My Circumcision Story

Best of luck with the review. I would suggest not doing anything regarding reversal for at least 6 months. Be mindful of the lessons you have described above (having a set view and not listening to contradictory advice from doctor; reacting to being told "no" by absolutely wanting what you have been refused; striving to have something "fixed" even though it isn't really broken). All of these lessons apply just as much to a reversal as they do to the original circumcision.

Also, try not to beat yourself up over what you currently view as a bad decision. You made the decision for good reasons and you cannot know in advance the outcome of your decisions. Be kind to yourself.

Do you have something in mind as the perfect penis? I don't think there is any such thing. Each one is different.

Do you have a partner? What does she/he think of it?

It is good that you are going to a different specialist. That should give you confidence in whatever he says (including if he says that it is a good circumcision). In the meantime, try to focus on other things and think less about the circumcision. You know now that it will be addressed in June.

Is there any part of you that is curious about all this worry?

I have been there also: incredibly worried about something, panicking, wanting to take action straight away to 'fix' the thing, and generally not making very wise decisions.

What is driving this urgency? Why can you not wait until June? What is the worst thing that could happen if you did have to wait until June?

Going from my own experience, i know that it was deeper issues causing that panic, that fear, that obsession. I really benefitted from seeing a counsellor to talk through these feelings. Maybe that would benefit you too.

Do you have other things in your life that you can bring some attention to? Friends, exercise, hobbies, study, a job? Everybody benefits from a balance of things to occupy our minds. Too much focus on one part of our lives is rarely healthy in the long run.

Thanks for the advice

The feel of urgency is from the discomfort, the constant feeling of not being able to do anything with it tbh, not being able to hold it right ,the feel of it ,the shock of how it looks and all the stress building up'. I seen my GP and he said to not see the specialist until the 3 month review as some healing to go yet ,so Il do that. He told me not to think about it aswell.

I do have a job, etc I was on a tough fitness regime before this op, but the way it irritates me Im not in the mood for doing anything much because its like a constant annoyance the way it feels.

Regardless of the healing, I really dont like the style of the circ, its not like anything i expected, but thats for the specialist i guess.

The whole thing that it is so permanent is also hard to fathom, ive been thinking through why I let it get this far, made one rash decision a few months ago, sent an email to the urologist and boom had an appointment with a set mindset without thinking about what I would be like afterwards.

I guess I thought I backed myself into a corner when agreeing to it and then I just thought well il go along with it. That and the fact the procedure was took place just three weeks after the consultation didn't help.

So three months post op here now.

Wish I could say things have got better but sadly it hasn't.

I'm still very unhappy, I was at a specialist for a second opinion , he said it's early days and said it looked like a standard circ but said that only i know how it was , but he did say that I have scrotal webbing

I figured this out myself too, bascially too much skin was taken off and my scrotum was pulled forward, it's a nightmare and it's very uncomfortable all the time. Bascially it's all balls and no penis body as such.

There is zero inner foreskin left , just all outer skin that used to sit at the base of my penis now it's attached to the top.

My scrotum used to sit naturally (obviously) now it's sitting higher on the shaft and smothering me when it's flaccid and when it's erect it's more than half ways up

This isnt practical, how are you supposed to use a condom etc?

I dont understand how this could happen, surely it would of been easy to recognise before performing it to see if there was a risk of webbing.

The specialist said any reconstruction would be huge and results don't be great , but to check back with him in a few months and to use bio oil on the skin.

On top of this I have been getting pains, UTI infection last month and now i have it again. Ironically the pro circ camp say that you won't get UTIs. Now I'm getting them all the time.

I don't know why I'm getting these infections.

To anyone considering getting a circumcision

There's some advice on here saying don't hesitate just get it done etc, it's good it worked out for them, but remember once its done it's done. My advice is don't let anyone near down there, the risks outweigh any benefit

Dr Google can be a dangerous thing. You even have a picture of how you think it would look, ,that it might be glamorous but bare in mind lot of what you see on the internet may have been done from birth. I even messaged someone on here who went to the same surgeon before the op who had a great result. I'm not sure has there been anyone else on here who unhappy with their circ?

For me it has been life changing and I'm miserable.I was the fittest person before this never missed a workout , lifted weights , played sports . My quality of life is zero at the moment. I thought i had a problem before this but it was nothing compared to this.

At the moment I'm too uncomfortable to do anything and don't have any motivation.

