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I’m sure FVII can find some suitable electronic dance tunes to add sex appeal to those seizures.

I've had to look at it 3 times to figure out if they're dark skinned or just layered with fake tan.

Maybe never 😂

More communication issues this week. Which as I said, I could move past and accept. But the manner of this one I find a bit disrespectful tbh.

So shes going on a family holiday this weekend for a week. On Sunday she asked me if she could see me again before she goes, and when was I free. We settled on either Weds, Thurs or Fri, but she'd let me know. As I know she has deadlines that need to be finished before she goes and she's very busy with work at the moment - so I told her I'd be flexible which she appreciated.

A (nice and engaged on her part) bit of back and forth yesterday but she never referenced the meetup so I asked if I'm going to be able to pull her away from her work for a little bit before she goes. That was last night (but still at a reasonable time that could have been responded to).

Bear in mind Weds was one of the possible days mentioned. It's 8:30 on Weds and I haven't heard from her since (24 hours now). Like I kept lads waiting for 5 a side until 4pm today that were sweating on me to fill in, because I wasn't sure if we were going to be meeting tonight. At that point I just said fcuk it, I'll play if I haven't left it too late for ye. So I did.

I think if you had any respect at all for someone you wouldn't do that to them, regardless of not being a big texter. I genuinely don't know what her deal is. Whatever it is, I'm nigh on reaching my breaking point now. 😅

No I don't.

I wouldn't mind introducing that as a method of communication but knowing her the calls would be ignored.

Like she never looks at her phone with me, but on Sunday I had her on google maps. Her best friend (who she was just talking up to high heavens) messaged her about something that if I had my phone out I'd probably have responded to, but she didn't. That was about 45 minutes into a nearly 6 hour date.

Which is why I know that treatment isn't just reserved for me.

But when I'm literally waiting around because I thought we might be doing something, and she can't be arsed to tell me what's going on, that's just not acceptable for me. If she didn't want to or couldn't, just say no. At least I'd have my answer and could make other plans.

I'm not questioning things really - as in I'm confident she likes me in whatever way that manifests itself for her.

But she has to be right for me too.

And I refuse to believe, that bad communicator or not, she thinks it's ok to leave me not knowing what the story is for 24+ hours for something she originally asked me about. Like I empathised with her when she opened up a bit and I was happy to treat a day without comms as not a big deal. But in this specific instance it's not acceptable to me.

The only reason I let it get this far is that our dates are the 5 best dates I've ever had with one person.

If she messages me tomorrow saying she wants to see me tomorrow night or Friday night I'm back at that place I was Saturday where I'm having to talk myself into it. My inclination if she does is just to say no to meeting, and if she wants we can chat when she's back.

Is it just a lack of comms in between for you? Or what is he at?

I think it’s fair enough to prioritise work when required, especially if you announced it in advance.

This is the thing. While some people aren't addicted to their phones like me for instance, Nobody is busy for the whole day that they can't pick up the phone and send a quick message. Waiting 24 hours seems to me like they mightn't be interested. If someone likes you, they'd like to contact you when they can get the chance.

See sometimes she responds instantly and sends on multiple paragraphs. Then other times I'll hear from her once a day or even not at all. I was willing to make peace with all of that.

But it's just the entire concept of her suggesting we meet, then not responding to me when I ask, even allowing one of the suggested days to pass with no indication of what's happening. That's just a joke tbh.

The most charitable interpretation was that she wanted to wait until she could give me a definitive day to answer me. But even that really doesn't stand up to much scrutiny.

You misunderstood me, which is probably my fault.

I have had women (2) who suddenly burst into a barrage of laments without ever having mentioned any of this previously. By the time they had their adorable tantrums they had build up all of their unvoiced frustration to this explosion point. I’m sure every second person on this thread has come across this. It’s just exhausting

Oh, are you saying that I've built stuff up in my head and not communicated anything and not given her a chance to rectify or address any of it?

She said she wasn't seeing anyone else or still swiping.

She enthusiastically accepts my date requests (even if it sometimes takes her ages to respond to them, though sometimes she responds instantly), if she can't do a day she always offers an alternative. She's forthcoming with ideas/activities/places to go on our dates.

Sunday it really did feel like we had moved to another level. I was happy to accept the flaws in communications after she opened up to me and addressed certain worries and stressors. But the most recent behaviour really isn't acceptable to me.

To be clear - I wouldn't have minded being told no I won't have time to see you but I'll see you when I get back or being told I'm not sure, can you leave it with me. Just something so I wasn't wondering today whether I could go and play football or would the plans that she originally suggested making come to fruition. The icing on the cake then is that this will run into tomorrow.