Cohabiting Couples - Sleep with partner or sleep in different bed?

Bought a huge Super King Size bed when she was pregnant with twins (and we already had another kid) about 10 years ago. Best thing ever. Loads of space for each of us, but we're also not on our own.

I'd often sleep in the spare room, if one of us is feeling ill or I'm working a spell of nights on site and we aren't getting in and out of bed at the same time.

It doesn't mean we're any less close or having less sex during those times, its just practical to make sure both of us gets a good rest and 90% of the time we're in our own bed together anyway.

You missed an option, separate beds in same room.

I can see why it works for some people but for me, I prefer the intimacy (and spontaneity, sex-wise) of having my partner in the bed with me. Generally go to bed at the same time too.

It is hard getting used to having another person in the bed if you've been single a long time, though. And definitely, the bigger the bed, the easier it is. Buy the biggest one you can possibly afford people! But man, super king-size bedlinen is expensive and changing the bed is definitely a two-person job.

Had a king size bed and mattress needed replacing so we decided to change to a Super King sized bed with as good a mattress we could afford. He can change position in bed without bothering me and we still have our own space as well as being able to roll over and have a chat and a cuddle….

Same (large) room, different beds. Better quality sleep than when sharing the same bed.

Since we've had a baby one of us will be in the bedroom with him and one of us in the main bedroom. He's 18 months now so trying to get him to settle in a room on his own but haven't managed it yet.

Always sleep together unless we're fighting. Then I sleep on the couch

We share a bed but also have a spare room, which I need to clear. But it has been used before when one of us is sick. Wife has a bad cold at the moment, and she goes to bed before me. She's really bunged up at the moment and the snoring was something else the other night. I was wishing I had cleared the spare room as I would have gone in there. Will definitely be sorting it this week.

I sleep in a spare room.....pregnant wife and a 2 year old.....

Sleep is the most important thing in my life!!

I wonder what the average age of people responding is.

Is spontaneous sex really still a thing after kids and a decade or two years together?

It goes away for a few years when the kids are young but comes back after that if a bit of effort is made to relight it. It's just a reality that a great sex life demands energy and small kids just drain that energy day and night. Obviously if you're a couple with lots of family support like grandparents who can look after them every now and then it's different.. but for those like ourselves who literally have no one.. there's a 36 month survival period where getting more than 6 hours sleep is just the priority.

I'm child free by choice 🤷‍♀️

Separate rooms for work days/nites ...and equally important... separate bathrooms. After growing up with three sisters...never again!

Plus never enter my man shed.

Civilised.

That'd be the lotion.