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Pride Month

  • 14-06-2022 8:32am
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    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 149 ✭✭


    I don't think it speaks to its inclusive nature. Sometimes I feel if I say anything or pass comment on the fact that it is actually an exclusive month dedicated to a minority, I am deemed a bigot which I am not. Discuss....🤔



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,516 ✭✭✭✭briany


    Didn't even know it was Pride Month.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 16,814 ✭✭✭✭whisky_galore


    *Cue businesses scrambling to replace Ukrainian flags with rainbow flags*



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Trust me when I say this, but there are a lot of LGBT people out there - of which I am one - who are bored of Pride and find it total overkill.

    Pride was about the need to secure equality, and that we achieved. The vast, vast, vast majority of people support LGBT people.

    But what's happening is that equal treatment is being replaced with special treatment. Ordinary, decent people who otherwise support LGBT rights are now bombarded with a very forceful message that they must support it more than they already do. If I were straight, I'd be pretty damn annoyed that this is how things have regressed.

    Yes, some homophobes exist. But that will always be the case. Discrimination is not eradicable. Nor is racism or any other form of prejudice.

    But that doesn't mean we need to go overkill and blast our flags in people's faces.

    I think ordinary LGBT supporting people are getting a bit tired of this.

    The whole point about equality is that you fade into the normal, boring population. Everyone is just as equal and boring as everyone else. That's what equality means in reality. But what we're seeing with the LGBT movement is the exact opposite: an absolute amplification of the noise and almost the desire to feel more special than the rest of the population.

    I really think this needs to stop, or it will turn otherwise supporting people of the LGBT community against it.

    You cannot ever force someone to agree with a view or position, you must achieve it by consensus.



  • Moderators, Category Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 40,537 CMod ✭✭✭✭ancapailldorcha


    Discuss what? Your feelings?

    It's Pride month. I don't see what the issue is. In the UK, we just had to have a nauseating month of buildup to celebrating our unelected head of state, one of the wealthiest people in the world and mother of at least one child molester getting older.

    I've no problem with the idea of pride. Corporations appropriating it for marketing reasons, I'm not fond of but the actual concept itself I support. If you don't, it's easy enough to ignore.

    The foreigner residing among you must be treated as your native-born. Love them as yourself, for you were foreigners in Egypt. I am the LORD your God.

    Leviticus 19:34



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 41,363 ✭✭✭✭Boggles


    Never heard of it, but what have you been excluded from?

    I imagine it's parties, events and parades. Did someone say you can't go?



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 169 ✭✭Wezz


    Some people dedicate June to Pride, and some don't, its not a compulsory requirement that we all observe it. I've no issue with it as an event but as I am not part of the community it represents I don't get involved in it. Easy enough to avoid it all if its not your thing.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,239 ✭✭✭Pussyhands


    Doesn't bother me too much, I try avoid all that PR rubbish.

    I make sure to try and avoid the pride march or whatever it's called. I've seen too many lads in assless chaps and ballgags that I don't want the risk of seeing them again.

    From things you see online, seems it's a massive pulling event.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,913 ✭✭✭Danno


    Very well said. Some LGB people (not all) remind me of Vegans - how do you know if they're Vegan? They'll fcuking tell you. I don't really want to know the sexual orientation of anyone to be honest and find overt public displays of affection from any sexual orientation distasteful. Keep it for the bedroom folks! I would lean towards the don't ask don't tell ethos if it wasn't made out to be such a subversive way of stigmatising LGB people.

    Secondly, the sham that is corporates falling over themselves to have their logos and flags flying when on other regional channels of the same corporation there is no mention whatsoever. Globalists when it suits.

    Finally, LGBT awareness to primary school aged kids is not on. It should be the reserve of parents firstly and then some discussion in secondary level school.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,441 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack



    I can see why people think you’re a bigot.



    I really think this needs to stop, or it will turn otherwise supporting people of the LGBT community against it. 

    You cannot ever force someone to agree with a view or position, you must achieve it by consensus.


