Buying Alcohol for 17yo Daughter.

Not a chance my parents would have bought me booze for a party under the age of 18.

If you're OK with her having a drink then get her a naggin, if you buy her a bottle you're also buying drink for a few of her friends whose parents might not appreciate that.

They seem to start on spirits now no cans or flagons of cider which is a pity for their livers

its a lot of drink for a 17 year old girl to polish off herself

An odd can of beer is one thing. A 750ml bottle of Bacardi is quite another.... especially when it's for a young girl.

And all the other will be bringing drink, and sharing theirs as well.

It's the OP's choice what he chooses to do. It's his daughter after all.

No way I would have let either of my daughters be taking whole bottles of spirits to parties at that age. Like posters before have said, a bottle or two of diluted "breezers" would be the limit - that's if she insists on taking booze along.

OP needs to have a chat with her about the real dangers of hard alcohol such as Bacardi. After all, he has no idea what sort of crowd are going to be at this party.

Leaving aside the fact that she is underage, I would say an outright NO to a full bottle of Bacardi. She is really chancing her arm there IMO as I cannot imagine m(any) other parents agreeing to that.

Definitely a conversation needed to be had about drinking in general, this is a critical age for the relationship with alcohol to develop in a healthy or unhealthy way.

OP you need to take as much control of this situation as possible (again IMO). If you're going to get anything, get low ABV cans of mixed drinks. I think Bacardi might even have some. And for the love of God arrange a time to collect her.

ETA these for example: https://www.tesco.ie/groceries/en-IE/products/305966231 or White Claw which is what all the cool 20 somethings are drinking.

You're obviously thinking about doing it OP, so here's what I'd say:

"I don't want you drinking at this age. A few weeks ago you were only sixteen, you're too young to spend a night drinking. Still, I want you to have a good night. So here's what we can agree on. I'll buy you a Barcadi Breezer or two. But you need to give me your word now that this is all you'll drink apart from water or Coca-Cola.

I'll pick you up from the party at X o'clock. That's non-negotiable. I won't come in looking for you and I won't embarrass you but I will be outside the house at X o'clock and you need to be in the car by ten past X o'clock. If we can't agree on these then I'm afraid I can't let you go to the party."

OP, do you know the people whose house she's going to? Will there be adults there?

And I'm sorry to bring this up but you need to have a very serious talk with her about contraception and STDs before events overtake you.

Kids her age would be pissed after 3/4 cans of beer. if she measures the spirits wrong, she could be passed out drunk within an hour of getting there. You might trust your daughter, do you trust the other people at the party to take care of her if she passes out?

Or what if another kid decides to show off that he/she can hold their drink and ends up getting hammered on the bacardi you paid for and something happens to them. It would be partially your fault

I read recently that females under 30 are the highest sufferers of liver damage due to them being unable to process alcohol the same as males their age, also more likely to end up on a liver transplant list during their 30s due to alcohol abuse, young girls cannot drink the same as their male peers due to their inability to process alcohol the same way, absolute madness buying that much alcohol for a 17 year old imo, the time to educate them about responsible drinking is not when they're 17

It's still something that could easily could find itself its way into punch along with other donations of spirits. That has all the makings of trouble as that stuff can be more lethal because you have no idea what's in it.

Problem there is that while you might be ok and trust here to drink repsosibly, other parents might not. And I'd imagine your daughter going to share it with her friends and chances are one of them is going to have too much of it, get wasted, have their parents find out, resulting in said angry parents screaming at you for supplying alcohol to an underage party.

Deal here is I supply the drink, usually a couple of cans of orchard thieves and I collect her from where ever she's going. She also has to text me every do often to let me know she's ok

Fair play to you and your daughter for having the discussion. That's positive. And leaving aside the legal aspect of whether she's under 18.

That much rum is far too much. She'll either drink it all, drink some and leave the rest or share it with friends.

Is she under any social pressure to bring drink for her friends?

How much will she drink? (how much has she drunk the past?)

What happens if she shares it with a friend who gets ill or their parents get on to you for supplying the drink?

I'd agree with the other posters who suggested buying enough for her (4 or 6 pack of pre mixed baccardi drink). They're pre mixed and predictable not like home measures which can be any mixture. Its bad enough for experienced drinkers, too much responsibility for a young woman starting drinking. It's plenty for her to have a few drinks and if she shares a couple with a friend, she can't give them enough to make them sick and get you into trouble.

A full bottle of baccardi is for too much.

Poor parenting is not considering it

Weve let our young fella have a few beers at home with us since he was 16. A massive part of this was thinking back to when we where that age, the states we got into in fields and Forrests.

Its healthy to encourage a healthy relationship with alcohol early on.

The young fella is now 17 and has started going out to the pub occasionally, so far there has been no incidents. He comes home more or less on time (maybe 30 minutes late, which is to be expected when your talking shite after a few pints).

I think a bottle of Barcardi is far too much however. I'd pick her up 8 of the small premixed cans of Barcardi, make sure she knows she can call you at any time for whatever reason and you will come and pick her up with no questions asked ,(well until morning).

Are you that niave to think that she’s not going to get it else where?

don’t buy her a full bottle or if you do then get something with a far lower alcohol level.