Do women dislike quiet men?

Is that you Brid?

I dont think women dislike quiet people anymore than men do or dont. If you're talking about attraction there is still no difference so long as you're sound to talk to (being super shy and socially anxious is different).

However, if we're talking about potential dates etc, being quiet probably puts you at a disadvantage because you are less exposed to opportunities with meeting women etc.

It’s a cultural thing rather than a female thing. Being quiet in Ireland is commonly seen as a flaw and such people will frequently be perceived as weird or ignorant.

It’s not really about the quiet person though. Most Irish people are not comfortable with themselves and with their own thoughts. They prefer to be endlessly distracted and will talk any scutter to avoid the dreaded silence. A lot of Irish people cannot handle doing the most basic thing on their own, such as going to the cinema, a restaurant or a run. So when they see someone doing such a thing on their own then the insulting commentary frequently follows.

Can you break that post down a bit by point. I'm not sure I understand.

The beta part I kinda understand a bit. Are you talking about relationships between men or between opposite sex couples. Do you mean dominance?

Stoic I can be. But it's generally not from a tough guy place. It's more I don't want to worry people. I've learned to open up more with loved ones and it's made my life better (still quiet).

So just to be sure. In quiet do you mean non gregarious or not sharing feelings?

Yes, the jog thing is more that many people cannot do that on their own but the other examples are commonly not seen as a normal thing to do and people who do those things alone will be seen as weird.

When people meet and get on to discuss their children generally the first question will be ‘is your child outgoing’. In other words is your child quiet or are they socially acceptable. Introversion is unacceptable in Ireland.

There's a lot in that post! I agree with you for the most part.

Engaging sometimes in discussions aspect. I'm curious about that.

Because it makes them feel un comfortable or they have low self esteem in the 1st place and just cant deal with a quiet man.

Oh another Irish trait is talking sh1te to fill an awkward silence , sometimes silence is golden.

Personally I dislike loud mouths who look to be centre of attention all the time, drama queens or constant complainers.

Got ya. It was more the sometimes part. I thought you meant outside of boards.

Cool. I thought maybe nasty personal opinion discussions.

I like debates. Crap at them. If you disagree in discussions...guess what, that's fine. Some people don't get that.

Yeah there all sorts of people but culturally the behaviour of some sorts is acceptable and others unacceptable. That’s true of every country in the world. In Ireland quietness and introversion are widely seen as negative traits, there is no doubt about that.

I don't think women dislike quiet men, they're just unsure about them. Too many unknowns perhaps.

I work with a lad who's quiet, he's been on a dating app of late and getting on well. He progressed to exchanging voice notes through the app. One chick sent him one that was 25 minutes feckin long, when he responded with one about 30 seconds long, she ghosted him!

I know people who won't go for lunch or to a supermarket on their own lest others "look at them". That's an indication of their own insecurity.

Speak if you've something to say, rather than just to avoid silence. Empty vessels make the most noise.

Very insecure people who overanalyse every situation and conversation can appear weird at times, but that's different to being a quiet person.

Far from perfect. I just gave my opinion.

I think you may have read far too much into a joke than was intended tbh. “The Quiet Man” is a fairly common thing, not just something said by women referring to men who are introverted or anything else. Anyone who’s familiar with it, whether they’re men or women who uses it, are probably familiar with the joke which comes from the film -

The Quiet Man https://g.co/kgs/6dEC8Q

I’m not saying the movie itself is well known, anyone who actually does remember it would want to be fairly ould in the first place, it’s best forgotten! 😂

But basically it’s like saying someone is a bit of a dark horse, or referring to a man as the strong, silent type. Can be meant in any number of ways, either positive or negative. Personally I’d default to giving people the benefit of the doubt rather than assuming they meant anything negative by it.

Hmm. Getting a bit of a pile on here. That's fine.

Observation. Analyse the situation, conversation and individual present. Comment appropriately or keep stumm.

As for friends and being a crutch. Probably the wrong word. Some people need support to offer an opinion.

The issue is with people believing people should be like them. Quite narrow minded don't you think?

You made that comment in response to my post. I neither said nor implied that I believed others should be like me.