Do you look or look away?

Hammer89 · 12-08-2022 11:48am #1

Look, I'm a gentleman.

I hold doors open for women of all ages. I look a person dead in the eyes and thank them if one is held open for me. I say please when buying something behind the till at a shop. And I say thank you when I get my change. I stalk lost dogs for up to 200 yards to try get hold of them to get the phone number off their collar. I push cars that are stuck in the snow or other treacherous conditions. I thank the bus driver. I let people on the Dart before I get off. I pay for the Luas.

I do my bit for society, but I've noticed a craze of breastfeeding in public and call me a sicko, but sometimes I can't look away. Sometimes it hits you like a gut punch and it feels almost ruder to look away, in the same way you might look away if you saw a disabled person. I'm not a wrongun because, as I said, I pay for the Luas, but there's something interesting about seeing it in public. And not in a sexual way. Sometimes you just want to see a tit for free, particularly in this weather and particularly if the mother is beautiful. Hmm. Maybe it is sexual. I don't know. All I know is, I do look. What say you?

Princess Consuela Bananahammock · 12-08-2022 11:52am

I'd admire a woman's comfort to do it public and not worry what a bunch of conservative snowflakes thing about her, to be honest - but I'd never go up and actually day it to her.

Half the time I'd imagine people don't even know or are just curious.

GingerLily · 12-08-2022 11:57am

If a woman is breastfeeding in public don't look at her breasts, simple; either look at her face or don't look at her.

Floppybits · 12-08-2022 11:58am

I had this exact situation a couple of weeks ago on Talbot Street. Was walking down the street towards Connolly station and there was group of woman just standing on the footpath having a chat. Anyway one of the ladies was there breast out on full display, baby (I use that term loosely, the baby was close to puberty) was not feeding so everything on full display as she chatted away. Kinda hard not to look away and then you don't want to be caught staring.

Jequ0n · 12-08-2022 12:04pm

I don’t find the sight particularly enticing. It’s not like you can see a lot because the baby is in the way.

I don’t think it’s rude to look though. If a woman exposes her breast in public you have to expect that someone might catch a glimpse of it.

mohawk · 12-08-2022 12:24pm

Don’t look. I breastfed my children and honestly who wants to be housebound for the few months while they are being breastfed. Babies feed a lot and they don’t wait. I don’t enjoy feeding in public because so few other mothers breastfed in public so I always feel out of place doing it.

whisky_galore · 12-08-2022 12:27pm

Bitty.

Gamergurll · 12-08-2022 12:37pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119463044#Comment_119463044

This. There are still so many hangups about breastfeeding in public and sexualising them, I did once or twice in public but I got stared at so I just made sure to bring a bottle with me when I was going out. My dad was out with me one of the times and went mad at me 😂 it's stupid, baby's gotta eat and guys, keep your eyes to yourselves it's not a peep show 😁

Leg End Reject · 12-08-2022 12:40pm

A woman letting her boobs hang out in public? She has no problem being looked at so look away.

A woman breastfeeding her baby, a perfectly normal and healthy activity? Cop yourself on and look away. Babies don't wait for a convenient time and place to demand to be fed.

BattleCorp · 12-08-2022 12:49pm

Not only do I not look, I actually run away.

fryup · 12-08-2022 12:51pm

On the subject of tits, i was at the beach yesterday looking for a place to lumber down with my deck chair and i saw this gorgeous woman sunbathing topless bareback on display with an extra helping of side boob😋 so i said why not enjoy the view so there i was with my shades goggling at her from a convenient distance of course ---> am i a sicko?

elperello · 12-08-2022 1:12pm

Use your judgement according to the circumstances.

Larbre34 · 12-08-2022 1:18pm

Ah, another of these threads.

Boards is Detroit now. 'Boarded' up, overgrown, worthless.

freshpopcorn · 12-08-2022 1:20pm

You don't stare but if your breast feeding and somebody glances at you. You don't go crazy either.

