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25% of Children starting school in the UK not toilet trained

  • 04-03-2024 2:32pm
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    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,541 ✭✭✭Jack Daw


    Interesting survey from Kindred Squared a charitable organisation that works to improve early education and child development



    The overall results of the survey are startling and really depressing , so many parents appear to have so little interest in their own children and this obviously has negative consequences down the line for society as a whole..The percentage of children who cannot do even basic things they should be able to do and the fact so many parents feel it's up to the schools and the state to teach them such basica things is quite worrying.



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,392 ✭✭✭✭Furze99


    Probably starting them too young. Can't wait to get into free childcare system.

    Seven is age of entry to junior school in several continental countries I believe.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 27,370 ✭✭✭✭GreeBo


    Should be pretty much done with toilet training by 3, so waiting until 7 would give you 4 more years.

    Kids can have accidents at any age, but to not be trained when starting school is a terrible indictment on the parents imo.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,454 ✭✭✭ceadaoin.


    4 or 5 years old isn't too young to be toilet trained. I can't imagine sending a child off to school still in nappies . Who would think that's ok?



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 34,695 ✭✭✭✭NIMAN


    Lazy parenting. Plain and simple.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,988 ✭✭✭Oscar_Madison


    Yeah I know one set of parents who took forever - like aged 4 before they eventually got there - I thought that was bad enough - again no issue other than parent apathy to the task



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,297 ✭✭✭Be right back


    Well 7 is definitely too old! Around 2 and a half to 3 is the usual age for toilet training.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,062 ✭✭✭✭John_Rambo




  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,866 ✭✭✭✭Goldengirl


    Probably don't send them in nappies...

    Poor teachers as well as kids.

    In Ireland they would not be accepted unless soecial needs with SNA.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,392 ✭✭✭✭Furze99


    Here now.. I did not say that children should not be toilet trained until 7 yrs age!!

    I said that in several continental countries, children start school proper at 7. They might be in kindergarten before that or at home. Of course, you would expect that most would be fully used to using the toilet when they are ready and by 3ish at most.

    The point in relation this report and any implications here, is that many Irish parents can't wait to get them started in primary/ national school and in some cases, likely before they're ready in several ways inc toilet.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,380 ✭✭✭timmyntc


    First years of primary school in Ireland are equivalent to "kindergarten"



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 27,370 ✭✭✭✭GreeBo


    Our creché requires kids to be trained before they move to the final room before they start after school, and they are setup to handle and expect lots of accidents.

    A school is not setup for this level of effort. Certainly you wouldnt be sending kids into school with multiple changes of clothes (as you would in creché)



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,866 ✭✭✭✭Goldengirl


    Yep thats muy recollection too.

    Although when I started school we were only turning 4 mostly and junior infants classroom had a good few pants and woolly tights drying on the old rad beside the teacher :)

    The odd accident is likely when children just getting used to having to wait or put up the hand to ask

    " an bhfuil cead agam"...



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 27,370 ✭✭✭✭GreeBo


    Accidents are fine, all kids have them, but untrained kids wont be having accidents, they will be soiling themselves throughout the day.

    My memory of the first couple of months of the "big" room in creche was collecting kids with 3-5 nappy bags of soiled clothes hanging from each hook. A teacher cant handle this. Ignoring the fact that a teacher would be on their own and would have far more kids than a creche would have.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,062 ✭✭✭✭John_Rambo


    Two or three countries in Europe start the kids at age seven so it's pretty rare, they average is age six and in France it's age 3!



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,380 ✭✭✭timmyntc




  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,089 ✭✭✭✭hotmail.com




  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 53,063 ✭✭✭✭tayto lover


    I'm surprised some of the parents are toilet trained.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,541 ✭✭✭Jack Daw


    Don't think there is one for Irish people (that I could see), although seeing as everything that happens in the UK eventually catches on here I imagine we won't be far behind.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 998 ✭✭✭GAAcailin


    I don't think this is anything to do with the UK v Ireland. UK kids start school at 4 unlike here where its more like 5. My UK nephew's birthday is the 24th of August, the eldest of 3 kids and didn't walk until he was 2. Nothing wrong with him etc just not the fastest developer. He was really not ready for school.

    My UK niece, who was born at the end of May and is 7 weeks younger than my DD, started school a year before my DD. My April child was 5 starting and not the eldest in her class here.

