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Rory Gallagher - A dismissed case that was dealt with and brought to attention? Mod Note in OP

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,786 ✭✭✭DownByTheGarden


    Im always a bit skeptical in these type of things nowadays. Since my sister split up with her husband a few years ago and it was a bit messy with custody, house and stuff like that.

    It all got sorted in the end but she told me that a mutual friend who had gone through a divorce decided to give her some advice at the time, which she didnt take thank god. She said to her, and i still am flabbergasted at this, - "Say he hit you a few times years ago and you will get everything".

    So nowadays I need to see proof.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,939 ✭✭✭Gusser09




  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,986 ✭✭✭MacDanger


    What would you have done if you lived in the community and had heard these rumours?



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Deny , he has made his legally advised statement and was obviously advised not to deny



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,544 ✭✭✭StrawbsM


    Truthfully, I would probably do exactly what the rest of the community did. Belleek is small and if I saw a woman who looked hurt I’d ask her if she was ok, did she need anything and if she didn’t, there’s not much else I would do but I’d say I would mention it within my own circle after. If I saw a man in Belleek with a black eye, I’d probably assume that there’d been another fight in the black cat cove and wait to hear about the inevitable chatter about it.

    Outer circle of people who know them - talk about it between themselves hoping she jumps ship but knowing nothing they could do would change anything.

    Inner circle - be there for her, advise her to get out but realise that decision is hers only.

    I don’t know Nicola or Rory but I know Belleek. It has a bit of a Wild West reputation.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,939 ✭✭✭Gusser09


    Strange. We've seen this before where people were advised not to deny specific allegations but claim they were cleared by the authorities and it usually comes out later why they didn't deny those specific allegations. A former DJ / presenter currently up in court comes to mind.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,247 ✭✭✭downthemiddle




  • Registered Users Posts: 4,309 ✭✭✭evolvingtipperary101


    It's just a claim Gallagher made? There's no basis to it?

    Both your arguments are just he should've said this in his statement but he didn't so there must be guilt. Ridiculous. You're both going out of your way to attach meaning to things you don't see in a statement that you don't know anything about. It's a form of gaslighting.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,939 ✭✭✭Gusser09


    As I've said the wagons are circling. It's the one thing I despise about the GAA to be honest.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,508 ✭✭✭✭bucketybuck


    What does "Belleek are supporting her" even mean?

    Did all 1000+ people issue a joint statement? Did the spirit of Belleek take shape in human form and give an interview?

    Or are we just talking about more social media posts here, with all the weight and integrity that implies?



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,824 ✭✭✭flasher0030


    Wouldn't like to get on the wrong side of some of the posters here. Couple of vindictive people. Can throw up an (unsubstantiated) nasty comment on facebook out of spite and see someone elses life crumble around them.

    I have first hand experience of witnessing "hell hath no fury like a woman scorned". And it's amazing what bitterness can do to the female species. Of course, I don't know what happened between RG and his wife. Not my business. I will just go on whatever findings were concluded on by the experts looking into the issues. Which I thought anyone with reasonable mind would do. But obviously not.

    How many cases do we hear about these false assault accusations (sexual and otherwise) against guys with fame and money - soccer players etc. . The reputation of the man will always remain tarnished and the accuser generally gets off free. When I saw the reference to Paddy Jackson in an earlier post, I had to look up if he was actually found guilty or not. I just remember that he was in the "bad man" basket. as it turns out, he was innocent.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,939 ✭✭✭Gusser09


    I agree with pretty much everything you say to be honest. However I think you'll find that false allegations are pretty rare. Yes they do happen but not in the numbers you are trying to make out.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,610 ✭✭✭celt262


    The two specific allegations in her post took place in Clones and Enniscrone so we know nothing about whether they were even reported to Gardai or went to court.



  • Registered Users Posts: 347 ✭✭NattyO


    In the post, Nicola Gallagher claims she ended up in hospital several times, including with broken ribs and bites to the face. Presumably there are records of these hospitals visits. If she could produce them, these would surely prove the allegations to most people's satisfaction, unless there are posters here who believe that she broke her own ribs and bit her own face.

    I am surprised he has chosen not to strenuously deny that he beat her, and even more surprised that some posters think he is correct not to.

    If I was accused of beating my wife, I would be extremely strident in my denial of it (presuming I hadn't done it that is).

    If any of my family members or friends were accused of beating their wives or partners, and they didn't deny it, I would be having a word. If any of my employees were accused of beating their wives or partners, and they chose not to deny it, I would fire them. If I was told by HR I couldn't fire them because of that, I'd find another reason to fire them. Men who beat their partners are filth, and any man worthy of the name would not allow a false allegation to stand without clearly and unequivocally denying it.

    I don't know Mr. Gallagher, but if he was in my circle, we'd be having a chat.



