Divorcing PPR and child maintenance

You need to DNA test the kids if she is a cheater. You could have Cuckoos in the nest OP.

As horrible as that is, it's probably realistically not a bad idea.. she has shown to have 0 remorse for her actions which suggests she would have had no problem doing it before.

Women who do what she's done are genuine evil I would put nothing beyond them.

Not at all id have the upmost respect for my other half if she approached me and was honest and said this isnt working, i would try resolve it and failing that i would go above an beyond to make sure the split was seamless and well understood by the kids, a person that is honorable like that and carry's themselves as a decent person deserves nothing but respect and be treated accordingly.

Now contrast that with someone that cheats and when they are found out they show no remorse and the first thing they do is demand more money? You can be absolutely certain they would be dealt with in the most ruthless manner possible, because that's what they deserve. Your judge can do nothin to a person that that isnt bothered by there deterrents they can only punish after the fact and not before it.

So i would be relentlessly "f**kin about and finding out", She would have front row seats to watch her life burn and there would be nothing that could be done.

And its no more than scum like that deserve sorry but that's just the truth these people shouldn't be protected and they shouldn't be allowed to use there children as shields to protect themselves from the repercussions of there **** behavior.

What makes you think id stay within the rules? lol you seem to think id march to the beat of the courts and play fair lol use your imagination there are many ways to skin a cat.

Of course i would! id be a good hardworking man that fell to depression because of his wifes cheating, her actions really damaged me and I was failing at my job due to the grief and anxiety it caused me. A tragic story in truth but somehow i would be optimistic of a recovery down the line :) Now with how strong a position mental health is these days the good old judge wouldn't dare challenge it or discriminate over it ;)

Id probably be able to return to my job once everything settled down.

She would be outted, homeless and not getting a cent and her life turned into a living hell lol A tragic fate of her own making lol

And that would only be the start lol

We all know what you are and why you are defending the cheater lol must be painful to seeing them get what they deserve.

Muting these sympathizers.

Before you make another comment explain to me how he gets a home following your advice he would be down to sub 2k on his parents couch paying for a house he cant live in with his ex gunning for way more money from him.

Please explain it i want to hear how he ends up with a house out of this.

Lets hear your answers seeing as you know it all.

OP i wouldn't take any advice from either @Ezeoul or @GarfieldandPookyBear these are clearly women that have some "experience" in the situation and have rationalized the woman's behavior in some warped fashion, they seem to be more worried about her getting the kids and money than anything else regardless of what shes done.

I would take heed of what tactics they use and how they emotionally leverage the kids to justify both financial gains and the home it will more than likely be a tactic ur ex will use as these people seem cut of the same cloth.

I suggest you be alot less selfless and fight your corner more for the sake of your kids you dont want a woman like that with total control of your kids and your going to need money to stop that being the case. Women like that arent fit to be mothers.

Ill state this again nowhere have i said put the kids out on the street infact the opposite, i have advocated that the father do all he can to get custody of them so they arent stuck with a toxic mother. You and the other musketeers deliberately misquote me and lie.

"She isnt gunning for more money" more lies heres a qoute from the OP original post "My ex believes I should be paying much more "

Does this sound like a reasonable person to you or a person of good character that should be allowed to raise kids? stop..

The assumptions in this thread are unreal that the mother should get the kids and the house, she should be turfed out he should get the kids and the house and she should pay him maintenance if this country was anyways ran.

Why cant he work? who says they cant arrange childcare? why isnt she forced to get a job? it'd be alot cheaper for him to keep the house and for them to get childcare so she can go work and feather her own nest.

Plenty of options that would be better for the kids in the long run.

But its not about the kids she wants to gain financially she wants her cake and to eat it too shes using the kids as leverage.

You didnt even know she was looking for more money off him and here you are commenting with not a notion.

You're pretending as if the status quo is much better, that he gets to live on his parents couch, what relationship is he meant to have with his kids? where's he going to have it do they sleep on the couch with him when they are staying over is it?

Lets take stock.

As it stands he is :

1) Homeless

2) Wages reduced to 1.5k for the next 20 yrs minimum reduced further if his ex has her way.

3) No prospect of getting a home or even renting on that money and due to paying her mortgage.

4) At her mercy for when and if she allows him to see the kids.

If that's your definition of a sane mature outcome id rather be a lunatic everyday of the week and id question the sanity of anyone that would willingly accept such an outcome.

"Its not her fault the country has become a place where someone in the OP's situation cannot afford a place on his own and take care of the kids"

That has to be one of the most removed from reality sentences ive read... i hate to break it too you but its all her fault every single bit of this is her fault lmao.