    Heh 😏



  • Moderators, Regional East Moderators Posts: 23,238 Mod ✭✭✭✭GLaDOS


    Other than seeing a bunch of rainbows everywhere it's pretty easy to not engage if you're not interested

    Cake, and grief counseling, will be available at the conclusion of the test



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,441 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack



    It's Pride month. I don't see what the issue is. In the UK, we just had to have a nauseating month of buildup to celebrating our unelected head of state, one of the wealthiest people in the world and mother of at least one child molester getting older.


    I’m only after copping you’re talking about the Queen, like, THE Queen, not… queens 😬

    I encourage corporates to get involved, there’s no question that the movement could do with the sponsorship, same as every other political movement.



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Actually this isn't quite true.

    Having attended many gay pride marches, and will do again in a couple of weeks, there is a certain percentage of participants who are dressed in a sexually provocative manner.

    I've never really understood why many people think this is just people walking in the street or is 100% family friendly. It isn't!



  • Moderators, Category Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 40,537 CMod ✭✭✭✭ancapailldorcha


    As a heterosexual, cisgendered white male I don't want to be opining about how the LGBT community or individuals should feel about things. I can imagine some of them see the likes of massive, tax dodging corporates using it as a marketing tool as being quite cynical. The tax many of them shirk could be used to fund solutions and services for LGBT people but instead get funneled into offshore tax havens. Not much pride in that IMO.

    To reiterate, just my opinion as a non-LGBT person.

    The foreigner residing among you must be treated as your native-born. Love them as yourself, for you were foreigners in Egypt. I am the LORD your God.

    Leviticus 19:34



  • Moderators, Regional East Moderators Posts: 23,238 Mod ✭✭✭✭GLaDOS


    Going to a parade is definitely engaging!


    That's a different issue, I can't really comment as I've never been to a pride parade.

    Cake, and grief counseling, will be available at the conclusion of the test



  • Moderators, Category Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 40,537 CMod ✭✭✭✭ancapailldorcha


    Went to Brighton pride once as I used to live there. Some nice vibes but loud, drinking and masses of people aren't my thing. Can see why people go mad for it though.

    The foreigner residing among you must be treated as your native-born. Love them as yourself, for you were foreigners in Egypt. I am the LORD your God.

    Leviticus 19:34



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 16,814 ✭✭✭✭whisky_galore


    Saw a parade on the continent, like a Dublin Paddy's Day with S&M gear.

    Kind degenerated into messy-ish drinking later on. Huge crowds which I avoided as I'm not really into massive crowds of any sort. No doubt drugs and cruising involved, whatever floats your boat.



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    one day where the traffic in town is utterly fcuked.

    otherwise easy to get by without it bothering me

    good luck to em, if they want a month on those terms they can have it and welcome

    the way parents park outside schools causes havoc twice a day, ten months of the year. lets start there.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 414 ✭✭dorothylives


    I've no problem with Pride, a month seems excessive though. For some reason it's been really low key this year, usually there's endless adverts jumping on the pride bandwagon for everything from bread to deodorant. I'd no idea it even was Pride month.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,441 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack



    I don’t think anyone needs nail their colours to the mast here ACD. It’s a pretty simple idea -

    Plenty of people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender are employed by corporates, and with increasing visibility comes increased sponsorship, which means increased visibility, and a reduction in the stigma that’s attached to being lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender.

    I have no doubt there are plenty of people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender who would share your opinions of corporate involvement and sponsorship too, they want to go back to a time when being lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender was greatly stigmatised because they got off on the idea that it was socially verboten, their communities were smaller and much more of a closed shop and they were suspicious of outsiders.

    The whole idea of Pride is celebrating not having to feel ashamed and hidden away from view of “civilised” society dominated by, well, heterosexual, cisgender white males 😬



  • Moderators, Category Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 40,537 CMod ✭✭✭✭ancapailldorcha


    "I have no doubt there are plenty of people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender who would share your opinions of corporate involvement and sponsorship too, they want to go back to a time when being lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender was greatly stigmatised because they got off on the idea that it was socially verboten, their communities were smaller and much more of a closed shop and they were suspicious of outsiders."