    In the UK children have to start school in the September after their 4th birthday ( I believe there is now an exception for kids born over the UK school summer holidays - mid/late July until end August).

    Also the UK school day for 4 year olds is 8.45 - 3 versus 1.30 finish here and a bedding in period of finishing at 12 for the first fortnight in September.

    The (extended) ECCE scheme here has resulted in kids being older starting school and being more 'ready' including better toilet training.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,089 ✭✭✭✭hotmail.com


    But you said it's very worrying.

    Worrying for British people I presume you mean.



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  • well I would actually suggest that is a load of nonsense. I had a scan but can’t see if they differentiate in the stats what kind of classes the 25% attend?

    Point being kids in say ASD Units in mainstream schools and plenty of others may well attend sans toilet training because development is shunted for one reason or another rather than faulty parenting.

    Honestly you can’t have children (and definitely not recently) if you have a mindset that a parent couldn’t be bothered to teach a child to use a toilet.

    Okay there are absolutely to be a few exceptions but I just can’t imagine most parents would want to change nappies when their child is 5+.

    To be frank I’ve changed my fair share of babies nappies, probably at this stage hundreds, now maybe it’s just me but a baby poop to be blunt about it is just not anything nearly as violently disgusting to me as a 2-3 year olds.

    It’s disgusting either way and hardly an experience I’m dying to be a part of but it’s far more intolerable at least personally as the child ages and once they’re a toddler it’s insufferable. Me and the Mrs just couldn’t wait for both of ours to learn to use the toilet.

    Besides that it’s inconvenient and bloody expensive to buy nappies regularly. Also as the nappy size goes up the pack size goes down and so you’re buying more often as a result if you make no effort to toilet train.

    in any case a suggestion it’s “on its way” to us is about as sensible as ignoring the fact these kids probably have very fair reasons if not outright good reasons to not be toilet trained attending primary school.

    Sometimes it’s the best way to help a child get on developmentally actually to have them interact with kids their age and at a more appropriate developmental stage.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,089 ✭✭✭✭hotmail.com


    Biggest concern for Irish children is obesity and the growth of take away junk food that parents buy their children.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 89,030 ✭✭✭✭JP Liz V1


    There is a few big lads around my area that could use training as miss the bowl completely 😁



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 677 ✭✭✭csirl


    Kids here usually start school the September after their 4th birthday, except for those born in the summer months - no different to the UK. Yes, some wait a year later, but 4 is normal.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,200 ✭✭✭appledrop


    The introduction of the ECCE scheme and most children here starting school at 5 means that thankfully this is not an issue here in Ireland.

    As people mentioned kids start in England even if only gone 4 and dont have a standard ECCE scheme like us.

    Ideally they want them trained before they start ECCE.

    I wouldn't agree with rushing them though. If kids are trained too young before they are ready have much more accidents and it can put them off.

    Between 2 1/2 and 3 usually the ideal age.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,755 ✭✭✭MrMusician18


    Very easy to see how this is happening. You have time poor and convenience seeking parents opting for the easy way out. Cheap disposable nappies enable this. A single disposable nappy costs less than 4c.

    A great motivator for getting parents to start toilet training as soon as possible is reusable nappies. Creches hate them though.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,541 ✭✭✭Jack Daw



    Part of the survey says that only 50% of parents believe it is their sole responsibility to toilet train their children.Surely every responsible parent would say it is 100% their responsibility to toilet train their own children.

    That backs up the other aspect of the survey that says 25% are not toilet trained as both figures indicate a lack of responsibility on behalf of the parents surveyed.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 998 ✭✭✭GAAcailin


    I disagree, the only kids starting school September after turning 4 in our school are September- December in the main. Our school has a 1st May cutoff and there are literally no feb-April kids who are only 4 starting. You may get the odd Jan child.

    this is the norm since the ECCE scheme was extended



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,755 ✭✭✭MrMusician18


    That could be a misleading quote. It can't be 100% the parents responsibility if the children are in crèche and the crèche refuses to facilitate training. Toilet training in the home has to be backed up with training in crèche.



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,787 ✭✭✭mohawk


    I actually would be interested to know how this compares with 10,15 or 20 years ago.

    50 % of parents didn’t think it was solely their responsibility to toilet train. That is a shocking stat. There is a massive trend towards parents expecting to abdicate their responsibilities to the state.