  • Registered Users Posts: 869 ✭✭✭carq


    it is entirely possible for both things to be true, it may not be an either / or situation.

    Her claims could be true and also she could have been an unfit mother resulting in him winning custody.

    Just because he won the custody battle, does not necessarily mean she is fabricating.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 52,807 ✭✭✭✭tayto lover


    If these allegations are true and have been going on for many years and if Nicola has been hospitalised then surely there's records of these events?? She has now gone very public and she needs to produce the evidence. I don't know if the rumours are true or false. If true then he should feel the full rigours of the law. Surely there's witnesses? Surely there's medical records, photographs and statements to back up the claims?

    On another front if I noticed my daughter with the kind of injuries she claims to have had then as a father i'd be insisting on action and I'd probably have taken action myself. Has she no brothers, uncles etc who could have intervened ?



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,247 ✭✭✭downthemiddle


    There were no charges filed in the Mason Greenwood case. Does this mean he is innocent?



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,609 ✭✭✭FishOnABike


    His statement wisely stuck to the facts which should be let speak for themselves. If he had directly denied any of the allegations he would be putting himself in the impossible position of having to prove a negative.

    but they do happen, and their frequency or lack of frequency has no bearing on an individual instance.

    In the case of Syl Fox in Ireland and Mark Pearson in the UK cases which were clearly false were still prosecuted in court by the respective prosecution services on #ibelieveher type idealoical grounds.

    Trial by social media is a very dangerous road to go down. Rory Gallagher is entitled to a presumption of innocence.

    It's not a question of circling the wagons. Anyone or any organisation taking action against him on the basis of social media posts is more concerned with image than truth, justice or fair play.



  • Registered Users Posts: 347 ✭✭NattyO


    "If he had directly denied any of the allegations he would be putting himself in the impossible position of having to prove a negative."

    I really don't know where you're getting that idea from. He wouldn't have to prove anything, just clearly deny the accusations.

    This isn't some gouger shouting "ye bates yer missus Rory" across the street at him. This is a detailed, written accusation of multiple extremely serious incidents over the course of years, by the wife herself, in a public forum.

    It is inexplicable why any man would not simply, and clearly deny them. It would be easy - "at no time during our relationship or since, did I use violence against Nicola"

    There, done and dusted.

    No man I know would choose not to strenuously deny such an allegation if he was innocent of it.



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,939 ✭✭✭Gusser09


    Hmm google is your friend here. McDermott was also accused of other things which weren't denied by him. Yet he denied having sexual relations with a minor? Why deny one allegation ? Why not deny everything? It's a rabbit hole to be honest I suppose but you're way off the mark when you assume these things are black and white.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,267 ✭✭✭timmyntc


    Mod Edit

    Warning issued.

    Post edited by ShamoBuc on


  • Registered Users Posts: 1,551 ✭✭✭kaymin


    Why is he detestable?

    Post edited by ShamoBuc on


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,147 ✭✭✭Rosita


    Yeah, had to laugh at those "I'd deny everything" comments. Anyone adopting that strategy would be very quickly reminded that "when you're explaining you're losing". Why on earth people expect him to respond to internet and newspaper stuff is weird.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,267 ✭✭✭timmyntc




  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,508 ✭✭✭✭bucketybuck


    I have a family member who had an ex wife who accused him of many nasty things, all of which were pure lies.

    He was strongly advised never to entertain her accusations, not to give them credence, respond to them directly or give her any words of his to twist. To deny is to acknowledge.

    The public nature of this case means he had to respond to the media in some fashion, hence the carefully worded statement that was undoubtedly drafted by legal counsel. But there is nothing strange whatsoever about the fact that he did not explicitly deny her claims, any man with first hand experience would say the same.



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  • Registered Users Posts: 11,133 ✭✭✭✭martingriff


    Do you really believe if he said I did not do these allegations I am innocent suddenly everyone would believe him innocent.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,508 ✭✭✭✭bucketybuck


    You couldn't like him if you breast fed him, a very arrogant individual.

    Doesn't mean he is automatically guilty though.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,610 ✭✭✭celt262


    There are so many stories doing the rounds about him over the years that if any of them were true its fair to say that is a fair comment.



  • Registered Users Posts: 347 ✭✭NattyO


    I've seen that posted several times on this thread, It still doesn't make sense to me.

    Even if it did, it doesn't apply in this case - he did entertain her accusations, he publicly responded to the accusations, he just didn't deny them.

    It's laughable to claim that he, for some unspecified reason, couldn't have said "at no time during our relationship or since, did I use violence against Nicola" - it doesn't matter if some people wouldn't believe him or not, it would be him publicly defending his name.

    Like I said, no man I know would fail to deny these allegations if they were untrue. I certainly wouldn't.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,609 ✭✭✭FishOnABike


    If he directly denied the accusations he would effectively be calling his ex a liar.

