Sexism in Ireland

Sorry to hear that.

Would it be very often it happens?

Thanks. I get that a lot

I am French and I can assure you that having a mistress is no more accepted in France than it is in Ireland. I even remember a plumber in a town I lived in, who had to move away after cheating on the mother of his children. She threw him out, he moved with his mistress and people would never call him for a job after that. Mistresses were never accepted in France except in courts in the past (but then it was the same all over the world) and in some very small intellectual/artistic/political, mainly Parisian, circles it seems.

It is so frustrating to hear/read that same silly and baseless assertion repeated over and over again.

Beside that, I fully agree about Ireland being sexist but I believe it is based in the place that the country gave to women historically, including in its constitution.

Well they are privileged compared to women in their 40's. No point saying otherwise. A lot of life is just easier for a good-looking 25 year old. And I'd say the majority who are in that position don't mind it when they are 25.

Well said nachouser. This is a complete wind up or paranoia that's on a completely different level. My guess is the former.

I would struggle to think of any outwardly sexist comments or behaviours I witnessed in recent years. In fact, I would now say that most men have an instinctive anxiety about saying anything that could be construed as sexist and risk getting hauled up before HR. There will be a lot fewer marriages in the coming years because the guy was too afraid to ask his future wife out for a drink.

I can only think of two explanations for the OP’s experience. 

1. The OP works or socialises in contexts where the 5% or so of sexist men in Ireland are more prevalent – e.g., alcoholics, drug users, low IQs, criminals etc. who don’t have much to lose by making a sexist comment, working in a nightclub around drunk men, working with tradies where banter (aimed at all sexes and races) is part of the entertainment of the day.  
2. The OP has had past difficult experiences with men which causes their brain to be overly sensitive to anything that could be perceived as sexist - a comment about online dating is perceived as a creepy, comment about sex; a harmless compliment by an ugly guy is perceived as harassment; constructive criticism by a manager is perceived as putting women down. One problem with such a mindset and attitude is that it can actually elicit sexist behaviours from men. For example, women who treat all men as creeps aren't going to get the most respectful behaviours in return.  

So I'm sorry OP if you've been unfortunate enough to keep encountering sexist men but the suggestion that Ireland is some sexist cesspool compared to the UK or continential Europe holds no objective weight.

If you can quote me where I said you were crazy please?

Are you going to apologise for accusing me of calling you crazy because I didn't.

I agree with the fact that racism is much more obvious and a much bigger issue at the moment and I am sure it is much easier to be a woman than Traveller or a black man in Ireland. However, there is rarely a day when I don't get annoyed by the everyday, insidious, sexism. It is not hate, just men being condescending without even meaning to be. And even much worse: women behaving as if men were above them (also without realising they do so). I have been living in Ireland for over 2 decades and it still shocks me.

"In fact I left one social group that I went to in Ireland, because I overheard two of the men talking about another woman that was in the grouo. They were joking that he should get her very drunk and then bring her back to his house and remember if she says no, it means yes.

I couldn't stomach being around those guys and I left that social group. I did report that conversation to the group leader. I don't think anything was done"

But, according to you, you didn't bother to give the heads up to the woman who was casually being discussed and, apparently overheard by you, as a rape target. Yeah, good luck.

There's a big difference between paronoia and crazy. Paranoia is by defanition means unjustified suspicion and mistrust. In my opinion your comments about Irish men are unjustified.Crazy is defined as being wild or aggressive. I never suggested you were wild or aggresive. I never once suggested you were crazy.

I think you have an agenda with a capital A.