Mister Vain · 12-08-2022 1:28pm

Just wear sunglasses and have a good look.

sekiro · 12-08-2022 1:33pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119462917#Comment_119462917

My eyeballs, my choice. I'll look where I want, when I want.

I believe it is rude to stare though so I wouldn't personally gawk and a breastfeeding lady.

Unfortunately, I don't think we really have the right to tell people what they can and cannot look at with their own eyes.

Strumms · 12-08-2022 1:52pm

I do this…

AndrewJRenko · 12-08-2022 2:17pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058258522/do-you-look-or-look-away

Why would you look away from a disabled person?

corner of hells · 12-08-2022 2:45pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119463213#Comment_119463213

What sort of psycho carries a deck chair round with them ?

12-08-2022 2:53pm

A woman breastfeeding a baby doesn't particularly interest me, so I'd give it a glance, and then ignore it.

TBH It's the same with any exposing of "bits" that women do these days. With the good weather, and even when it's not particularly nice, a lot of women wear very revealing fashion styles. There was a time I'd look away in embarrassment, or fear of offending, but honestly these days I don't give a flyingF about it all. If women want to show themselves that way, they can take the looks they receive. For myself it would generally be a glance, but if she plonks herself down at the table in front of me at a cafe, while I won't stare, I'll certainly appreciate the view (if it's nice to look at, which in all honesty, isn't always the case)

Same with a woman breastfeeding her baby.. and no, we've had long periods in our society when publicly breastfeeding wasn't commonplace, it's not as of babies have become hungrier or whatever. If the woman is bothered by whatever attention she receives, she can do whatever it was that past generations of mothers did.

yourdeadwright · 12-08-2022 3:07pm

My youngest is 2 & a half and stopped breastfeeding about a year ago ,but recently tries to chance his arm & ask the missus can he touch her boobs no idea why but a few weeks ago we where in the local playground & there was a women with a very low cut top & out for no where my young lad shouts way to loud , Daddy daddy look Booobies !!!!!!! To be fair your one smiled & had a laugh about it

Dyr · 12-08-2022 3:09pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119463373#Comment_119463373

Detroit is thriving, vibrant, metropolis you bigot.

tastyt · 12-08-2022 3:24pm

Certainly not as problematic as the girls walking around in hot pants right up their behinds and barely there tops with everything on show and your afraid to look because you’ve absolutely no idea what age they are these days

Take the safer option ! Look everywhere else

anewme · 12-08-2022 3:39pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119462917#Comment_119462917

Imagine adults having to be told this?

An adult who claims to be a self confessed "gentleman" sometimes just "wants to see a tit for free". As opposed to what? Paying for it.🤣

As for

My eyeballs, my choice. I'll look where I want, when I want.

Like something a scolded toddler would say. You are not the boss of me!

anewme · 12-08-2022 3:41pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119463373#Comment_119463373

Yeah, there has not been one of these threads since.......probably yesterday.🤣

Must be having withdrawal symptoms.

Hammer89 · 12-08-2022 3:58pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119463771#Comment_119463771

Because staring isn't very sound.

Ray Palmer · 12-08-2022 4:00pm

I walked out of the house with the wrong glasses on so I could see around me but not make out detail 200 m away. As I walked by a seaside shelter there were 2 women staring at me. I asked my wife why are those women staring at me. Turns out one of them was breast feeding and I looked too long as I couldn't really see who the figures were so they thought I was perving

Hammer89 · 12-08-2022 4:01pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119463373#Comment_119463373

Feel free to make a thread about Fine Gael or vulture funds or the economic and human cost of oil if it's more to your liking.

Wishbone Ash · 12-08-2022 4:12pm

I let people on the Dart before I get off

Now that's disturbing behaviour. Why on earth would you do that?

yourdeadwright · 12-08-2022 4:26pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119464249#Comment_119464249

Seen a young lady in a pair of hot pants yesterday,

If they cost her 50 yoyo id say 43 yoyo worth of the material was up her hoo**********le

tastyt · 12-08-2022 4:30pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119464541#Comment_119464541

Yes , god bless the designer

Pussyhands · 12-08-2022 4:36pm

There's no need for a tit out in public. Just get a cover.