    This is a barefaced lie. I never said this.

    The foreigner residing among you must be treated as your native-born. Love them as yourself, for you were foreigners in Egypt. I am the LORD your God.

    Leviticus 19:34



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    No.

    Corporate sponsorship and all that is too easy if you're targeting Western countries.

    But they daren't do it where it matters - in the Middle East, for example, where their corporate logos are not festooned with rainbow flags.

    The hypocrisy stinks.

    This does nothing to advance LGBT rights; absolutely nothing.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 414 ✭✭dorothylives


    I totally agree with you, especially about equality supposedly leading to the differences disappearing. That doesn't seem to be the case with things anymore though, not just Pride. The emphasis seems to be on highlighting the differences, as long as people keep making an issue of the differences then there won't be equality. I don't really care about other people's sexual orientation, as long as it doesn't involve animals or kids I say live and let live when it comes to other consenting people's sexuality.

    In all honesty, I'd rather not have NGO's pushing stuff here, I don't care what colour a person's skin is, I don't care what their sexual orientation is, I don't care what their religion is. I'm just not interested. If people just get on with their lives and stop expecting us to highlight them being some how more special or worthy of celebrating and then complaining about being treated differently then maybe they would be treated the same. I think most people just ignore it all anyway. If people have the body to get away with assless chaps then have at it.😉



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    I've been to 11 Pride parades/events over the years, mostly on continental Europe rather than Ireland/UK. They're all engaging, although it's easy enough to see how the focus has shifted away from promoting homosexuality, and having fun/freedom, to being far more political in nature.

    Honestly, they were a lot of fun when I was in my 20s/early 30s.. but the in-your-face aspect of LGBTQ gets tiresome after a while. I got tired of the hyper aggressive attitudes, and while people seem to think that the LGBTQ community is all wonderful smiling people, there's always been a dark undercurrent to the community too, which comes out in some of the events and speeches.

    I've stopped going to the events. I don't think they're really representative of LGBTQ as it relates to normal people, and is more a place for the aggressive LGBTQ members or the "advocates/activists" of the various causes.

    Still.. I'd highly recommend going to some abroad. It's an experience worth having.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,441 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack



    What’s a lie? I said there are plenty of people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender who share your opinions of corporate sponsorship and involvement, and there are.

    The reasons THEY do, and the reasons I have been given, are not the same as the reasons you give, because many of them are employed by the same corporates from which they request sponsorship and want them to get involved in promoting the political movement.

    Corporates aren’t going to turn down that kind of advertising if it presents an opportunity for them to increase their brand awareness at the same time.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,441 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack



    It’s not hypocrisy, it’s knowing their market. Simple stuff. There’s nothing preventing you from going to those countries and campaigning for the people with whom you share an affinity, but that would mean you’d have to put up with people proclaiming that they don’t want to know, keep it to yourself, you don’t represent them, you’re going to turn people against them, etc, etc.

    And you wouldn’t want to be a hypocrite of course 😏



  • Moderators, Category Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 40,537 CMod ✭✭✭✭ancapailldorcha


    You presented a false dichotomy of either accepting corporate sponsorship and advertising or supporting gay people being stigmatised and then said I supported the latter. This is a lie unless you can back it up with an explicit quote where I said this.

    The foreigner residing among you must be treated as your native-born. Love them as yourself, for you were foreigners in Egypt. I am the LORD your God.

    Leviticus 19:34



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Am I more likely to purchase a Mercedes because I've seen them adorn their logo with Pride colours?

    Nope. Are you? It wouldn't even factor in my decision.

    Are they virtue signallers that have no actual moral interest in LGBT rights?

    Yes.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,441 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack



    I didn’t present any false dichotomy. You gave your reasons for your criticism of corporate sponsorship and involvement.

