Stubborn single mother who won't get a boyfriend. Anyone else in the same situation?

Hilarious. Get a boyfriend just for DIY. Who does it when he's too old to climb ladders or onto chairs? Looking for a general dogsbody?

Bleedin' selfish self entitled parents, who'd have them?

I wasn't very close by but visited twice a week. I did small jobs and had lawns cut, widows cleaned etc by local trades people. She had numbers for plumbers etc if there was an emergency. Remarrying or getting a boyfriend in her old age would not have made much difference.

So you want to look after 2 geriatric's, that are 2 hours away.

I put my life on hold and moved home to help the parents are they were getting older. Well, that's what I say. I actually moved home after a life changing career decision and a terrible rental market for single people, and it just kinda got comfortable for everyone involved. Now, with my father recently passing, I'm here for whatever my mother needs, life still on hold but I don't think I'd have a mad one anyway...

All my siblings have kids, I don't want them, so it makes sense for me to do what I can in the remaining time she has left. I did live 2 hours away for a while, but they didn't require as much assistance then.

Can't comment on the dating. My parents were together 58 years and married 54. She just lost the person she spent most of her life with, longer than I have been alive. I don't think she'd be interested in moving on. Indeed, she keeps mentioning how she thinks she only has a year left... Your situation sounds different though, my mother is 74.

Leave her to live her own life as she sees fit.

I go home and my folks have a list of IT issues the length of your arm, sure the least you can do is help out a bit given they put up with your crap at home for 18ish years.

Im sure youll be impressed if she gets a boyfriend and you end up minding them both in 10 years!

Leave well alone

I think most women who want a boyfriend will have one in their 50s it sounds like she's happy the way she is if a man is fit healthy attractive and in his late 50s he's probably got a girlfriend already

or he is lazy rude or not bothered about getting one

There's not alot of handsome healthy fit 60 year old single men out there

If that's directed at me, then yes, the house is being left to me but only for me to live in. If I move out, it has to be sold and divided between us. I also won't deal with any family fighting over it, so if people are getting bitchy about it, I'll sell it, give them their share and feck away from them. None of us could afford to outright buy it anyway. And I'm sure I'll have at least 1 sibling living with me before long.

It's also a 40 year old house, and while brick and well built, it will soon have age issues so it's not like it's not going to cost me. Buying a house is one thing, owning a house is another, as I've already learned. And not exhausting at all. I don't have to do much beyond what I would be doing if I was living alone. And it's my turn to look after her, she done far more than enough for me over my life. And being an unsocial gamer who works nights (it's worth an extra 14k pa!) makes it easy. This life wouldn't be for the social types.

The only man that a woman in her 60s will get is one wanting a nurse or a purse.

Is that really what you want her to face?

Get her the phone number of a local handyman and plumber.

You're looking for someone to come around and see to your mother's leaky pipes?

"Something" needs "screwing to the wall", eh?

Are you from Offaly by any chance?

Except that on average, himself will die a good few years before herself.

Then don't lol.

I think OP has a point but sure it's up to her at the end of the day.

Just tell her to go on holiday to Tunisia and get a toyboy.

What if he fell out of the bath or chokes on his dinner?

About 2 hours round trip and I most certainly wasn't on the dole. It's called making time for the woman who raised you alone after your father died young and scrimpted and saved to get you to a decent adult life. It's called Love.

Your attitude that a man in her life would salve you of responsibility is cold and self centred to be honest.

If I thought my kids were thinking like this I'd be very cross !

Your mother is not old by any means and unless she gets a man 20 years younger it wont be much help. I'm on my own and if something needs doing I ring the relevant person . Believe it or not us mothers can do lots of things without the need of a man. Maybe set her up with phone numbers of local plumbers/electrician/handyman if the burden is too much for you

This is a prime example of "know your posters" before you go on the attack.

Sardi is a full time carer of her late 80's father. She has spent the last few years fighting the system to get a carer to give her one hour respite.

She rarely gets a full night sleep without some drama unfolding.

There's not a week that goes by that she's not in a&e with her dad.

If anyone knows the complexities of parent/child relationship it is her.

I'm sure she'd gladly swap 8 hours a week inconvenience for what she's living through now. At least she'd still have the career she worked bloody hard for and a "normal" relationship with her partner.

But she decided to go down the unselfish route and look after her parent.

Think again. Say your 'single mum' meets a new man and they get married. Happy days. She writes a will leaving everything to him and he promises to see you right when he goes. Sadly she dies. A few years later so does he, and you find out his will leaves everything to his own children, and you get...nothing. It happens.