More than a weekend away!

I think she's entitled to trips away with her friends and it was a bit presumptuous of you to expect to be invited along for a night.

Having said that, it is a bit odd that she lied about how long the trip was for. How - or even if - you approach that is a tricky one. How much time do you ordinarily spend with eachother?

End it, honestly she's not in to you as much as you are her.

You will find the one. It sounds like you'll play second fiddle with this "one". End it before she does and move on.

I don't know where you pulled that from, but both of your posts are nonsense, and dangerous nonsense at that.

Entitlement isn't the dirty word you seem to think it is. Both parties in any relationship are entitled to time alone, time to spend with their families, with their friends, enjoying hobbies - a multitude of things. Suggesting that doing so is wanting to be "part-time single" is unhealthy bordering on controlling. They're a couple, not conjoined twins.

Well-rounded people have and keep interests that are separate to their relationships. Nobody can or should (or want to) be their partner's sole outlet. That way lies madness.

A partner should be complementary, not supplementary.

Op, Break up with her, you're clearly not mature enough to handle an adult relationship.

Seeing friends is a hobby? Well rounded people know that having a life outside of the relationship is part of the relationship.

jan was 7 months ago , and you never asked her out you just both agreed you were probably in a relationship

doesnt sound like there’s a spark there

Dunno OP, there are many things I could say but for sure whatever behaviour they exhibit now will not change in future. The real question is, can you accept that or not. It’s your life and you know your own boundaries so you need to decide these things for yourself.

Hi OP, seems like there was miscommunication somewhere, seeing as it is early days now that you've just agreed you're both in a relationship, there's plenty of time in the future to go away on holidays together. Have a chat when she's back and just say how you thought it was a weekend, not a weeks holidays. Sounds like it was a girls holiday so probably nothing meant personal with her not inviting you.

What difference does it make to you how many days she went away for? Unless you had childcare/animal car arrangements. Surely it makes zero difference to your plans? Her physical location shouldn't really be a problem?

Unless I'm misunderstanding something? Did you have to cancel your plans or anything like that? Because that would be a different case in my opinion.

Or, she could behave like a normal person and enjoy herself while being in a relationship.

Did her actions in any way affect her partner? In any way?

So the difference of a few days has upset you? Her saying '3 nights' when it turned out to be '5 nights'? I can't really see where you are coming from with that, although I respect that you are upset by this and don't wish to push things and make it any worse for you. I wish you the best and hope you can come together and solve the issue, which I am sure you will be able to do with an honest chat.

Think myself you would do what she has if you really weren't overly serious about your relationship.

I agree that every relationship will be different but unless you specifically have plans together, what does it matter their physical location? If I'm chatting to my GF/BF and he/she's in work, at their house, or at their friend's house, it really doesn't make a difference?

Obviously if she was outright lying saying she was in bed when at a club, there'd be an obvious problem!

Could it be something as simple as a mis communication in this case? 'I'm going away for the weekend' is easier than saying I'm going away for 4 nights and 5 days. Might have happened here.

Totally agree there, and have done the same myself.

If there was someone though that you looked on an a boyfriend/girlfriend you would probably drop them a line at least saying so though, no?

You said you haven't much experience of relationships, well use this as experience, work away with her until it either develops into a serious thing or it fizzles out, either way use it as a stepping stone to whatever comes next, if it develops into something solid you'll be wishing she'd go away more to give you a few days break yourself lol

I don't think the OP cares too much about her physical location as you keep mentioning, it's more about a little thing called trust

OP, if I was in your shoes I'd be bothered by this too. It looks like she wasn't truthful about how long she planned to go on this holiday for. Was it always going to be a full-blown holiday or did it just evolve into one? If it's the former, and she wasn't truthful about her plans, then you've got every reason to doubt your relationship and where you stand. If it's the latter, then maybe it's down to how good she is at communicating. Of course it also could mean that she isn't all that invested in the relationship and you're back to square one.

You also mentioned in your first post that when you tried to arrange a holiday with her, it didn't happen. Your comment "When the shoe was on the other foot… nothing but half truth" says a lot. You're obviously not convinced by her reasons for not going on holidays with you. I'd be asking questions too. I'm a big believer in looking at a person's actions and this isn't looking good. You'd think that a woman in a newish relationship would love some away time with her boyfriend and would make the effort to organise something. It looks like she fobbed you off on that front.

If you haven't spoken to her yet, all I can advise is for you to talk to her. Put forward your side of the argument as dispassionately as you can and don't say too much. Watch her reaction - keep an eye on her body language as well as her words - and take it from there.

We'll have to disagree on how we interpret the OP's post in that case. Where I see a possible miscommunication, other people see a possible reason to end a relationship. The OP invited opinion, I gave mine politely. Hopefully it helps them open up a line of communication with their partner.

Let me be very clear then, I don't know the OP in any way, nor do I know his relationship or partner. From his posts in here, he seems very nice and not controlling.

However, I believe that considering ending a relationship based on a partner not telling you all of their plans involving their holiday could be controlling.