in what's available for families where the domestic abuse victim is female rather than male

How Meath refuge centre helps repair lives of children after domestic abuse: ‘We came with just the clothes on our backs’

Study calls for more child support workers

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The “Where I’m At” programme funded by RTÉ’s Toy Show Appeal helped 80 children in 2022.

https://www.independent.ie/irish-news/how-meath-refuge-centre-helps-repair-lives-of-children-after-domestic-abuse-we-came-with-just-the-clothes-on-our-backs/a1768371994.html

iptba · 21-11-2023 2:20am

Just saw a TV ad for Women’s Aid sponsored by Allianz during the Late, Late Show. Such ads aren’t cheap. My guess is they don’t support charities supporting male victims much if at all.

Such an imbalance can enshrine the view that domestic violence is almost solely something done by men to women.

iptba · 28-11-2023 4:09am

New domestic violence leave entitlements begin

Updated / Monday, 27 Nov 2023 21:46

https://www.rte.ie/news/business/2023/1127/1418599-domestic-violence-leave/

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Last week, a new online support hub was launched for employers ahead of the introduction of statutory domestic violence leave.

The website www.DVatWork.ie provides free resources to support employers to implement the new leave entitlements including a policy template with guidance notes, information sessions and an email support service.

It has been developed by Women's Aid and funded by the Department of Children, Equality, Disability, Integration and Youth.

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https://www.rte.ie/news/ireland/2023/1124/1418274-business-hub/

A new website www.DVatWork.ie provides free resources to support employers to implement the new leave entitlements.

It has been developed by Women's Aid and funded by the Department of Children, Equality, Disability, Integration and Youth.

The online support hub includes a policy template with guidance notes, information sessions and an email support service.

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I haven't looked into it indepth but I have a concern about Women's Aid leading such a service. For example, if an employer discusses a case where the male seems to be the victim and the female the perpetrator, could they Women's Aid contact encourage a re-evaluation of the situation?

iptba · 26-12-2023 4:28am

Perhaps not a classic example of domestic violence but losing access to property they part own is probably not uncommon for men when they separate

Seeking domestic violence order against wife not ‘a convenient way’ of getting back into family home, says judge

Man tells court landlord is selling property he rents and he wants to move back into the family home

https://www.irishtimes.com/crime-law/courts/2023/12/23/seeking-domestic-violence-order-against-wife-not-a-convenient-way-of-getting-back-into-family-home-says-judge/

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The man said his wife is living in the home with some of her family and they told him he wasn’t allowed in the house.

He said he went to the home in recent days to move over his stuff and his wife was “abusing” him, and said ‘go f****** live with your mother’.

The man said his wife’s sister also pushed him out of the property.

Judge Furlong told the man he should go to the gardaí regarding the woman’s sister and the court couldn’t grant an order against her as he had not been living with her.

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iptba · 04-04-2024 12:37am

Minister McEntee launches 2024 implementation plan for Zero Tolerance Strategy

From Department of Justice

Published on 1 April 2024

Last updated on 2 April 2024

Priority areas include refuge accommodation, with eight new family refuge units to be delivered this year, a further 25 family refuge units to be under construction by the end of the year, and a strategic plan on safe accommodation for people experiencing domestic violence to be developed, which will include the delivery of more safe homes throughout the year.
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Anyone know if men will be able to use these family refuge facilities?I don’t follow this area closely. Cuan seems to be a new entity set up by the State so it would not be good if men were excluded.

With regard to zero tolerance, I get the impression many think about this with male perpetrators in mind. Some people can be quite inclined to not have a zero tolerance approach when there is a female perpetrator.

https://www.gov.ie/en/press-release/11157-minister-mcentee-launches-2024-implementation-plan-for-zero-tolerance-strategy/

iptba · 04-05-2024 11:59pm

‘She moved into a flat near me and sent out engagement invitations’: True stories of Irish male stalking victims (April 27, 2024)

The popular new Netflix series Baby Reindeer highlights the extreme obsession of a stalker. Here, men who have struggled with this harrowing experience share their stories

https://www.independent.ie/irish-news/she-moved-into-a-flat-near-me-and-sent-out-engagement-invitations-true-stories-of-irish-male-stalking-victims/a985374030.html

At that point, Rice called local gardaí. “They gave her a caution, if you like,” he says.

