Bumped into ex, unsure next step

So you randomly bumped into an ex you hadn't seen or spoken to in 6 months, and he happened to be carrying an envelope with old receipts and a letter for you? That's a bit...strange

Sorry yes, i meant the notes written on the letters. That's a bit weird, and opens up a heap of other questions. Has he been carrying it every day walking up and down grafton st? Or is it something more sinister. 6 months has passed, you ghosted him, he seems a bit stalker-y, both of you are better off away from each other and moving on.

How long did you date him before the break up? I'm assuming not that long if you broke it off by text. I do think it is odd that he has all these receipts on him but if he was going with you a while I wouldn't consider it that bad. I'd agree with your sister on that, he leaving a message of how he felt about it. It would not be my way any way but to each there own.

It's clear he really really liked you. However It seems to me that you were not all that into him if you hadn't been that aware of his absence until a chance meeting.

I think your sister is right. If you are in a better head space now, then best not unsettle that and keep going with your progress.

Not to be negative but it's important to say that it sounds like you hurt this chap a bit. A call in my opinion was much more appropriate in the circumstances.

So do you think him having these in his pocket and bumping into here were completely coincidental?

I'm not saying he's a stalker, but the chances of the above happening are very very small unless premeditated.

did he want payment for the receipts? 😂

odd things to carry around considering it was a random encounter

I wonder is there a space somewhere between stalker and Dawson's Creek?

'I'm going to keep these in a sealed envelope my pocket in the off chance that I bump into her as I know she takes this route regularly'.

6 months later the above actually happens.

It sounded from the OP as if it was more than just a few loose receipts though, it was a small sealed envelope with receipts which had things written on them.

Why seal an envelope unless you're planning to give it to someone?

I dunno, maybe I'm reading into a bit too much, I'd find it a bit strange myself though if an ex of mine from 6 months ago handed me a sealed envelope full of receipts from our dates with things written on them.

The OPs ex read the Art of Seduction or some such waffle and planned this meeting.

Nothing wrong with a premeditated closure, if it was so. He had a full right to do it. I find this way quite interesting. It would give me a peace of mind and some self esteem back, if I was a dumped person. But that's it.

I wouldn't hold my breath counting for a great relationship after you finished it so bluntly. I don't think he would be able to trust you again. And if I were you, I wouldn't be able to trust him as well. If he was able to plan giving you this envelope, you don't know, if he didn't plan more hurtful breakup for you later on. With such starting point - with no trust from both sides - I would keep away from him. Especially that you didn't care much about him 6 months ago. He was not good enough for you in your bad days, so I don't think he will be good enough for you in your good days. I would save myself next bad breakup. Or at least be aware that making it work will require a lot of work from both sides. So only you know, if it is worth pursuing.

BTW, if it was a woman carrying it around, I wouldn't be surprised. Being a woman, I know, how many unnecessary things I have in my bag...

The receipt thing albeit a bit odd he never made contact in those months and I assume he had your number. For him this might have been some form of closure, he wants to make one more attempt as he felt the ending was on poor terms. On a personal level I dont hold people who end a relationship after 3+ months with a text in high esteem (not you OP but people who have done it), a coffee or a talk on the phone suffices. If its a few weeks or a couple of dates Im fine with it. The romance of the movies carries around with it this notion that everything is all lovely and fun and that things like that chap with the receipts would capture your heart and you sail into the sunset. As you say though you were in a bad place and now are doing well..I can only assume the chap knows that and is happy in that regards. Summing up, the chap could have reached out in those months but never did, that to me seems perfectly ordinary behaviour.

Ah ok I wasnt aware that he had reached out, well look at the time you were not in the head space, looking after yourself is important. I wonder how you can be sure he is different though after a short space of time? Id have to stand at the sidelines for a while myself. Anyways hope you find whatever you are seeking :)

my very nosey side would be interested to know what happens btw!

Carrying a sealed envelope with all those things in it on the off chance he meets you or follows you to accidentally meet, sounds like a lunatic of a man.

Just the premeditated thought of it all doesn't sit well with me. Maybe he is a lunatic and maybe there was a full moon that day

He sound like a keeper!