    I said I’m sure there are many people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender who share your opinions, and I gave their reasons, which are not the same as the reasons you gave about tax avoidance and how in your opinion it could be put to better use.

    It’s not a false dichotomy, it’s a false dilemma you’re presenting, as though corporates and people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender are entirely separate entities. They’re clearly not, and haven’t been for some time.



  • Moderators, Category Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 40,537 CMod ✭✭✭✭ancapailldorcha


    More lies. Let's just leave it there. There's no point in continuing.

    The foreigner residing among you must be treated as your native-born. Love them as yourself, for you were foreigners in Egypt. I am the LORD your God.

    Leviticus 19:34



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,441 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack



    You’re not any more likely to purchase a Mercedes because you’ve seen them adorn their logo with Pride colours, but Mercedes are appealing to the market of people who WOULD. Maybe you’ve heard of ‘the pink pound’?

    In 2019, LGBT adults globally held a combined buying power of approximately $3.7 trillion.

    https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pink_money


    It’s not something I’d base my decisions on, but it wouldn’t put me off buying a Mercedes, that’d be cutting my nose off to spite my face, they’re still top engineering.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,681 ✭✭✭Apiarist


    We are here to listen to you too. Please share why do you think that the Pride Month is exclusive to a minority? Obviously, it is more interesting to a minority, but if you want to get involved, you are not barred from it, right? As long as you do not derail other people's efforts, you are welcome to contribute to or to profit from the Pride Month.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,441 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack



    It’s not more lies. It was clear the first time I was talking about different people having different reasons for why they objected to corporate sponsorship and involvement, different reasons from your ideas about their employers accounting practices.

    You’re accusing me of lying based upon your own misrepresentation of my opinion. You should have left it at the point where you said -

    As a heterosexual, cisgendered white male I don't want to be opining about how the LGBT community or individuals should feel about things.


    I was giving you the courtesy of overlooking your stupid identity politics nonsense for the sake of the discussion.



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    I was giving you the courtesy of overlooking your stupid identity politics nonsense for the sake of the discussion.

    Whilst we may disagree on some things on this thread, this is where we share a conspicuous note of agreement.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,441 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack



    It’s true though. Some people just have some very odd ideas that people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender exist in some parallel universe, that they aren’t employed in corporate entities like ohh, I don’t know… Netflix, Sky, Mercedes… 😂

    And it’s because of their own efforts within their workplaces and employers, that increased visibility and corporate sponsorship and involvement in Pride comes about. It’s no different than corporate involvement in anything else, like sports - there’s football on tv all year round. That doesn’t mean it’s being shoved in anyone’s face any more than the idea that Pride is being shoved in anyone’s face. Everyone has an equal ability to avoid it if they want, same as I don’t care much for football or anything else I have no interest in.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,454 ✭✭✭NSAman


    Hmmm torn over this issue.

    Have many gay friends and colleagues. Our town has a Pride month event here in the States. Seems to be the most campy, pushy, loud mouthed individuals pushing the agenda. I don’t fly flags of any sort in our offices or outside. Yet, I want my colleagues to know that they are valued and part of “us”. So I let them make the decision. Fly flags or not, support the events or not.

    i was kinda shocked that they didn’t want to fly the flags and said no to sponsorships of events.

    looking at the events, drag shows, drag picnics, drag karaoke, family drag day, it was plain to see why.

    do ALL events have to be drag related. My colleagues are more heterosexual looking than I am…and that’s saying something 😀

    They didn’t like the fact they were basically being strong armed into sponsorship, they didn’t think the events showed “gayness” (their words) in a positive light.

    i ca understand their decision. Do I need a month to appreciate how important my colleagues are to us? Nope!



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 26,209 ✭✭✭✭Strumms


    It’s 14 days into pride month so … I wouldn’t have known it was that until I saw this thread…. No events in our local pubs, or restaurants, no flags, no social media hoopla…on anything I’m following at least.

    there is a gay couple around the corner who have an LGBT flag in their porch, but I think I’ve seen it there too before though .. so might or might not be for the festival or whatever it’s referred to as.

    i don’t see it as a ‘month dedicated’ to a minority… How can you ‘dedicate’ a big space of time in the ether to any one group of people ?