    Without acheiving the near impossible task of proving a negative he would be leaving himself open to an action for defamation.

    It's not inexplicable in the slightest, it's sensible.

    I'm not in any position to judge the merit or demerit of the accusations but avoiding a subjective response and sticking to independent objective facts is the most sensible response.



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  • Registered Users Posts: 347 ✭✭NattyO


    Like I said, I know no man that would not defend his name against these allegations, if they were untrue.

    His wife has effectively said he is the absolute scum of the earth, and his response is "well I haven't been convicted of anything"

    If she is lying, why would he not call her a liar? I'd rather be accused of calling my wife a liar, than be accused of being a cowardly, scumbag wife beater.

    Again, where do you get the idea he has to prove a negative? He doesn't have to prove anything, just clearly state he didn't assault his wife. It makes no difference if he is believed or not, has he no pride? It's really simple, there's nothing complicated about it, I don't know why people are tying themselves in knots to come up with reasons why he would say those four simple words - I didn't do it.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,508 ✭✭✭✭bucketybuck


    Think about it. If somebody denies a claim it opens the door for cross examination. For example, he says he never hit his wife, next thing there is a video of him throwing a wine bottle in her general direction, now he is having to explain further why that isn't what he meant. And when you are explaining you are losing, people don't look at the details, they just see the headline that the guy is backpedalling and immediately shout that he is guilty. Not guilty of throwing a wine bottle, guilty of beating his wife.

    So you neither confirm nor deny. If you don't specifically deny then your words can't be used against you. That is why his statement only contains factual information that can't be twisted.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,508 ✭✭✭✭bucketybuck


    Because your post is just internet willy waving. If you were ever actually in his shoes your solicitor would be strongly advising you to stuff your damn pride and say not a damn thing.



  • Registered Users Posts: 347 ✭✭NattyO


    😂

    Jaysus lad, there's a lot to unpack there.

    The gist of your first post seems to be "he can't deny he beat her in case she has a video of him roughing her up a bit" - well, yeah, either he is a wife beater or he isn't, he can't be a little bit wifebeatery.

    That post and your "denying you beat your wife is just internet willy waving" (whatever the hell that means) post kind of sums up your attitude.

    Some of us would consider being accused of being a wife beater to be just about the worst thing we could be accused of, short of being a rapist or paedophile. I take it you wouldn't, and would just ignore or laugh off the accusation. That's fine, but I, and many other people, would see you as lower than a snakes belly if you were publicly accused of it by your wife, and you didn't deny it, because we would naturally assume it to be true.

    I would take my name as more valuable to me than a solicitors advice (under what possible circumstances would a solicitor tell you not to deny something that's not true?!) but different strokes for different folks I suppose.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,267 ✭✭✭timmyntc


    If his wife is struggling with alcoholism and other issues and IF the allegations are false, I could see how you might not want to twist the knife and start going full on against her calling her a liar or suing for libel etc.

    At the end of the day she is the mother of his children, even if the mother was lying you wouldnt want to have it out with them in public for the sake of the children.

    Poor children also have to suffer this social media trial too remember



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,508 ✭✭✭✭bucketybuck


    Roughing her up a bit?

    The wine bottle example is from the Johnny Depp trial, he had to sit through a very public court experience because of how such things get mis-represented. Because lads like you change the details from innocuous and never touched her, to "roughed her up a bit".

    I certainly hope you never find out how easy it is for somebody to ruin your life with false accusations. All your internet "my name is my name" willy waving won't mean dick if that ever happens.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,700 ✭✭✭cms88




  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,824 ✭✭✭flasher0030


    You sound very naïve. You may want to be all guns blazing, and lay into these allegations with a big verbal lashing. Your solicitor will obviously be calmer and will know the legal implications involved. I'm sure you are aware the legal world can be very technical and judgements can swing one way or the other by the mere interpretation of words that are specified in legislation. The solicitor will know all this, and whatever response was issued by RG was considered very carefully by his legal representatives - each word would be considered to make sure it cannot have any ambiguity. I'm sure an outright denial would have been on the table, but they choose against this, presumably for specific legal reasons.

    Or alternatively, maybe there is something in the records (when he was being investigated) which confirm some physicality between himself and the ex-wife - that maybe they were both at it, and there wasn't enough evidence to prosecute on the basis that it wasn't instigated by him, that he retaliated. And therefore he couldn't deny some physicality now.

    I don't know. I'm going off on a bit of a tangent. But just to caveat - the above is pure speculation. Just an opinion on what may or may not have happened. But for those who things that RG should issue a strong statement denying whatever the wife said, maybe ask your own solicitor why he wouldn't have gone that route next time you are in with them. Might provide some enlightenment.