What was meant to be a six week recovery for me is looking like a life sentence.

I thought i was getting a bit of skin off the top , not my scrotum rearranged and pulled up.

The foreskin itself is a huge miss, i miss the protection it had, the pleasure etc. Don't get me started on trying to 'use it ' without it.

To be fair to the surgeon, he did advise me not to get it done and said i might not like it. I rushed into it in the end and before i knew it was all over with .

As far as I can see the operation is a barbaric act , it involves guesswork, how can they remove skin when it's flaccid not knowing how it will be when you are erect? It's disfiguring.

I wonder how often does this happen, how many more suffer in silence? problem is I signed consent form which had all these things listed as a risk and stupidly I never asked what all the risks meant.

It was all put on a screen in front of me and i had to sign there and then, at least i thought i did , almost like signing for a package.

In my opinion these should be printed and given to you, there's something insignificant about reading from a screen and signing. If i had it in front of me and took it home to discuss things maybe different. Then again there's a lot of things i would have done differently.

I got a copy of it since and can't believe i signed it with all the risks that we're on it.

I wish I followed my own advise on this thread from a few years back about asking questions to a consultant.

Definitely don't make up your mind on the day.

I'm not sure where i go from here , il see the specialist again , but as the specialist said I cant undo what was done , i just have to optimise what i have. The thought of any further surgery is terrifying but living like this is also miserable.

All these doctor visits and consultant fees add up too money wise,

Sorry for the long read and rant but this is my story. If anyone has experienced similar issues then would be good to know how you are dealing with it.

I agree with @Buddy Bubs. The physical is one side of things, but it sounds like you are already depressed and maybe heading into a deep depression.

I would strongly recommend that you link in with a counsellor or psychologist.

Respectfully, i think that question belongs in a different thread.

Just wondering if everyone who got it done is left with these bumps?

Did anyone request a certain style?

Just wondering if others have the same experience as you with the lumps. Where did you get it done

Nine months post op now, it's been a disaster . Im in constant discomfort still, my balls are pulled up because the surgeon was careless and removed too much, leaving me with significant scrotal webbing, and burial of the penis . The man shouldn't be allowed to perform circumcisions. Where the frenulum was feels awful, the wound opened up a week or two after the op and was basically hanging off, now that it's healed theres a lot of scar tissue. I read that if too much skin is removed the wound can be difficult to close and that is what happened.

I went with this surgeon because he used glue, and I thought that was the best method..

Since then I read that glue doesn't have as close of a knitting as a stitch does so might not be the best method in some cases.

The fact he removed too much , the glue just wasn't enough to hold it all together.

A specialist told me I could get webbing surgery but you're basically cutting away the scrotum and said I would hate it and that he can't do anything about the burying feeling . Man I thought I was getting a little bit of at the top , now I may have to get my scrotum trimmed. A word to the wise if you are reading this thread and thinking about a circumcision, exit this thread and never think about it again.

I don't exercise anymore due to the discomfort, I don't socialize anymore either , it's just ruined everything to be honest.

Five weeks yesterday and it staring to look fine now still a bit of swelling below the scar line and the skin feels tight but think that tightness will loosen when the swelling is fully gone. I think I can get back to running next week which will be a good way to start the new year as i have put on a ton of weight over the last five weeks.

I was referred to Tallaght adult Urology by my GP, I'm wondering if anyone can give me a indication of their experience with public waiting times?

I received a letter from Tallaght acknowledging that I'm on the list for an assessment, if I thought it was going to be more than 6 months before I receive a date I'd start chasing down private referrals but I could do without the added expense.

Thanks for the info. How long ago was this? Which hospital did you attend?

Hope your recovery went well!

I had mine done in Vincents recently and the total cost was €1600 (according to the VHI statement). plus €250 for the initial consultation. IDK if maybe it costs more if you're paying directly.

I had mine under a local and was able to drive home straight after it with no side effects at all and really glad I had it that way instead of being put fully under.

I chatted away with the anaesthesiologist and one of the nurses while the procedure was being done and the surgeon was very reassuring.

All said and done from the when I went into the operating theater to starting my car to drive home was about 90 minutes.

The prep and waiting to go into the theater was about the same 90 minutes.

Nothing stronger than a pinch at the start while they were waiting for it to kick in and once it kick in.

I never felt any pain. They gave OTC painkiller when I left and I never felt the need to use it.