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Attitudes towards defilement of girls under 16 years of age in Britain.

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 29,390 ✭✭✭✭AndrewJRenko


    At what age is it ok for girls to wear leggings? Is it okay with you if they wear leggings for sports?



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 29,390 ✭✭✭✭AndrewJRenko


    Which is why frank sex education is important, from later primary school onwards.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,122 ✭✭✭Idle Passerby


    Do people actually consider leggings to be sexy attire on anyone? They are one of the most unflattering pieces of slob/leisure wear invented in my opinion. I'd assume the parents of children wearing leggings are thinking their kids are comfortable and nothing more, but what do I know as a heterosexual woman?

    If they dress their kids in kitten heels and boob tubes that's a different matter entirely

    And the guy asking why teenage girls would want to have sex given their first time might be painful. It's not painful for everyone and the universe is repeatedly telling them, and all of us, that sex is the best thing since sliced bread, of course that makes them want to give it a go.

    And do you really think teenage girls would be afraid of some gynecological pain and blood? Have you heard of the menstrual cycle at all?

    Post edited by Idle Passerby on


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,342 ✭✭✭CPTM


    I don't have a better alternative but I would question whether sex education in school does much to enlighten that particular subset of teenagers who would slag someone else for being "frigid".



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 29,390 ✭✭✭✭AndrewJRenko


    I'm a bit surprised that you feel the need to have another poster defend your position. It's a genuine question, as to what extent you were being sarcastic. Are you suggesting that, for example, ten year old girls who wear leggings are somehow partially responsible for being assaulted or sexualised?

    Well, it's not the point I was making, but yes, anyone should be allowed walk around naked without fear of being sexualised or assaulted. I'd have thought that someone walking around naked is a pretty good indication that someone is in urgent need of assistance, possibly because of a serious mental health situation, like Dara Quigley, or possibly because they've already been attacked or assaulted. It's hard to think of other scenarios involving people walking around naked, other than perhaps taking a wrong turn off a naturist area. But the answer is of course - YES - they should be able to walk around naked without fear of being sexualised or assaulted. Do you think it is somehow reasonable or understandable that someone walking around naked gets sexualised or assaulted?

    Back to the clothed scenario, you really seem to be contradicting yourself, in putting responsibility onto the victim for mitigating the risk of assault, by (apparently, in this discussion), not wearing leggings. Are you suggesting that by wearing leggings or any particular clothing, some girls or women are responsible for creating a risk of being assaulted, or, as the tabloids would say, they were 'asking for it'? 



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 29,390 ✭✭✭✭AndrewJRenko


    The value of education is to prepare potential victims of ‘slagging’ like this to be better prepared to deal with it.



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Well in this scenario, I think that the poster who brought up the yoga pants scenario was talking about children wearing clothing that are designed to draw the attention to certain parts of the body. I have seen some clothing on children which are wholly unsuitable and understand the point he was trying to make albeit in a clumsy and coarse way that could easily be purposefully misinterpreted as something more sinister.

    I don't for one minute think that he was talking purely about leggings and that no kids should wear them or that he was "checking out kids".

    And no I made no suggestion that by wearing leggings or particular clothing, people are "asking for it". The fault lies on the attacker 100%.

    But parents do have a responsibility to look after their children's safety as best they can, and sexualised clothes or clothes that purposefully draw attention to certain areas of the body can make children more vulnerable.

    Hardly controversial.



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    I'm a bit surprised that you feel the need to have another poster defend your position. It's a genuine question, as to what extent you were being sarcastic. Are you suggesting that, for example, ten year old girls who wear leggings are somehow partially responsible for being assaulted or sexualised?

    Of course not. The ten year old scenario has been seized on here because it's so extreme... but what about a fairly developed 14 year old, wearing a sheer top, and hot pants? I've known young girls who could easily pass for being 3-4 years older than they actually are, especially when fashion, makeup, and all the accessories available to change appearance are taken into account. The sexualisation of young teens is risky.. and while you might want to ignore those risks in favour of believing the world to be a safe place.. I don't. I find it to be a irresponsible position.

    Also, the position on personal responsibility is not as black/white as you want to make it out to be. It's not saying that the victim is responsible for what happened to them.. it's simply about applying common sense, taking reasonable precautions, being aware of the world we live in. I realise that you cannot accept that, and will need to twist statements in objection.

    As for needing another poster to defend my position, I don't. The problem with engaging with you is that you never stick to what a posters actual position is. Instead, you interject points of view, assigning them to that poster, and then, seek to argue with yourself, all the while assuming some high moral position. I've attempted having balanced discussions with you previously, and each time it's fallen apart due to the above.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,844 ✭✭✭RobbieTheRobber



    Actually its very controversial. Can you link me to a study that indicates that certain clothing styles increase the risk of sexual abuse?

    Its hardly controversial so this should be easy for you.

    Or maybe this is just mysogonistic cow dung.



