Do women dislike quiet men?

Yes definitely. I've had women I was dating moaning because I don't waffle on endlessly. I find in this country there's a tendency to assume there's something wrong with you if you're not the party animal 24/7.

I believe there is just a different communication level for different types of people.

I am generally quiet enough, old enough not to care what others think and know straight away if I will get on with a person or not.

Wouldn't bring gender into it really but I think it follows closely with alcohol and "gaa culture" in this country.

@OP, In my opinion Irish women who like quiet men, really translates into I can can control , take charge and dominate them, an alpha female will always go for a beta male.

Irish people in general dont deal with silence very well and it makes them un-comfortable, all talking and no listening is not healthy either.

No, not mocking to someone’s face. But discussing how weird someone is after seeing them do an activity alone is common in Ireland. And yes there are loads of people who could never do an activity alone and that would be seen as normal.

I think the comment about about the quiet man is the issue. Is your colleague known for commentable remarks? Plus they were new. Finding their feet.

Feck it. I could go from one end of the week to the other and not talk to anybody. Example is work. When I'm in work I've got called quiet. I generally don't get involved in chitchat as I'm up to my eyes.

But, I can chat with the best of them when in the mood!

As for the thread tittle. Meh. Some do and some don't. Works for me.

nail on the head

Quiet can be subjective, depends on how quiet they are. I personally wouldn't want to date a quiet person. I love talking about a variety of different things, engaging in debates (sometimes) and I also want a bit of banter and craic. At the same time, I don't want to have to deal with a really 'loud' person.

Yeah it's lovely to talk about different topics, which is why I quite enjoy boards for that outlet (aswell as friends and family).

I'm fairly quiet but if I meet someone with similar interests I can talk for hours. I think I come across as boring to the more extroverted people in my job, yet I have been told I have a good sense of humor by others. If you're quiet and not a big drinker you can be seen as a bit of a dry shyte, although the attitudes towards alcohol have changed a bit in recent years.

Where did you get the idea that 'Being quiet in Ireland is commonly seen as a flaw and such people will frequently be perceived as weird or ignorant.'?

Maybe in your circle of family & friends, but no way is that a dominant view. There are people who are happier and confident in their own skins and who don't need to prove much to anyone. Then there's the loudmouths and braggards who are just that, mostly full of crap. And various degrees in between. Takes all sorts of 'normal' to make a society and there's someone for most people.

Interesting one. My partner is a non drinker and I enjoy a cupla babyshams.

But, and this knocked me back for six. I nearly fell her immediately. I had NO interest in a relationship and wasn't even looking for casual sex. It just happened.

Sometimes we can talk for hours. Other times we may just read our kindles and mutter a word. It works...we're engaged (still trying to decide why the feck we are!)

Ha no don't know where you came up with that

I'm not the best at debates either as I can think of a good point to make after the debate is long over. Yeah true, some ppl can't handle a different point of view

You said sometimes and my mind went to racist, sexists...type of discussions. If they're that way...gameoverdude.

I'm not either unless I'm giddy and on form. Complete chancer then.

The work side of arguments I'm grand. Just a job.

But again who says that quietness and introversion are seen as negative traits. You must be in some bubble, personally never heard that expressed like that. Sure, some people like those who are life & soul of the party whilst also saying behind their backs that they've big egos and are loopers! So takes your pick of who you listen to.

Good god yes!

Don't have many friends but I do love admitting to the slagging. I know it was a joke but you're right (said from my mates to me, not your post).

That's an interesting one.

I still feel insecure in some ways.

I'm too old to care for the most part.

Sometimes people can't have a voice. They need a crutch. If that is a friend...that is a friend.

Empty vessels comment. Horrible.

You say overanalyse a situation, perhaps. Potentially analysis a situation correctly.

Very insecure people. Nice one. Are you perfect?

You have to be perfect to be aware of the fact that some people are extremely insecure??? Odd take.

You say overanalyse a situation, perhaps. Potentially analysis a situation correctly.

Equally the potential is there for anyone to take someone up completely arseways.

Potentially.

Potentially yes.

First impressions are important so a quite guy or if he is an introvert will be at a disadvantage especially in a social situation where the women will get talking to someone else and will forget about the quite one . People who are very chatty will very often regard quite or shy people as rude and not making any effort to chat .Its not easy for people who take time to get to know people .

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Are you talking for them?