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Why do men lose interest after sex (coming) ?

  • 11-10-2022 1:47pm
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    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 462 ✭✭Ish66


    Over the years I often wondered about this. 2 minutes before you would be 100% interested in all things and horney as hell, But once you come...Go away ?

    Appearently there is a chemical that the body releases after ejaculation that makes males want to roll over and go to sleep..Interesting Any.Thoughts ?

    Link...https://www.quora.com/Why-do-most-men-lose-interest-after-sex-while-women-do-not

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,846 ✭✭✭SuperBowserWorld


    Fascinating.

    Learn something new every day

    I guess if it wasn't for this guys would die from too much sex and not enough eating or sleeping.

    And the economy would tank as everyone would be having sex all the time.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,860 ✭✭✭Pissy Missy


    Just read it, doesn't say anything about men wanting to get their coats and go home



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,551 ✭✭✭AllForIt


    It's because the men do all the hard work as per usual. It's exhausting, which is why you have to keep them well fed.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,854 ✭✭✭✭greenspurs


    "Bright lights and Thunder .................... " #NoPopcorn



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 462 ✭✭Ish66


    I was being funny , Like a Coppers Encounter, Stop Nitpicking FFS ( Theres always one...



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  • Moderators, Computer Games Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 18,808 Mod ✭✭✭✭Kimbot


    Pffffttttttt after i splatter Im only really getting into my groove so it doesnt stop me :P



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,315 ✭✭✭✭Loafing Oaf


    Dara O'Briain offers a scientific analysis of this phenomenon (apologies for the format)


    The male brain has a special state it goes into chemically, right?

    After a particular event.

    An event occurs and the chemistry of the male brain changes dramatically.

    The previous balance of hormones shifts violently away.

    What the male brain would be like before the event and the male brain

    after the event are really, really different.

    Most men probably can guess now what event I'm talking about at the moment.

    There's an event. Let's call it "the event".

    The happy event. It's a good event.

    The medical term in Ireland is "getting the ride".

    The male brain is awash with hormones constantly going,

    Are you getting the ride, is there a ride here? Find the ride.

    "There must be a ride somewhere. Is this going to lead to the ride?

    "There's no ride here. Go over there, maybe there's a ride there."

    Constantly find the ride, right. Until you get the ride

    and then those hormones feck off somewhere.

    And suddenly it's like being released from a hijack situation

    and you're walking around going "What the hell?"

    And you can see the universe as it truly is,

    including the hideous choices that you've made in the build-up to the

    ride you've just had.

    "Who the hell are you? What are we doing in this skip?

    "what's the feck was I thinking for the last...?"

    It is like The Matrix being switched off.

    You genuinely see the universe as it is.



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    I observed a couple of rams in a field, the sheep were all busy eating grass but rams had that “ I just came” and were panned out on the grass

    anyway it’s a chemical thing and it’s real , we’re not bad people



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,513 ✭✭✭BrianD3


    Because biology. We're not machines, we are bags of hormones, receptors and neurotransmitters it's not possible to be "on" all the time so there has to be a buildup/release "fill that which is empty and empty that which is full" sums up much of our lives.

    Just like this lad doesn't want to cuddle after he has emptied himself.




  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,419 ✭✭✭corner of hells




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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,860 ✭✭✭Pissy Missy




  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,491 ✭✭✭Man Vs ManUre


    Because there is still some beer in the fridge.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,714 ✭✭✭✭Larbre34


    Exactly, its biological. Arousal and orgasm is a physiological effort for the male body (yes, poor us), but that simple fact means there is a recovery period necessary to reset the body, return blood flow to normal, allow the urethra to take over again to pass waste products, all that. And that includes the passing of the dopamine and seratonin rush that contributes to all-over body orgasm, so naturally there will be small downer for a spell after sex.

    The hormonal downer is also necessary to ensure the erection subsides, because thats necessary to protect blood vessels for the long term and it can be extremely sensitive and even painful if it persists.

    So, next time your man rolls off and immediately falls asleep, don't bother him about it, just lie there and finish yourself off as you usually do, before mopping yourself out with the bath towel you put down and go stick the kettle on.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,315 ✭✭✭✭Loafing Oaf


    And Jimmy Carr gives his more subjective take

    Men over-promise in the bedroom. Not just me. I think all men are guilty. Men are full of the… “I’m going to make love to you all night long.” Are we though? Really? Like every man in this room, the only time I’ve ever wanted to have sex twice is before I’ve had sex once. “I’m going to make love to you all night long. Or, until I get sleepy.” “Let’s see which comes first.” “I came first.” “Night night.”



