What immediately screams "tosser" to you?

Okay. I kinda understand. I wouldn't, but that's just me.

The being too busy thing is a bull$hit excuse, most friends understand kids and partners can take up your time but an odd call here and there and maybe meeting for an hour or 2 some night is not the impossible task some make it out to be. If any of these kind of people ever tried to get back in contact with me after years of being glued to their partner, Id just ignore their texts/calls.

its very common I think. Both men and women are guilty of it.

You cant drop friends for a year or a few years and expect to still call them your friends. If you don't make an effort in a few years then the friendship is over. If you get caught up with your partner and kids and expect your friends to wait a few years to talk to them again, that is just selfish on your part, simple as.

I know some people might entertain a so called friend trying to make contact again after a few years but I certainly wouldn't.

People into "the hunt" in general. Just so happens to rhyme with a certain C word. Hard men and wimmen, the lot of them. According to the IMFHA (the grand collection of Chunts) there are 41 such groups in Ireland. Would be a shame if they all fell off their horses and died.

Irish people who are obsessed with American politics or Donald Trump.They must have very little to be doing with their time to get invested so heavily in something that has so little impact on their lives.

Just stop oil activists and those bell ends that protested the Grand National.

Yeah, it is unfortunately very common.

I know quite a few in that boat, and it's actually very sad really. Because they obviously want to be a good parent and husband, so they get guilt tripped into making their entire life about the wife and kids. Wanting any other interest/hobbies/friends etc is considered selfish. People will say they entered into this lifestyle willingly, but I don't agree with that. Many women are happy in this lifestyle, particularly when the kids are very young. But for most men, it's unnatural for this to be your whole world. And yes, it is a form of spousal abuse, but obviously very difficult to prove or remedy... it's a very complicated web with years of control and psychological manipulation.

It's actually one of the things that put me off ever having kids tbh, even though I know it's not all women that behave this way. Someone very close to me, their wife changed completely once they got married and had a kid... over night she became very angry suspicious and wanted total control over the husband in every respect. It was actually shocking to witness... and the worst part was that she seemed to be getting encouragement from her female friends regarding how to keep the husband under tighter and stricter control. Almost like it was a game to them or something. 😕

People who ‘deep dive’ into reasons as to “What immediately screams tosser..’

You don’t need reasons, you don’t need to explain, it’s screaming at you dude…’Leinster jersey…Sunglasses up on the head… stovepipe shorts in winter…. Canada goose jackets…Liverpool gear…members of Royal Dublin Golf club..

Jaysus man…. No need to elaborate…Nailed on tossers everyone one of them….just go for it cock!

You wont be wrong.

White knights. awful Tossers, not that im thinking of anyone in particular. 🙄

Any fella i see walking around with chinos that are too short in the leg and wearing no socks - Grade A tossers the lot of them

#1 - #3 -> full blown tossers.

#4 Has socks

Outfits #5 & #6 looks fashionable enough for a touristy \ scenic setting but in the office it could indicates signs of impending tossering.

Ive definitely lost a few friends years ago due to marriage- but essentially it was more due to them being single at the time and me not giving quite as much attention to them- I think honestly it was the reduced attention, not my getting married that ended the friendship-

When I look back now, had I stopped giving them attention anyway, regardless of getting married and thus having less time to devote to friends, the outcome would have been the same- they were obviously just needy people or else only maintained the friendship on their terms- either way I’m glad I’m rid of such people from my life

I think it’s part of life for at least some people anyway- I’m amazed how some people have nearly all the friends they ever had and others lose a few and gain a few along the way.