    Kids should be toilet trained by 4 the only exceptions are SEN kids or kids with medical issues and plenty of SEN kids are toilet trained by 4.

    Thankfully the ECCE scheme should prevent this happening here.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 53,063 ✭✭✭✭tayto lover


    My local used to have a sign in the gents = '' Our aim is a clean loo, your aim will help too ''.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,238 ✭✭✭hoodie6029


    Cut social workers, universal credit and any kind of social supports to the bone and leave people adrift, this is what you’ll get.

    Effers will probably be voted in again because ‘oh, that Keir said something…’ or some other nonsense.

    This is water. Inspiring speech by David Foster Wallace https://youtu.be/DCbGM4mqEVw?si=GS5uDvegp6Er1EOG



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,940 ✭✭✭SineadSpears



    I agree that it's not pleasant changing an older child's nappy. I've suffered through it with other people's children, but not my own.

    I trained mine out of nappies at 20months, with no issues at all.

    Seems to me like it would be so much harder to train an older child who has been comfortable for too long pooping in their pants.

    If they can walk, and understand simple words, then they can bring themselves to the bathroom to go toilet way before school going age (that is, if they have no development issues of course)



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,774 ✭✭✭Montage of Feck


    The UK is going down the toilet.

    🙈🙉🙊



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 30,293 ✭✭✭✭AndrewJRenko


    There's a bit more to obesity than that.

    We've built a car-centric culture here over recent decades, and removed many of the opportunities for daily exercise. It's too dangerous for kids to walk or cycle to school, what with all the oversized-SUVs trying to drive into the actual classroom or as close as they can possibly get, parking on any footpath, cycle lane or spot of tarmac that suits them, so we put our little darlings into our oversized- SUV and drive them to school instead, with obligatory tablet for each child to entertain them on the journey of course.

    We've scared girls off the road, with less that one pupil cycling in each secondary school on average. More teenage girls drive themselves to school than cycle to school.

    We bombard our kids with cool adverts for crap foods, with a quick health warning at the end, and wonder why they want McDs and Dominos.



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,138 ✭✭✭Gregor Samsa


    Hang on, the way they present the results is really weird. Read the legend carefully:

    So the dark bar is saying that teachers report that 24% of the kids aren't toilet trained.

    Bu the light bar is saying that only 21% of parents think that their kids should be able able to use the toilet. Which would mean that a whopping 79% of them think their kids should not be toilet trained when they start.

    So the two bars are measuring opposite things. And the results don't corollate at all. As the data is presented here, parents are actually massively underestimating their children's toilet abilities.

    I'm not sure this survey can be trusted.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 16,734 ✭✭✭✭osarusan


    I'd interpret that lighter bar differently - to me it reads like only 21% of parents think that a child 'should be' toilet trained by the time they start school, not about whether they actually are toilet trained or not.



  • Moderators, Entertainment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 14,236 Mod ✭✭✭✭pc7


    The ECCE here is a great programme and a really good step in preparing kids for school.





  • Yeah I have to say the whole thing is very weirdly written and very confusing almost.

    Like you said they almost seem to be at times asking two vastly different questions to teachers as they are to parents yet they frame the result as if it’s the same thing.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,089 ✭✭✭✭hotmail.com


    But why are some children not fat then?

    Some households are buying 4 or 5 take aways a week now. And snacks are chocolate and sweets.



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 30,293 ✭✭✭✭AndrewJRenko


    Why do some people who smoke live to their nineties and never get lung cancer?





  • Ah would you stop with the lies and rubbish.

    Honestly you must get out of bed in the morning just to makeup rubbish about motorists.

    So you really think childhood obesity is caused in major part because kids don’t walk to school as much these days? Have you any actual evidence of that by the way because I’d easily say 50% or more of pupils in our local primary school walk to school in any weather and a a smaller percentage will only travel by car in wet/windy weather.

    Anyway that aside you’re talking one part of their day and ignoring the vast amount of physical exercise in school (yard time, PE etc)

    I have no argument with the rest of your post, absolutely the food they eat and the habits (too much TV/ipad/phone) are a significant problem.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 30,293 ✭✭✭✭AndrewJRenko


    Sometimes it might be worthwhile to look beyond the person posting and focus on the actual issue.

    From https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4687066/

    Children who walked to and from school were less likely to be overweight or obese than those who used vehicles (AOR = 0.5; 95%CI: 0.3–0.6; p < 0.001). Those who used private cars or school buses were more likely to be overweight or obese than those who used public transport (AOR = 2.9; 95%CI: 0.2–0.7; p < 0.05).