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,255 ✭✭✭lucalux


    It's a very real condition, PNCS (Post Nut Clarity Syndrome), or PNRS (Post Nut Regret Syndrome)

    After all the chasing you realise the sex wasn't all that... or you sober up a bit, whatever..

    This man knows his stuff:




  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,555 ✭✭✭✭AckwelFoley


    I don't lose interest after sex. Its just my interest becomes more specific.


    Interest in sleeping



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,228 ✭✭✭✭Dial Hard




  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,714 ✭✭✭✭Larbre34


    He is yeah, but its probably not a phenomenon that bothers any man about himself, I'm addressing their female sex partners.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 688 ✭✭✭cheese sandwich


    To process the shame



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,985 ✭✭✭beachhead


    This is either a rise post or else some reading of medical articles is definitely required.Start with secondary school classes,though



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 416 ✭✭gouche


    The French sum it up quite well, "La petite mort".





  • I’m a female and sometimes I want to go asleep after orgasm, but if I’m extra horny I want to repeat. Most of the time I love continued cuddling after coitus as I wind down gradually. Quite frankly most men either roll over to sleep or else jump up in triumph like a rooster crowing after the effect. A small number of men continue affectionate after action peak, and they are absolute treasures of the amorous world of the male. They are the stuff of a great relationship.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,779 ✭✭✭Day Lewin


    Well it's like this; when you've just had your dinner you're not hungry any more.

    Makes sense, yes?

    And everyone goes to sleep after 0rgasm, its the best thing I know for getting to sleep. Either sex. Goodnight!





  • Yes indeed a prolonged erection is known as priapasm and can be a medical emergency, an excruciating condition which can cause gangrene of the penis, and retention of urine with kidney damage. After prostate surgery priapism can sometimes happen. Blood disorders, neurological conditions, side effects of medication & other medical conditions can cause it.

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,292 ✭✭✭Ubbquittious


    The release of prolactin is apparently the culprit





  • It wouldn’t stop you complimenting the chef though you decline more sustenance 😂



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,008 ✭✭✭Sorolla


    I often find the moment of coming is often accompanies by catholic guilt and the first thought is - how do I purge this sin.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,192 ✭✭✭chrissb8


    Because I've worked on ensuring the other part is leaving the deal happy and fulfilled. Meanwhile ensuring I am staying in my head enough to perform as well as reach the end of the transaction with satisfaction as well. Then the foreplay and the physical input I am looking for water and a lie down.

    It's a busy 30 seconds.



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 970 ✭✭✭Burt Renaults


    Come again?





  • I have known a guy to have two orgasms within 30 minutes, must be in touch with his feminine side. It’s unusual. Second shot a lot smaller than the first, no time to load up sufficiently for a full firing but a release all the same, and appeared to be well enjoyed.



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    If it is early and I am full of energy - sex makes me want to get up and do a load of work or DIY or work in the garden or go train or fight on the mat. Or go straight back to having more sex again multiple times.

    If it's late or I am already heading towards tired - then it definitely has the effect of rolling over to go asleep.

    So for whatever reason it just accentuates whatever condition I am already in.





  • This female would concur with that, can either invigorate you or be soporific, enhancing what ever state you are in already. However for this lady hours of attentive foreplay & kissing is utterly soothing if you have an ideal partner.



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Indeed. In fact sometimes I dislike the word "foreplay" as the "fore" part assumes that it is only a lead up to the "main event". When in fact hours of "foreplay" can be an end in itself. It does not have to always lead to sex or orgasm every time. It can just be hours of pleasure and intimacy in and of itself.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,394 ✭✭✭Higgins5473


    "a guy"???

    Any guy that has done the leaving and "studied" for it has pulled the skeleton out of themselves. 2 w*nks in a 30 minute period is standard practice.

    Post edited by Boards.ie: Paul on


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  • I’m doing a comparison between 35 - 45 year olds here. I’ve only seen one in that category cum twice in fairly short order. Most are fairly spent for at least some hours.



