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Coercive control.

She'd do well to give you the P45 sooner rather than later. Nobody should have to deal with that sort of jealous controlling behaviour. it is disgusting and a sign of a seriously deficient character.

You are not her owner. You do not get to decide who she can or cannot talk to.

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Moderator warning: 2 week ban for attacking the poster. Not the standard of posting expected in this forum.

I dunno, if I went home from the pub and told my missus I had the most fun night with a bunch of random girls from a hen night and We all got pissed together I think I’d be sleeping on the couch

Why is it disrespectful?

And harmless flirting is just that, harmless.

Number 11: Thou shall not (...)

No, flirting with the opposite sex is not right if you’re in a relationship. But that’s another debate

Harmless flirting is just harmless.

There's nothing wrong with it, unless you're planning on taking things further

There's the attitude.

I went out with a chap for 5 years, one of the nicest fellas you could ever meet. He was a darling and an absolute charmer and everyone loved him!

He was a right old flirt too, everyone got a bit of craic out of him. But not once did I ever have an issue with his charm or flirting, why? Because I trusted him completely, he never overstepped and I never once felt unsure of our relationship.

That's why I believe there is nothing wrong with harmless flirting.

I however, cannot flirt at all! Useless 🤣

Gaslighting people into thinking that everybody should be ok with their partner relentlessly flirting with the opposite sex, acting like it's normal behaviour and acting like if you're not okay with it then it's either out of insecurity or because you've trust issues. This place is hilarious.

It's perfectly ok and normal to not be comfortable if your OH is constantly or openly flirting with the opposite sex.

Ultimately the OP cannot decide who she talks to or how she behaves on nights out. They had a discussion where his partner presented an opinion that made him uncomfortable, as it probably would me. It might speak to compatibility issues in the future. Nobody is wrong, or insecure, or controlling - or in that vile post above by CreadenLady (as they typically always are when male related) - it isn't a demonstration of somebody having "seriously deficient character".

Sounds like the relationship is starting to go down the coercive controlling route on your end.

It's relentlessly flirting and constantly openly flirting as related to the behaviour described in the post by Suvigirl.

Did you read that? Or were you just frantically searching for the next way you could try to score some internet points.

'openly putting yourself in that position'? seriously man, you must be really really paranoid about your missus cheating or something? Either that or really really young?

People go out on nights out and get chatting to folks of the opposite sex. It's completely normal behaviour.

And again, if you read over my posts, which you clearly haven't as you literally keep proving - I've specifically spoken about chatting, even in a jokey context being absolutely fine and expected. And having an objection to that, I've said, would obviously be controlling.

Again, further gaslighting that I must not have experience of life or relationships if I would not be comfortable with my partner flirting with other men on nights out. Is that the only tool you have - because you have tried the gaslighting multiple times now.

Chatting is clearly fine, as I have already stated. It was the use of the terms "craic and banter", which I suggested clarification on from the OP, because they had a strong connotation of flirting which I would not be comfortable with. And again, there is nothing wrong or wierd, or inexperienced, or anything else, with not being comfortable with your partner flirting on a night out. As I've also already stated, which you no doubt didn't read either like everything else, it may speak to compatibility issues down the line.

Because clearly, some people are very comfortable with it. Good for them.

OP your post makes me deeply uncomfortable and raises major red flags with me as a woman. It sounds like you and your partner are not compatible so for both your sakes please end it.

This is 2023 and I find your attitude dated and definitely verging towards controlling. She sounds like a much freer spirit, please don't try to change her.

You are wrong she can talk to other people she's friendly and fun as long as she doesn't ignore you she should be free to talk to anyone as long as she doesn't flirt with men or she does not spend more time with other people than with you. You sound very controlling but if you can't agree on this find another girlfriend .of course if she spends all night t as talking to another man that's not fair to you .it would be boring going out and just talking to your partner she's being honest with you there's a difference between having the craic and flirting with another man

OP my parents were happily married for 33 years & both of them, at varying times, engaged in harmless flirting with members of the opposite sex. In fact one of my mam's best friends (who is a man) is a notorious flirt but is also the most devoted & faithful husband to his wife. Flirting does not always lead to something else unless the people involved want it to.

I chat to guys when I'm out sometimes with my friends. My other half I'm sure chats to girls. At the end of the day though we're coming home to each other and not them. It's chatting. And yes alcohol may be consumed but that does not always lead to anything other than potentially a sore head in the morning.

And as someone above said - inclination is needed for anything to develop. There are always opportunities but it doesn't mean they're always taken. That's the difference.

It is possible to have the craic with someone of the opposite sex and still be in a committed faithful respectful relationship. On what planet is it disrespectful to enjoy socialising with people?