Boxed in the face

As others said, take photos.

This could turn nasty quickly.

"he came at me, I was just defending myself" etc

Don’t mention that you were assaulted by a member of staff. By all means end the relationship if you want, but don’t make this a work issue. No need to escalate matters if you just want to wrap this up.

My experience.....many years ago, i started seeing a girl I worked with.....after a night out we headed back to her place.

She was fairly new to Dublin while I had lived in Dublin for years.

She was more drunk than I was.

We got taxi from town to her place in kilmainham.

For some reason, she convinced herself that the taxi drove up the quays on the northside of the river. I remember telling her that we didn't (and couldn't have) and that we travelled up on the southside of the river.

At the front door, she turned around and slapped me fully force across the face.

I was in complete shock.....She was apologetic.

I should have walked away but I really liked her.

I always put her first but I was way down on her list.

We eventually broke up 3.5 years later. She cheated on me multiple times, was a compulsive liar, selfish and owed me €10k which was an struggle to get back.

I wish to God that I had walked away.

I'm so sorry you're in this situation.

I like the others think you should walk and fast. I would take an image of the photo and confide in someone with digital proof of this conversation conversation.

Then I'd end the relationship in a public space, like a coffee shop so you can go home easily and there can be no physical altercation or misunderstandings.

She absolutely remembers what she did. Even if she didn't she's still blaming you for winding her up, as if there is ever an excuse for punching

Also of the punching thing isn't enough for you to walk away maybe the drinking should be. She drank so much that she can't "remember" a violent assault she committed.

Three major red flags:

1. Violence

2. Alcoholic

3. Victim blaming

You'll have to mange work somehow, that is pretty tricky situation for you. I'd simply inform work that the relationship has ended and try stay away from her if you can.

Best of luck

I always use this analogy about people using being drunk as an excuse for their behaviour, especially cheating.

If they say they were so drunk they didn't know what they were doing/don't remember..I ask, you know the difference between your sexual orientation when drunk, ie. I'm a woman who likes men, I'd never in my most drunken state have a physical encounter with a woman.

My point is..even drunk, people know a right from wrong action. They just have the short sightedness not to care about the consequences.

I just believe a subtle mention will cover their behind to a certain extent. They won't win. As I said previously, no harm polishing up the auld cv.

I agree and disagree with your post.

It's good they sent the message (save it op), but they have learned no lesson. They're auld and bould enough at this stage. I imagine it's not their first rodeo.

They assaulted you. Plain and simple. Next time could be worse

I was in a violent relationship- of course the other person was (after a period of time) all apologetic and excuse used was drink and it won’t happen again…it just got worse and worse and now I know to run at the first hint of it (though thankfully most people aren’t violent so I haven’t encountered it again).

Its only a 6 month relationship! Why are you considering staying - please don’t stay on it because you are lonely or think nobody else will have you! She’s full of **** and knows FULL well nobody will put up with that crap which is why she is laying it on thick now. Don’t be the eejit that falls for it and lives a life of misery because you are dragged into hers. You don’t share a house or kids yet - get out while it’s easy!

Hi OP, really feel your torment. I was in a similar situation a few years ago and all I can say is she will do it again and again!! She is an unstable individual. My advise is run, but whatever you do.. best of luck!