Pussyhands · 12-08-2022 4:37pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119464541#Comment_119464541

Yes they're nice alright. There's a terrible trend nowadays of women wearing these loose fitting jeans. Doesn't give a nice look at the arse or legs at all!

Allinall · 12-08-2022 4:37pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119464571#Comment_119464571

Why?

Do you wear gloves when your out in public?

Pussyhands · 12-08-2022 4:38pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119464576#Comment_119464576

Do you think people should go around naked?

yourdeadwright · 12-08-2022 4:44pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119464549#Comment_119464549

For the record i in no way think that's a good luck

Mister Vain · 12-08-2022 4:50pm

Plenty on display recently with the good weather. I went into McDonalds yesterday and thought I was in a strip club.

Donald Trump · 12-08-2022 4:53pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119462918#Comment_119462918

Username checks out

Allinall · 12-08-2022 4:53pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119464578#Comment_119464578

No.

12-08-2022 4:56pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119464630#Comment_119464630

Ditto.

Out of curiosity, what's the general take on all this? I realise there's an expectation that all the social conditioning we've received over decades that sexualises the female body should, somehow, be suspended.. but I'd be curious how many guys here get uncomfortable with what's being displayed? (not breastfeeding but the fashions which are so revealing).

Dunno where to look? Or enjoy the view? (I don't mean from passing by with a momentary exposure, but say.. in a café, restaurant, or somewhere you're facing what's being displayed for an extended period of time)

Pissy Missy · 12-08-2022 4:59pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058258522/do-you-look-or-look-away

I would look away because I can't imagine the mother would appreciate anyone staring at their chest

I hate when mothers upload pics of themselves breastfeeding on social media 🤢

Donald Trump · 12-08-2022 5:00pm

I usually get very annoyed whenever there is a woman breastfeeding in public.

It can be very frustrating.

The baby's head always gets in the fecking way

Hammer89 · 12-08-2022 5:02pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119464665#Comment_119464665

I hate those accounts too. DM me their usernames so I can block them. Cheers.

bad2thebone · 12-08-2022 5:20pm

Sometimes people just get on with it and nonchalantly walk past people or not notice people walking past you. I generally don't gawk at people.

Eye candy etc no interest, it's just a waste of energy. Give me a beautiful landscape such as a bog, forest or sea scape and I'll marvel at it's beauty.

If I'm with friends I'll obviously be keeping visual contact etc or a one to one. I started doing this in my 30s and I think it's noticable. Walk into a bar, it could be full of beautiful people. You just do what's in front of you and have zero distraction. Zero eye contact, and eventually someone who notice that you're independent, a misfit or just don't want to be bothered will try to make contact with you. They say something witty or awkward and if you're interested in continuing to chat thats cool,if not just shrug it off with something witty and get on with your business .

People being like lighthouses scanning everything within view will eventually meet trouble, and then trouble will meet them. Then the game begins and before he or she knows it they're caught up in the headlights thinking how the hell did this happen.

Eyes are very powerful and it got many a person distracted for the wrong reasons. I just don't bother with gawking. I tend to take my own inventory rather than people I don't know inventories.

I'm an odd one lol

Furze99 · 12-08-2022 5:30pm

Wouldn't go out of way to make mother feel uncomfortable, but neither ignore. Treat is as normal and if that means you see a baby feeding, well that's what they're primarily for. That said, I do understand the attraction - most men have a basic instinct to reproduce and a breast feeding mother is an ancient symbol of fertility. And many women understand that too. But isn't that what life is often about, the push & pull of attractiveness between the sexes.

dontmindme · 12-08-2022 5:44pm

A perfectly natural thing, why would I look away? Do it in private if you don't want people to see you breastfeeding would be fairly obvious I would think.