online dating

This post makes me so sad…

that’s enough internet for a while…the real world I inhabit bears no resemblance to the world portrayed online

Anyway, back to the topic of the thread - I'm planning to rejoin the apps in about 3-4 weeks, so I'll have plenty of updates around then. I wonder are they busier in the New Year with people having a new years resolution to try to meet someone etc.

Need to get one new picture between now and then as I don't want to rejoin with the same bunch of them.

I’m 6 dates in and planning to see him again as soon as my Covid goes. Going away for a few nights this weekend. Still very early days but it’s nice so far.

They are right about there being more women than men in Dublin (they said urban areas) - perhaps because men often die earlier.

Would have to join you in that one. I approach people all the time. Single and in Groups. Mainly to practice my magic and illusion and mentalism stuff. Have barely had any reactions ever that match what was being described above. Never really had a problem or negative reaction from approaching people. Though it helps to pick up when someone is not really appreciating an approach and know to move on too.

I would wonder if someone is getting a lot of negative reactions, or are being insulted or derided - that perhaps they are the common denominator somehow. But as I was saying on a different subject recently - you never can tell until you see it yourself with your own eyes, if someone is really approaching or acting in a bad way. People often do not see it in themselves.

I did once over hear a guy in a bar complaining that all the girls were stuck up and man hating and never wanted to be approached. So I kept my eye on him from our table on and off for the rest of the night. Seems his technique was as a pretty girl was walking past he would shoot his hand out - grab her by the wrist and yank her over to him - and hit her with some one liner "chat up". Did not seem to be occurring to him that perhaps the reason all the women in Ireland seemed to him to be haughty and unapproachable was that he was essentially low level assaulting them physically and verbally.

I know what I want.

🤣🤣🤣That quite quite tame compared to some of them.

Totally agree - we had a debate on this a few months ago and I was very much against it, a few might have been so/so but I think most thread users would not participate. I think it’s so wrong.

Or is it a he that looks a bit like a woman? 😊 I saw this one recently: a transfeminine pansexual, whatever the fúck that is.

I’m sure there are other pansexual people or genderless etc who will be into them

Thankfully I've never had to use it but if you jinx me I'll kick your ass 😅 all the other aches and pains could happen just from waking up.

fancy way of saying "I have a willie too"

I have asked some people about this before a few times (trans community) and they believe they don't have to disclose that they're until a few dates in, or whenever they feel comfortable, if ever. Most recent was in a Tiktok live. I argued this was deceitful and was called transphobic. I also asked if the partner would be transphobic if they only found out 6months into the relationship and then broke up with the person. They said - YES - because in their minds the partner already fell in love/was attracted to the person and if that changes because they're trans then they're transphobic. I asked why again, and then said this is because A. if they have feelings but suddenly don't want to be with the person just because they're trans, then that's transphobic, and B. if it causes them to feel sexually conflicted and they don't want to be with the person because they think it makes them "not straight", they're transphobic.

The general response I kept getting was trans women are the exact same as "cis" women (that's the only term I could use in the chat without getting slated, couldn't even use the differentiator "biological women").

So yeah, I dunno. But from that live chat and other convos I've had with ppl in the community IRL, they don't believe they have to disclose.

That's like telling a woman you're gay 6 months into a relationship. Some of the trans community are narrow minded bigots and giving the rest a bad name.

Sorry but do you know the name of the facebook page. I have a slight suspicion I might be in this as well. You can Dm the name of page if u want