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    There are a wide range of studies that show the effect of fashion styles, such as high heels (changing the shape/alignment of the leg), short skirts, push up bra's, lipstick, perfume, etc.. all pointing to the physical, and socially conditioned (advertising, movies, music videos, etc) responses that many males feel on seeing them. They're designed/intended to elicit a response from males on a physical level.

    Such clothing "styles" increase the attention that a female receives.. and then, there are the cultural perspectives about particular types of clothing, such as corsets, tight hotpants (ass cheeks showing), etc which have associated meanings within that culture, linked directly with stereotypical sexual meanings. A young woman wearing an Asian type school uniform has an established sexual association.. and that's relevant.

    All of which increases the attention that a female receives... You can say that someone is dressing for themselves, but you can't control what others think when they see you dressed that way. That's obvious enough. However, you can appreciate that many forms of fashion, especially those specific to adults or linked to sexualised aspects of society, would provide an increased chance of another person forming less than welcome thoughts/feelings/etc. That's particularly relevant when it come to minors wearing clothes originally intended for adults.. due to the associations involved. In many cases, modern fashion has taken clothing/styles which were traditionally displayed in private or within closed/controlled environments, and pushed them into the general public. There's a risk involved in doing that.

    That's the point regarding what people wear. It's not misogynistic to point to the realities involved.



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  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    The leggings that were being referred to, going by the description, are these: https://pin.it/4PM8vXG - NOBODY said anything against standard kids' leggings, sporty ones etc (as we all know).

    NOBODY said anything about clothing that's too grown-up on ten-year-olds being a reason for sexual assault, or that the wearer would be somewhat responsible if - god forbid - they were sexually assaulted. Again, as we all know. This is just a warped reach by the poster AndrewJRenko to make out those who are more conservative as being pervy (not that it's even a particularly conservative stance). This is not my first account. I was registered here until 2020 and I know how that poster operates. And on another thread recently, they thanked an obvious windup post stating that the sex abuse rings in England were disproven. This is how much they actually care for those victims - it being pointed out that those groups were run by an ethnic minority (a mere observation) concerns them more than the actual abuse ring. Now THAT'S misogyny. Not intentional, but one example of how leftwing men who claim to be feminist can throw women under the bus because they're so blinded by ideology. It is depressing and grim that numbskulls will blame all Pakistani folk (something we Irish know a thing or two about when it comes to England) but does that mean the truth should be covered up?

    But back to this thread: nobody thinks someone who walks around naked should be sexually assaulted. Again, a thing just brought up by AJR - putting words in people's mouths - to twist what those he disapproves of are saying. Who the hell any bit sensible would resort to that reach?

    I'm a left leaning female feminist, and I despair at the normalisation of sexiness among young girls - and boys. Sending genital pics from smartphones is the norm among some 12 to 14-year-olds now. Anyone who cares about girls and young women would care. They're too young, there's no rush. And with regard to teen sex, no, blood isn't the worry - soreness is, and it is sore if you don't want to do it/are extremely nervous.

    I do agree on the sex education part.



  • Registered Users Posts: 4,177 ✭✭✭Fandymo


    None of the above has anything to do with the cultural reasons that so many young, white, working class girls were raped, sexually assaulted and had their lives ruined in Telford, Rochdale etc.



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Well... part of it does. The difference in culture regarding what women should wear. All you have to do is read the travel guidelines/warnings for female travellers to Islamic regions.. and why female travellers often get hassled for wearing revealing clothing abroad by males from certain cultures (like Algeria, Morocco, etc).

    A friend of mine from the UK is working in France and wears a headscarf because of the population of Muslims in the area. She doesn't dress as she would at home.. covering herself more, because to do otherwise attracts attention from Muslim males, and often aggressive/hostile attention at that.

    When foreign groups are told to retain their own cultural identities and not be made to assimilate, there is going to be "friction", with Telford, Rochdale, etc being good examples of that.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,844 ✭✭✭RobbieTheRobber


    There are a wide range of studies that show the effect of fashion styles, such as high heels (changing the shape/alignment of the leg), short skirts, push up bra's, lipstick, perfume, etc.. 

    Link just one such study then please. Just one?

    Because I cant wait to read this study about how men possibly just going about their business then seen a child in yoga pants and they became suddenly overcome with the urge to go a raping.

    Most child sexual abuse is by someone known to the victim and has **** all to do with clothing choice. Absolutely **** all.

    The same types of posters who were in the Aisling murphy thread arguing women aren't at risk are now in this thread arguing female children are at risk because of wearing yoga pants.


    #bad faith # common theme



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    No Robbie, I can't and I won't.

    It's absolutely not misogynistic to state that children in revealing or inappropriate clothing will increase the likelihood of attracting the attention of terrible people.

    The fact that you would need a "study" to accept an exceptionally obvious statement is typical, but still no less amazing.

    And you even try to class it as misogynistic?

    My goodness. You've outdone yourself



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,844 ✭✭✭RobbieTheRobber


    You cant find such a study because it is bunkum pure bunkum. If you could find such a study you would be here posting all about it trying to rub it in my face. 🤣


    What you are really doing is victim blaming. Those children will get abused because of clothing choice.





