Should I go to a hen and wedding?

Pissy Missy · 22-09-2022 7:34pm #1

So I was invited to a hen and wedding by a woman who I was friends with years ago since school but we haven't spoken properly in years. To be honest I was surprised I was invited. I'm wondering if it was a genuine invite or just to bump up numbers. I'm kind of wondering if I should go or not. Like it could be a day out but I don't like the idea of wasting that kind of money (I'm far from rich) on someone who seems like an acquaintance at best.

gameoverdude · 22-09-2022 7:38pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058264495/should-i-go-to-a-hen-and-wedding

Neither...unless...

EmmetSpiceland · 22-09-2022 7:39pm

Go to the hen but maybe skip the wedding. Weddings are great, and that, but they are a bigger financial hit and must less craic.

Beatty69 · 22-09-2022 8:04pm

No way, don't do it, cost is HUGE, would only do it for family or best friends.

22-09-2022 8:13pm

Maybe ask in the Ladies Lounge or the Weddings forum?

StevenToast · 22-09-2022 8:16pm

No chance

AckwelFoley · 22-09-2022 8:16pm

Criteria.

Do you identify as a woman? ✔️

Do you like the hen? ✔️

Is the date free on your social calendar ✔️

Looks like you're good to go

anewme · 22-09-2022 8:51pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119652498#Comment_119652498

Or personal issues might help either.

Theboinkmaster · 22-09-2022 8:52pm

If you’ve to ask yourself that then it’s an easy NO

Wezz · 22-09-2022 9:26pm

i went to a stag of an old school friend a few years back. Similar to yourself we had fallen out of touch but it was nice to get the invite so I went. Big mistake. I didn’t know a soul at the thing apart from him so felt very out of the loop. I also realised we’d grown apart for a reason. I ended up leaving early but lesson learnt. So I wouldn’t go but that’s just me.

gameoverdude · 22-09-2022 10:14pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119652498#Comment_119652498

Or a proper answer here?

gameoverdude · 22-09-2022 10:31pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119652682#Comment_119652682

I hugely agree with this post. Going to a hen would look great on her cv.

Potential trade is on offer pm you could lay the ground work for a business in carpet laying.

Go for it!

Count Dracula · 22-09-2022 10:41pm

It could be a great way to meet your old friends or even make new ones.

I would go.

gary550 · 22-09-2022 10:41pm

to me a wedding invite is the equivalent of getting a court summons

y0ssar1an22 · 22-09-2022 10:41pm

can you go the hen and re-evaluate the wedding position after?

cynical me thinks its to boost the numbers.

it could also be that that person doesn't have very many friends (so to boost the numbers but for a different reason). or they want to reconnect with you after X years (we've all let friendships slide due to life and laziness)

it depends how close you were as friends back in the day.

gameoverdude · 22-09-2022 10:43pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119653131#Comment_119653131

Conviction.

gameoverdude · 22-09-2022 10:46pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119653132#Comment_119653132

Interesting idea about reconnecting. Sounds odd being invited to both hen and wedding though.

I presume the fiancée is really old as well, so why bother if you don't want them there?

y0ssar1an22 · 22-09-2022 10:59pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119653147#Comment_119653147

you're even more cynical than me.

to the OP, if you are happy to leave that friendship in the past, dont go.

if you would like to potentially reconnect with an old friend, then go.

if 2 is an option, i would go to the hen. if thats terrible; a death close to the family, or covid, or something means you cant go to the wedding, and thats fine as well.

gameoverdude · 22-09-2022 11:08pm

Not my fault. People are pricks. A FACT!

Except for pm. She's somewhat awesome.

My sensible advice on this subject is to get the bride locked on the hen night, take copious amount of photos(preferably when there's a line of dicks ready) and then comfort her a week later on the day of the wedding, saying there, there. I'll find out who did it.

foxsake · 23-09-2022 9:16am

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119652849#Comment_119652849

i also did this , was grand met old schools friends and was pleasant enough without being the bestest night ever.

hynesie08 · 23-09-2022 9:25am

No lunch or a drink to catch-up first? She's picturing you as a walking atm to donate to the wedding fund.

Leg End Reject · 23-09-2022 5:34pm

Go to the hen but stress that unfortunately you won't be able to attend the wedding due to prior commitments. If you get on well at the hen you can keep in contact, if you realise you're a rent-a-friend you can cut contact again.

No idea why you've been advised to ask in other forums. 🤷‍♀️

gameoverdude · 23-09-2022 5:41pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119656564#Comment_119656564

Very true about other forums.

Pm. I demand you go to the wedding and wear a white bridal type dress. A veil is optional but I encourage you to do so.

Extra points if you propose to somebody...anybody.

Alkers · 23-09-2022 5:45pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119652849#Comment_119652849

You could just have easily rekindled and old friendship so your logic could work both ways

Leg End Reject · 23-09-2022 5:57pm

Don't propose to anyone PM, sneak off with the groom for half an hour. You'll find out if you're realky a friend then. 😇

gameoverdude · 23-09-2022 6:05pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119656640#Comment_119656640

Oh! Be more subtle than that. Whisper filthy stuff in his hear just before He has to stand up to give his speech. I mean borderline illegal filthy.

gameoverdude · 23-09-2022 6:14pm

Also, if you are going off with the husband, stop just before he orgasms so he has blue balls for the rest of the wedding.

Lasts about 10 seconds with the new wife later.

This thread has got quite sadistic. I like!

23-09-2022 7:07pm

Do you want to go to the hen and or the wedding? If you do then go and if you don't then don't.

Apologies OP. I just read back my post and it seems a bit blunt. What I mean is that if you don't want to attend either or both events then don't feel obliged or pressured. Basically you do you.

Wezz · 23-09-2022 7:54pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119656606#Comment_119656606

True that but a big session where he was the centre of attention wasn’t the time or place.

screamer · 23-09-2022 8:03pm

If money is tight for you, don’t put yourself under pressure for that hen/ wedding. If you haven’t seen her in years before the wedding, you’ll not see her for years after neither. I’d politely decline.

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