online dating

I'm on it. If you want to send me a pic I'll have a look. I never post on it, just keep an eye on it out of interest, so you don't need to worry about me saying anything on it.

That said, they're fairly tight-knit in terms of women telling lads they're on it because it can really put the woman in danger, some men who are posted are legit fcking dangerous (although to be fair, if you'd sense you wouldn't be posting about someone like that and giving them reason to come after you). If they find out who shared the post with a dude they screenshot your page to call you out and then remove you.

The posts that go up are always reviewed by mods beforehand, they're strict on that to avoid any lawsuit sh1t, they do ask for proof like texts etc. for any accusations. So whoever put you up must have had something on you whatever it was.

Only ever seen 2 ppl I spoke to on it. One person I spoke to like 15 years ago is on it, and rightly so tbh - he was sending me abusive messages for ages after I said I wasn't interested in chatting more and even found me online to keep sending them. The other, I spoke to briefly but wasn't into him, and the post was basically a ton of girls saying he always arranged to meet and ghosted (not a crime worthy of sticking his pic up IMO). You could be more on that end of the spectrum.

I'm after getting my fella's bday present sorted early and I'm delighted cause I know he's going to love it, it'll be a complete surprise.

Trying to suss out Valentines though as my ex was Italian and very over the top about it, so we went all out, but that really isn't my current BFs vibe. I know his ex wasn't into any of that stuff either and they were together like 10 years. And as we won't be together on the day (I fly over a week later) I'm unsure if he's going to do anything at all. Like I might get flowers but... ehhh I dunno if he's ever even bought ones. 😂 I actually sent him flowers a few weeks ago to celebrate his new job and he said he never got ones before! Girls - buy yo men flowers!

I do have something I want to send him (something I made) with a card, so I'm thinking if I do that it's like small enough to not make him feel bad if he doesn't realise I'm arsed about Valentines (I am, but I can see why ppl would think I'm not). I honestly wouldn't mind if he didn't bother, but I just want to because I like getting/making special things for people that I know will mean something to them, it's my way of showing love I guess.

Ah, I didn't notice anything more than usual. It's all in good fun I think. But if it's annoying you just say and I'm sure ppl would tone it down. Everyone likes you and all of your quirks Jeq!

Yeah but man, they Sherlock the sh1t out of anyone who leaks stuff, sooo many girls have had their profiles posted when they get found out. Not sure I want the whole group after me.🤣

On the ones posting the dangerous dudes (and they are, we're talking like with newspaper links about assault etc.) they can post anon (the mods know who they are) or get someone else to post for them, but there are cases where the guys obviously know it's them based on the info they give.

I disagree there. If it's true and it protects other women, then I'm 100% okay with that, especially in domestic and sexual assault cases that have been recorded publically.

The ONLY thing I'll say is that it does surprise me when they only find this out ages after chatting and even dating. I'd have been CIA-ing the dude online before meeting and have found any **** like that out beforehand! That said, I did meet a guy years ago who text me when I was literally outside the door of the pub to tell me he had to tell me something, and then told me he was on fcking parole.😭 I felt so bad for him that I sat out the whole date because he was a genuinely nice person and I think everyone who rehabilitates deserves a second chance, but the dude wasn't even on proper release yet and was back in jail 5 nights a week!

Man, that was my most interesting date ever. It was so, so conflicting for me morally because if it wasn't for the jail thing I'd have really liked him. But the crime was the most extreme, and despite circumstances somewhat leaving room to understand how it happened I just knew there was no way I could get past that or ever have him in my life if I dated him, like I know my family would just be worried all of the time and also the amount of talk would be unreal which wouldn't be fair on them. And well, when it came to it, I guess it was me too - as much as I sympathized with his situation, I couldn't get past it. I felt a bit hypocritical being like that tbh. But he's met a lovely girl since who he moved in with, got a job when he got out, and is doing really well - so not an awful end to that story.

sherlock the **** etc ... no they don't , nothing is vetted

1 side of info and a guy can't defend himself ? fooking dangerous carry on

wait till somebody commits suicide because of fake crap , i'm telling you it will happen

massive cases in usa against facebook groups like this

Less of the sh1t talk directed at individual posters please, aka me. I believe it's not allowed.

I was trying to be helpful.

Guys do have a page. And it's full of nasty sht1t. Worse than what the girls say, which doesn't reference sexual experiences.

Yep there are a few. I have access to one as I know a lad on it.

I would hope their pages are vetted also. But the sexual commentary content is quite disturbing, yes, there's none of that on the girls page. That said, I see no reason for men not to have the same page as long as it's run properly.

I'm sure some would have plenty to say about me from years ago. I did my share of dating and I couldn't give a sh1te. But I will say that on the girls page I don't approve of men's pics being posted for stuff like ghosting etc. I really think it should be reserved for things like people with assault charges, or married men, etc. I also think it's a certain demographic who post in it considering I've never come across the "infamous" lads posted on it personally.

They have a full team. There are tons of admins on it and they're trained on how to vet who to accept (so guys don't get in) and what to ask for before approving posts. The girls one anyway, can't speak for the lads one.

It's a fact.

You're not in the group...remember. Guess who has more intel here.

wouldnt be bragging , just shows how sad some people are

“I disagree there. If it's true and it protects other women, then I'm 100% okay with that, especially in domestic and sexual assault cases that have been recorded publically.”

Meh. If they can’t be bothered to google the guys then it’s their own fault.No need to ruin the fun

🤣🤣 Its easy get into that group.its mostly run by women from the US. texas & Dallas. as for the no screen shot rule no one abides by that.