  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,844 ✭✭✭RobbieTheRobber


    At this stage I'll even take a daily mail link to back up your assertion kids in yoga pants are at higher risk of sexual abuse. 🤣



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    No Robbie.

    What I am doing, is giving my opinion that children should wear age appropriate clothing and that it is the parent's responsibility to ensure to the best of their ability that they do.

    I have also said that, multiple times, that the blame lies squarely and entirely, on the person who carries out an attack.

    I assure you, I have no desire to rub anything in your face. Ever.

    I have no interest in reading your link robbie. I don't need to google "should kids wear inappropriate clothing" to know that they shouldn't.



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Misogyny is not giving a **** about girls growing up too fast because it wouldn't look liberal to acknowledge this.



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Shifting goalposts already? That's quick even for you.. and I suspect you skimmed over what I said, rather than reading it.

    Previous research has demonstrated that the color red increases the attractiveness of women. It has also been found that makeup increases perceived women' attractiveness for men and was associated with perceived greater interest for the opposite sex [https://www.researchgate.net/publication/265880868_Does_Red_Lipstick_Really_Attract_Men_An_Evaluation_in_a_Bar]

    I could go through each of the items I referenced, finding studies showing the effects they have on males.. but let's face it, most of it is common knowledge already. It just doesn't fit within the position you've assumed.



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  • Registered Users Posts: 4,177 ✭✭✭Fandymo


    Nothing to do with western dress. They tried it on with Sikh teens first, but the Sikh community stood up to them. Sikh girls aren’t known for their revealing clothing.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 40,491 ✭✭✭✭Boggles


    Nope, the ones who rate children's 'attractiveness' by what they wear are the sick creepy ones.

    Go give your a head wobble.



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Lol.

    Really?

    Who is doing that exactly?

    It's almost as if you can't disagree with what I am saying, so you and your merry band of projection pals need to make up an argument.

    My opinion is that parents have a responsibility to ensure that their children are dressed appropriately for their age and that items of clothing which are solely intended to draw attention to certain parts of the body are, by design, going to attract attention to those body parts.

    And that is sick and creepy?

    Lol.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,844 ✭✭✭RobbieTheRobber


    That is not even close. Does attraction lead to sexual assault?

    I thought it was well accepted most sexual abuse is about power rather than sexually motivated. So not sure what the link to red lipstick and attraction is.

    Or are you implying men cant control impulses if they are attracted to someone they are more likely to sexually assault them and that this risk from attraction extends to children who might wear clothes their assailant finds attractive?


    No shifting of the goalposts here klaz still the same question unanswered. So maybe try again.

    Can you show me a single study than links clothing styles to increased risk of being sexually abused?



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 29,390 ✭✭✭✭AndrewJRenko


    Fascinating to see your conclusion that we absolutely can't control the reactions of males to certain items of clothing, so therefore we have to control the women or girls who wear those items of clothing. It is, literally, victim-blaming at its finest. Why don't we conclude that we can't tell women or girls what to wear, and therefore we have to control the reactions of males instead?

    I'm not sure you're on firm ground with your suggestion that leggings 'are designed to increase attention' from males. They're really designed for comfort and flexibility afaik.



  • Registered Users Posts: 6,412 ✭✭✭Jequ0n


    This isn’t about children/ teenagers getting dragged into cars and raped by strangers but about how they might be perceived by others.

    I didn’t see anyone excusing sexual assault, but it seems naive to discount the fact that certain outfits will gather specific attention and they might also make the person seem older than they actually are.




  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    There are bad people out there Andrew. I wish we lived in a world where nothing bad happened and people were free to do as they wished with no repercussions.

    But that will never happen so we mitigate as best we can to stop bad things happening to us. This happens in all walks of life and in all cultures.

    This is not unique to women. Men have a responsibility to look after themselves too.

    I like the use of males though. Why do you use male instead of men?

    Lol.



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Faux concern for women from leftwing men shocker.

    Young girls shouldn't be wearing clothing that's too advanced for them, because they're too young. Nobody whatsoever said they are responsible if assaulted, but it does draw creepy attention - as we all know, and only those arguing for the sake of it will say otherwise. When my nana told me to put something over my top as she didn't want "auld fellas" looking at me weirdly, she wasn't telling me I would be responsible for an assault... just that she didn't want weird looks making me uncomfortable.

    Give up the disingenuous nu misogyny (being OK with inappropriate clothing for young girls because it's "liberal"; using women and girls as currency to troll) - it's not fooling anyone with a brain.

    Liberals pretend women are empowered if they are prostitutes or do hard-core porn. They're no friend to women.



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Nobody rated anyone sexually. Kids that age don't choose their clothing. Why are you folks lying so much?

    Stop using girls for your bullsh1t. And stop downplaying the harm being done to them.



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  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Disgusting. You and the other two using girls to troll have no shame. Our mothers and grandmothers who told us to cover up - was that because they found us "sexy"? Warped.



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