Another dating thread

Sounds like he got what he was looking for and decided to end it afterwards and move on to the next conquest.

Sorry this must be a really shite experience for you.

Hi bubblepop. I wouldn't discount the bereavement here. That can take a serious toll on somebody and they couldn't handle the emotions of a new relationship as well.

In saying the above, I have lost interest after sex. I'm not sure why for the most part. I had found them attractive, fun and really enjoyed their company beforehand.

The third thing I can think of is the enjoyment of the chase. Once that's gone, they lose interest. Don't understand why as its not hard to have a ons. I've known a few people like this, generally do grand gesture dates, shower them with gifts early on and be overly "romantic ".

I know the above isn't advice really, so what ill go with is the feck it approach. Shite happens and you get on. Not great advice and you still feel hurt, but helped me in similar scenarios. They wanted to be around you a lot, so it isn't you.

This really is bad advice.

I don't believe the OP want to be mean and gain some sort of revenge (although it has in the past gone through my little brain.)

They are hurt and confused. Trying to make sense of why this happened (please correct me if I am wrong op).

I've also lost interest in people after sex and I would also be at a loss to explain why. What I certainly wouldn't do is callously dump the person the next morning over text, usually I would give it a bit of time to see if my interest returned - but it often doesn't.

With some people the thrill of the chase is almost addictive - I know I have been in circumstances before where I would be excited as I got closer to someone and then once the reality hit - maybe I had bigged them up too much in my mind and the reality couldn't possibly hit those heights. Again, dumping someone over text the morning after text is not an acceptable response to those feelings.

OP - I'm sorry that it happened to you, it's a disgusting way to treat someone and at least you know the character of the guy. Look at it another way, be thankful that he saved you getting further invested into a complete pr*ck.

Edit - After reading your update on the death situation actually being real OP (because admittedly I had suspected he was already planting his excuse to drop you) - I'd actually give this a bit of time because his head is probably all over the place. He could be in a terrible place right now mentally and not in a position to deal with you. I wouldn't be at all surprised if he reached out again in a few weeks. At that point it'll be up to you.

Well I agree fully with you. Being sneaky might just be the only way it works for him

Ah! I understand a bit more now. I'm mid 40s and get where you're going. I'd prefer quality over quantity myself (I'm not talking about looks necessarily, but connection).

Is a bit of your confusion/ annoyance is you feel a bit fool and should've known better? If so, you're not.