    From https://www.thelancet.com/journals/landia/article/PIIS2213-8587(22)00047-X/fulltext

    Lower levels of physical activity and increasing sedentary behaviours throughout childhood in all children contribute to obesity development.49 In most countries, children and adolescents are not sufficiently active due to the loss of public recreation space, the increase in motorised transport and decrease in active transport (eg, cycling, walking, public transport), perceptions of lack of safety in local neighbourhoods leading to less active behaviour, as well as an increase in passive entertainment.39,  49

    Nutritionist Dr Clare Corish said exercise was a vital tool in combatting obesity but parents tended to drive children to school. "They are afraid to let their children out to walk."Primary school children needed 30 minutes of exercise a day but this was not happening.

    Is this really not patently obvious?



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,866 ✭✭✭✭Goldengirl


    Oh I agree entirely .

    I was just saying we were generally younger starting so hence the' odd accident'.

    Some of the parents who allow this to continue with children rising or already 5 would not care if their kids went to school or not .That's the problem .

    Others need education and support and the thought that their children will not be either in school or creche if they don't get a grip .

    No teacher should have to cope with 30+ kids and some in nappies/ training pants at 4 year seven except those with Specual Needs . And that's why they have SNAs .

    Does it really happen in Ireland much now though ?

    The study is UK based .

    Irish children are older by 6 months at least and as yousay correctly are not accepted in the big room in creches or preschools if not trained for the most part .





  • Right but you are taking one detail from that and focusing on it as the major problem.

    Okay less kids are walking to school and are going either by bus or walking if feasible. However it also clearly states kids are not getting the same level of outdoor recreation we would have in our time.

    When I came home from school (if I even went home directly after) I’d be back out again within the hour. I think it’s safe to say you and a lot of people reading this can say the same. Didn’t matter about the weather either, sure we have coats.

    Kids are definitely not out as much as they used to be generally due to safety concerns and whatever else but a walk to or from school everyday if you’re going to spend the rest of the day eating high calorie foods and drinks while sitting on the iPad is not the straw that breaks the camels back.

    If you have a fairly hefty walk to school I suppose you might maintain a healthy weight. But it’s madness to suggest obesity is primarily caused (and I believe I used the word primarily earlier as well) by being driven to school.

    It’s absolutely bananas tbh. Also I’m 29 and I definitely remember most kids were driven to school when I went. So it’s hardly a new phenomenon kids being driven to school.

    I mean if you work a typical 9-5 you are probably dropping kids off on your way to work. I sent our oldest on a bus for the first few years but the school was constantly complaining he was late. Don’t really feel comfortable letting him walk solo (only 8) so we drop him off. Granted their not obese or even close so I suppose he must be some sort of weird child who doesn’t get fat from being driven to school when that’s what happens to the rest.

    It’s not that myself and my partner make sure to regulate their intake of junk food and encourage healthy habits regarding exercise and screen time. Must just be something in our water.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 57,374 ✭✭✭✭walshb


    If you title it 75 percent starting schoolchildren toilet-trained, it doesn’t read so bad!!!!



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 86,729 ✭✭✭✭Overheal


    A survey on “perceptions” and doesn’t say anymore on it: are kids showing up in diapers, are 1 in 4 kids just pissing themselves in the middle of maths?



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,202 ✭✭✭amacca


    I dont know how often it happens in Ireland. I suspect its not as prevalent as the UK survey indicates it might be over there.


    I know of one incident locally (rural area) where a parent tried to pretend a three year old was old enough to start national school and tried to drop them off....somewhat related as the kid wasnt properly toilet trained....


    I was surprised as youd want to be desperate or stupid or some mixture of both to try that as you surely need to provide accurate ID for the kid etc to the national school etc



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 998 ✭✭✭GAAcailin


    School might have been trying to get their numbers up if it was a rural national school that was in danger of losing a teacher. Friend of mine that had moved to the midlands was under massive pressure by the local priest to send her April child to school at 4 as the school would have tipped the threshold to qualify for an additional teacher! - she didn’t in the end



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,202 ✭✭✭amacca


    I dont know the ins and outs tbh, I suspect not in this case as it was mentioned to me in a...thats the kind of stuff we have to deal with way by principal🫣



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