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Rice then went to the local garda station again. “There was nothing they could do,” Rice recalls. “One guard said, ‘you must be getting something out of this. You must be enjoying this on some level’.”

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Rice eventually went to the US for a couple of months, and later to the UK, and in 2018 Tantash was sentenced to four years in prison at Lewes Crown Court after the sustained and “vicious” harassment campaign levelled at Rice.

“Nobody takes men [in this situation] seriously,” Ciaran adds. “Every single male friend of mine assumed that I’d slept with her. When I said I hadn’t, their next question was, ‘is she good looking?’” In November, the Criminal Justice (Miscellaneous Provisions) Act 2023,
which has introduced a new offence of stalking with a maximum sentence of up to 10 years, came into effect. The scope of the existing harassment offence has been widened to include any conduct that seriously interferes with a person’s peace and privacy, or causes alarm, distress or harm.

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Asked if there’s a commonality within the experiences of male victims of stalking in particular, Staunton adds: “There’s a victim shaming attitude and behaviour that we need to knock on the head, and I suspect that far fewer males will report it for that reason. They may not recognise the early indicators as being problematic.”

iptba · 09-05-2024 12:31am

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122098816#Comment_122098816

Over 22 million people have watched the Netflix series Baby Reindeer which follows the real-life story of Richard Gadd, who was stalked and sexually assaulted by a female customer in a pub where he had worked.

For Dubliner Jarlath Rice, watching the show brought back memories of his own harrowing experience.

It was Easter 2007 and Jarlath had an innocent cup of coffee with a stranger that he bumped into at a cafe in Dublin’s Ranelagh.

As a date, it was fine, and they met up a couple of times after that. But Rice just had a gut feeling that they weren't a romantic match, and he made the mistake of feeling sorry for her.

What followed was ten years of hell as Jarlath, his family, friends and work colleagues all became victims of his female stalker.

Today on The Indo Daily, Ellen Coyne is joined by Jarlath Rice who tells his unbelievable story of being harassed by an extreme stalker and the toll that it took on his life. We'll also hear from Dr Ciara Staunton, a forensic psychologist and academic operations manager at University College Cork, who outlines some of the red flags to watch out for if you meet someone new. She also tells us what you should do if you find yourself the victim of a stalker.

https://www.independent.ie/podcasts/the-indo-daily/the-indo-daily-20000-texts-and-physical-assault-a-male-irish-stalking-victims-living-nightmare/a1289442231.html

iptba · 11-06-2024 12:45am

Woman pleads guilty to manslaughter of former lover in Co Wicklow

Previous trial of Nicola Brennan for the murder of Juris Viktorovs at their home in Ballyconnell ended in jury disagreement

https://www.irishtimes.com/crime-law/courts/2024/06/10/woman-pleads-guilty-to-manslaughter-of-former-lover-in-co-wicklow

iptba · 08-07-2024 10:47pm

‘I had gut feeling she was going to murder Dad’ – Daughters reveal killer’s domestic abuse

The sisters witnessed her rage and jealousy during the six-month relationship with their dad

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“The 54-year-old former scaffolder and odd-job man told neighbours Maksymowicz was burning him with a lighter in his sleep, and the sisters saw scratches on his body. She also stabbed him in the leg the night before she killed him as he slept and had previously threatened to glass him with a broken bottle, as well as punching, elbowing and stamping on him in front of witnesses.

The sisters are now campaigning to highlight the domestic abuse of men and plan to run a half-marathon in September to raise money for Men’s Alliance NI. They have both been diagnosed with PTSD following their dad’s death.”

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”They became concerned about Tony being physically abused on Father’s Day 2022, just weeks after the relationship had started, when he tried on a T-shirt they had bought him.

“He took off his top and there were scrabs on his chest and arm. She said the dogs had scrabbed him, but his dogs didn’t jump up on you. Dad just said it was the dogs,” says Shannon.”

https://m.sundayworld.com/crime/irish-crime/i-had-gut-feeling-she-was-going-to-murder-dad-daughters-reveal-killers-domestic-abuse/a645172107.html

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