How to approach this?

Finish it.

Op you say you're not into game playing, so just actually speak to him.

Ask him is he interested in anything more serious, and do it in person. A text conversation is not a real conversation, there's missed context and over-analysis.

You're a grown-up, have a grown-up conversation.

OP without conversation with him I can tell you that he is not into anything serious. He wants just casual rare contact with no strings attached. Sex is just a bonus for him. And he probably has other women lined up in that way.

You need to figure out what you want from life. If you want serious relationship, so don't do casual things. Have proper conversation BEFORE getting intimate, so any disappointment would happen at the lower cost to your self esteem.

You yourself see now how it works. If you didn't have some "fun", his way of texting you now wouldn't wreck your head. Just next time do what is good for you. You don't sound like a one night stand person, so don't behave like a one because you are only harming yourself.

Op, I have been in the same boat, try and cease contact now, I promise u it will only get worse. Unfortunately I got caught up with the same kind of guy for nearly 2 years and I feel like such a fool. I knew he didn't want to pursue things any further, I kept thinking there might be hope... I let him lead me on and I was the one who ended up with a knock to my confidence and regrets.

Still catch myself thinking about him and beating myself up, 7mnts later.

Go through, feel and accept those lonely **** feelings. I think he is only happily stringing u along. Like other have said if he wanted something more with u, u wouldn't be here in the first place.

Ignore his texts or just say ur not interested in hooking up anymore, u own him nothing, move on. Wish I did a lot earlier.

Have you ever shown any interest in him OP? You've said he has been flirty and contastantly texted you but nothing much your end. Did you ever flirt back, text first, ask him to meet? Your pattern of behaviour screams of someone who has no real interest and I am sure the guy isn't stupid and probably realises that.

Given the fact you'd never shown any real interest, and still don't, maybe he has just realised he needs to pull back because it isn't going anywhere?

At the risk of sounding like Yoda, there is no "try" here, you just talk to him.

"The past week or less it’s been much less enthusiastic his end- I’d say he initiated maybe one or two text conversations- one about how tired he was and the other about sex!"

He's a player. You are probably just one of several he has in this holding pattern, he keeps you interested enough with occasional texts and now is able to remind you that he would like sex when it suits him.

Not really great behaviour and not worth wasting time thinking about someone like that. A tired man that texts about sex -mmn no thanks!

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OP, I would say this could be a red flag. At that age he should be emotionally mature enough not to go cold after a long chase...and then mention sex again. It's a dick move.

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