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Not looking forward to that myself as age progresses. I am 43 but have kept myself at the peak of exercise, diet, mental health and martial arts for as long as I can. So I think I can perform as well as - and as often as - someone half my age.

    But the decline has to set in eventually. Can't outrun age forever :) When the crash comes, I sorta expect it to be quite sudden too rather than a slow decline.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 93 ✭✭hometruths_real


    I usually see what I've done and get buyers remorse





  • Time then to enjoy the coziness if you are lucky enough to have a good personal relationship





  • Often the feeling of rapidly approaching orgasm signals it could be over all too soon, kind of like a film abruptly coming to an end just as you were getting into the storyline,



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  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    There are techniques to stop even rapidly onrushing ones though. Not that they always work. But they often do.

    And the tricks do not even have to be physical though I am aware of a few of those.

    I can do it mainly because of my years of meditation and - weirdly enough more recently - archery. Both of these have given me the ability to switch on an inner calm and detachment and focus on the present moment - even if only briefly - to the effect I can allay the moment of orgasm and put it off repeatedly.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,026 ✭✭✭0ph0rce0


    That's why.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,426 ✭✭✭✭EmmetSpiceland


    A word of caution when it comes to “edging” and pushing things too far, Tax. I know a guy who got really into it. He would boast that he’d be able to last forever when he finally got a partner.

    He used to use the end of his bed frame on his barse to stop the flow of “things”. He’d ease himself down and back up to regulate this. This all went horribly wrong one day.

    Now, he tells people he got this injury from a “bad tackle” while playing football but really he slipped, and fell, and came down hard on that bed frame angle. Did some serious damage to his urethra. So much so that scar tissue still forms in the area causing blockages and, up until recently, was going in for, what he called “a rebore” every couple of years.

    I think that service suffered during the pandemic so, nowadays, he has to use a device, provided by the doctors, and practice “intermittent self-dilatation”, a self-rebore. An incredibly discomforting price to pay for some additional self-gratification.

    I would advise anyone looking to prolong their performance through this “edging” to take precautions and not take things too far. One slip and you could be dealing with it the rest of your life.

    “It is not blood that makes you Irish but a willingness to be part of the Irish nation” - Thomas Davis



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    ^ I think the above is probably why my techniques for prolonging things are all mental and not at all physical. I use techniques and discipline I learned mostly through meditation - but also the level of control I have learned during things like Archery - to control things. I can enter a short period of mental detachment and control that allows me to internally calm things down.

    Physically intervening in the process - let alone using tools like bed frames - as you describe above is not for me I think. I think I felt my testicles try to ascend into my body and hide in sympathy for your friend's story.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,491 ✭✭✭Man Vs ManUre


    I gave her the best 60 seconds of my life.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 984 ✭✭✭Still stihl waters 3


    I myself has never lost interest in the lady of the moment after coitus, my years of studying feng shwee and far Eastern homeopathic yoga has taken me to a higher level of sexual awareness that oozes out of my loins giving my partner/partners a gratification they've never felt before, like the sun flower facing the sun her/their vagina/s open too me and all is given over to carnal animalistic explosions of bodily fluid

    My unique diet and excellent physical condition and appearance coupled with my 6.5 inch with sufficient girth (6.5 being the ideal length) throbbing marble hard member, my years of studying some obscure sport no one else plays has given me a hugely satisfying sexual drive enabling me to have repeated orgasms all the while giving my lady partner/s the complete sexual experience

    I can become detached from my erect manhood and it becomes as if an entirely different sentient being totally autonomous to my body and mind

    Only when my lady friend/s have begged me to stop giving them orgasms like no other do I become an altogether different animal full of snuggles and cuddles to make her/them feel like they've had the full boyfriend experience wanting of nothing only the warm embrace of a man as manly as me





  • That sounds very distressing 😱 ⚕️🚑💉





  • Regarding length, an average vagina is 3 & a half to 4 & a half inches, a penis that that best matches that with a fraction extra is best for lovely overall body intimacy. 😉



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,491 ✭✭✭Man Vs ManUre


    Most posters on this thread are virgins.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 984 ✭✭✭Still stihl waters 3


    Thankfully average isn't something I come across regularly (pun intended)

    Post edited by Boards.ie: Paul on


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