  • Registered Users Posts: 347 ✭✭NattyO


    Sorry, you lost me in all that waffle, are you still saying that you wouldn't deny an accusation of beating your wife because it is "willy waving"?

    You're a strange lad.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,986 ✭✭✭MacDanger


    I guess that's the point - him not being able to outright deny it implies that there was "some physicality" which may not meet the bar for a prosecution but for me anyway would almost certainly make him an unsuitable candidate for managing my county team. I think the Derry CB need to speak with Gallagher, get his side of the story and then decide whether to back him or not



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  • Registered Users Posts: 347 ✭✭NattyO


    He doesn't have to call her a liar, sue her, prove anything or listen to any imaginary lawyer.

    "At no time during our relationship or since, have I used violence against Nicola"

    Very simple, no legal dangers, no accusing anyone of anything, no proof needed. A simple one sentence statement.

    There is only one reason someone wouldn't say that, and we all know it.



  • Registered Users Posts: 347 ✭✭NattyO


    "All guns blazing"?

    "Big verbal lashing"?

    What are you on about?

    "At no time during our relationship or since, have I used violence against Nicola"

    If the above statement is true, then there is absolutely no reason why he couldn't say it.

    If it isn't true, then he can't say it, and he is exactly what he has been accused of being.

    Simples.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 640 ✭✭✭BaywatchHQ


    It was easier than expected to obtain a ticket for the game, maybe it was because of some female fans cancelling their ticket bookings. I personally hope Rory will be on the sideline for the drama of it.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,609 ✭✭✭FishOnABike


    I would take my name as more valuable to me than a solicitors advice (under what possible circumstances would a solicitor tell you not to deny something that's not true?!) but different strokes for different folks I suppose.

    Different approaches would be appropriate 'in camera' in a court and in public (social media or otherwise).

    It would be unwise to say something potentially defamatory in public that you cannot prove with certainty. Proving you never did something is an impossible task.

    Can you prove you never broke a red light in your life?

    Whether you did or didn't do something there will always be those who think there's no smoke without a fire. The damage is done by the accusation whether it is true or not.

    Sticking to the facts that accusations were made, investigated and the public prosecution service determined they did not merit prosecution is the most sensible public response.

    Equating this with 'at least I wasn't convicted' is a false equivalence. There are several very significant steps between the two.



  • Registered Users Posts: 347 ✭✭NattyO


    If someone publicly accused me of breaking multiple red lights on named occasions then I would have no problem, legal, ethical, or moral with denying it.

    If I hadn't done it.

    This claim by multiple posters that he can't deny having beaten his wife for legal reasons is hilarious.

    The only legal reason you wouldn't deny having beaten your wife is if you did.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,609 ✭✭✭FishOnABike


    You've conveniently avoided the crux of the question, can you prove you never did?



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,147 ✭✭✭Rosita


    Re. the red light example, you answered a question the poster did not ask. The question the poster asked which was not "would you deny it?", it was "could you prove it?". Very different question.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,508 ✭✭✭✭bucketybuck


    I don't know why I'm bothering since you clearly have no interest in actually understanding these things, but others reading can consider this example.

    A man has abused his wife for decades. Beaten her, raped her, tormented her mentally, for decades.

    On one occasion ten years ago, she frustratedly lashed out and scratched his face.

    That woman would fail the NattyO test. That woman would not be able to truthfully make the statement "At no time during our relationship did I use violence against my husband".

    If she did say it her husbands lawyers would rip her apart, they would produce the doctors note that showed evidence that she hit her husband and say it was proof that she was the aggressor in the relationship. All her claims would become suspect, decades of abuse but because she lost her temper just once she cannot use the definitive statement "I never hit him".

    And then, some dumbass on the internet says that because she didn't deny it, then she must have been the aggressor.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 640 ✭✭✭BaywatchHQ


    The only thing I know it for is that it makes crystal. The average person never goes to Fermanagh, it is a forgotten county



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,246 ✭✭✭overshoot


    In terms of her being alcoholic (which she accepts), the kids are automatically deemed 'at risk' so she was going to lose custody. Whatever claims against him, theyre not proven, so couldn't be held against him in a custody sense. So in terms of reading into custody for disproving this case it doesn't serve much.

    Files aren't forwarded to the DPP unless there is some evidence there and the police think there is something to pursue. For domestic abuse they unfortunately just have to build and build over time and as said before the DPP will have a high threshold (higher than the police) before seeking to move forward with something. (I'm not sure which authority/s are referred to, 2 incidents are ROI but wasn't sure if it was clear if they were the ones pursued.

    I'd imagine being alcoholic she's isolated from many. It's possible people may be more amenable to being a witness if she has cleaned up. Most domestic abuse is behind closed doors anyway... He said, she said doesn't stand up in court.

    On him saying nothing... I guess Trump has got done on the civil side of not the criminal side for calling her a liar... But he certainly handles things... Differently...



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