    I can say that Tuesday 14th of October is now dedicated to dwarfs… ? Actually maybe I can’t, 25th of October is national dwarf day.. actually, October is national dwarfism awareness month… I must put that in the diary.

    we’ll be running out of months 🥵



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Based on the video in his post, do you think young children - of any age, whether 2 or 5 or 8 - should be exposed to that kind of sexualised, provocative, semi-naked display during the Pride parade?

    My view is clear: I don't approve of it. But your position, up until now at least, seems rather more opaque.

    Whataboutery does not an answer make.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,177 ✭✭✭Fandymo


    Only in countries where it’ll make them money.



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    None of my close friends or family members are gay(unless they’re in the closet) and I’m straight. Personally I couldn’t give a ****. It seems to really irk the crowd who talk about everyone being easily offended these days. The irony.

    I also find the please think of the children comments hilarious. Most of them will take their young children every week to listen to a man in a frock(drag queen) talk about an eternity burning in hell unless you live in a certain way, stories of being nailed alive to cross then a ritual is performed and you engage in cannibalism by eating his flesh and drinking his blood but yeah a bit of male skin on show is just horror in comparison LOL.



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,189 ✭✭✭Brucie Bonus


    A gay friend of mine calls it 'straight gay pride' as he feels its being taken over.

    I think its important. However we might not think its needed or that its a bit much, we have to understand that its gives comfort to people who feel outside of society. It was only a few years back same sex couples got the same rights as everyone else. Still a way to go.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,441 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack



    I’ll bet you’d a clear view 😂

    I couldn’t care less eskimo tbh, that’s my opinion on it. Children are exposed to all sorts on a daily basis, and it’s up to the adults in their lives to contextualise it for them in a manner which they feel is appropriate for their children.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,998 ✭✭✭c.p.w.g.w


    The biggest issue I have with all these companies flying the pride flag here and the west...the same companies wouldn't dare do it in the middle East or China I'd imagine...so you neither fully support the LGBTQABC+ fully or your just virtue signalling



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 16,814 ✭✭✭✭whisky_galore




  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 23,246 ✭✭✭✭Dyr


    It's very strange behaviour alright, and speaks volumes



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Still a way to go?

    How much further? And what needs to be done?

    Genuine question. On this issue of sexuality, I think Ireland is very accepting and have laws in place for equality.

    There will always be idiots who do not accept others lifestyles but when you say there is still a way to go, what do you mean?



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,787 ✭✭✭mohawk


    That’s exactly it for me. The amount of companies who change their corporate logo so they appear inclusive, yet given power of multinationals won’t do the same in the very territories where support of gay/lesbian etc people is needed most. Large multinational Corporations have way too much power in modern society and they stick some colours into the logo and we are supposed to overlook the harm some of them do to society and/or the environment

    As for the pride festival itself I was at it once in San Francisco years ago. It was great fun but I definitely wouldn’t bring my kids to a pride parade now and that is 100% because of the nudity. I am straight though so I accept that I have no place in the discussion on what a pride parade should look like so pass no judgment on the nudity when it’s aimed at an adult audience.



  • Moderators, Category Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 40,537 CMod ✭✭✭✭ancapailldorcha


    This was what I was referring to earlier when I was talking about corporations being cynical. Full steam ahead for equality unless it offends clients.

    The foreigner residing among you must be treated as your native-born. Love them as yourself, for you were foreigners in Egypt. I am the LORD your God.

    Leviticus 19:34



  • Moderators, Category Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 40,537 CMod ✭✭✭✭ancapailldorcha


    The cardinal example is Disney all but removing John Boyega from their Star Wars marketing material for distribution in China. That's basically it in a nutshell.

    The foreigner residing among you must be treated as your native-born. Love them as yourself, for you were foreigners in Egypt. I am the LORD your God.

    Leviticus 19:34



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