online dating

In many ways no harm to see them gone. So many girls just looking for followers

What I find odd is when they have the IG up but it's on private and clearly not like an influencer type one.

50/50 in my exp. Some are clearly just looking for followers and it's travel/photography/fitness stuff. Whereas I think others have it up maybe to appear more legit or something. I've also come across guys in bands promoting their music IG.

You don’t have to put social media links in your tinder bio. I don’t have any and I don’t see it often.

Ah apologies :) Though there is for your instagram handle.

I like it 😊😊😊

But also loving yourself is essential to being content, and to finding somebody else who will love you

It’s just what I think, but your interpretation of it and why you liked it is just as valid as what it made me think about

100% agree. You have to be happy in yourself and find someone who adds to that, not be looking for someone to miraculously make you happy.

Oh yeah actually I just saw it's that same thing where the person can look through your feed if you connect it. Can they see your actual handle on that though?

I like the idea of someone/thing sifting through to get to the "good stuff" - assuming the AI does its' thing correctly of course. But judging by the AI carbon copy profiles we've already seen on tinder, when AI gets' involved it all just gets very bland and loses personality. I can't see this being the solution the article hopes. Not in the immediate future anyway. Maybe in time. Do you get to see what your bots said to each other ? that would be weird AF.

As for the no-touching sex stuff ? Just nope ... don't want to live in that world. I need to feel things to feel things if ya catch my drift.

This is exactly why you need breaks and good long ones at that. Not just a week or two. A couple of months away from the apps restores your faith in humanity somewhat. Any prolonged spell on OD is a head melt - 6 to 8 weeks, tops, then I need to retreat.

Just checked mine there and it shows the pics and captions but not your username. Now, if one was to be VERY interested in doing some detective work, you could look up the most uncommon hashtag on their most recent photo and try your luck finding them. Hypothetically. 😂

Oh, some updates on the dating apps this past week:

• Got a 3rd message from a guy on POF who I have never responded to as I'm not interested and never matched, god knows why he's still wasting his messages on me. He messaged me on another app too so I don't know if he messages so many women he forgets or what. Surprisingly, they were different intros and not copy-paste. But.. why.
• A guy messaged just to tell me he wasn't buying it that I had "not sure" down under the "do you want kids" Q on Hinge and that "at my age" I obviously do. I really wanted to reply and tell him to go f-uck himself given that I genuinely am very on the fence and not bothered about kids either way, but I think he was baiting me for a reply so I held back. Very proud of myself for that TBH because I am not known for my restraint.😂
• I got talking to another guy who is just here on holidays for 4 weeks apparently but has "long term" on his "looking for" thing. He's from **** Australia. I mean long distance is one thing, but.....
• Been talking a guy I was considering meeting until I found out he once dated a girl I knew (he told me). His confidence and chat was really f-ucking attractive. I felt like there was something off about him in general but I couldn't pinpoint it, so I checked in with her just to make sure. She's a lovely girl who would never talk badly about anyone TBH and she said this in the fairest way possible to me, but basically told me he took advantage of her when she was a teenager and he was a lot older. And just some other stuff that made me go "no...not for me". That combined with him wanting to go for a forest walk on the date.😂 Her words were "people can change, he could have matured since then and I'd hate to think anyone would judge me for how I was 10 years ago, but I still wouldn't suggest anyone meet him in a forest." Fair, like. (I obvs wasn't going to go to a forest with him regardless). He also sort of reverse catfished me a lil bit, which sounds weird but basically in his profile he was a lot stockier and had since lost a lot of weight and didn't have any updated photos, so when he sent me some in the later chats that were recent I was a bit shocked and how slim he'd gotten. That wasn't as attractive to me as I didn't think he was overweight to begin with. That said, that wasn't a deal breaker and he was nice looking anyway. It was more the general "off" vibe I got that was then confirmed with the girl. So that ended that.
• I uploaded new pics on POF and a guy who has never messaged me before messaged me to say nice one on the new pics, which had me like "how long was he looking at my profile?" ha. He was nice though, seemed very genuine but very not my type. I did respond but I also made it clear I wasn't interested, and he said it was the most pleasant declination he ever received on there. That was a nice change from the recent spouts of guys going nuts at me for not being interested.

The other updates are boring, just chats that went nowhere.

I generally don’t date people who use social media. There was one who did once, but for work purposes. Nothing wrong with it, but we just wouldn’t be compatible. Some of my female friends so a very small bit, I’ve no issue with that.

So for me it’s not about whether I can see their handle or not (pretty easy to find anybody these days) - it’s the fact they have an instagram in the first place that would put me off.