First date guy being unreasonable?

Block!!!!!

I didn't say to get the Guards involved immediately, but I'd definitely keep all communications involving this dude as it could escalate very quickly. I still feel the op should cut all ties and put it behind her.

there’s a significant difference between lining up a few dates to see how things go and “dating” multiple partners at the same time.

I think it’s generally accepted that people on dating sites will probably keep looking until they have found someone that they’re interested in getting to know - if you’ve lined up a few dates then fine- relax and take stock of your experiences in a few weeks and decide whom you might like to meet again - it’s hardly “dating multiple guys at once”

I'd say its the length of the first date that has muddied the water here, I mean 24 hours is not just having a coffee and a chat! It's not even a quick shag. Plenty of talking must have also taken place. As a woman I guess I could only do that if I was really into someone, otherwise I'd be out the door fairly pronto. So some emotions were involved here and that is why OP is questioning this, and probably also why her date also reacted! I am very careful who I take things further with and its never quickly, its usually after meeting at least 3/4 times. That's because emotional attachment builds very quickly and can cloud perception of what someone is really like, if you wait until after a few meetings you have a better idea.

There could have been expectations on his part depending on what was discussed during this 24 hour date and subsequent texts/calls. And maybe in hindsight OP is considering seeing him again and giving him a 2nd chance. Don't.

This whole story reminds me of the most emotionally abusive relationship I was ever in, starting quickly with red flags which I ignored. I was constantly blamed for everything, which made me question myself. I always felt I could fix him, that I had done something wrong to upset him. He would declare his love then within an hour start telling me I was looking at other men. It was horrendous. Thankfully after 3 years I had the strength to leave him, God knows how as my confidence was on the floor. All the signs were in the OP's post. How quickly the mood changes, phone calls at 2am, messages all night long. Run and don't look back and also block his number. Like someone else said this guy sounds like he has stalker potential.

Red Flag, Run dont walk away

That is way too much emotional overhead after 1 date, to the point that you're worried about him knowing where you work and coming on Boards for an independent opinion.

I can feel sorry for him: meeting someone he liked, spent a nice day with, and then see them dating someone else soon afterwards. It hurts, of course it would.

But if he has a condition, then it is on him to manage it. It shouldn't be your problem already to work around it.

If you want, send one final message in whatever medium & wording you're comfortable with, to say you had enjoyed meeting him, it was a lovely date but the pair of you hadn't agreed on exclusivity at the time, and that the follow-up messages were too much after one date, and for those reasons you wish him all the best and you're sorry, but you don't wish to move forward with any kind of relationship or friendship with him (because he'll probably ask to be friends in the hope you'll change your mind, need to close this right down).

I think you need to reduce contact with him and don't entertain any future dates. He's been love bombing you with texts and now that you've dated somebody else he's flow into a rage. This isn't healthy at all. For your own safety let him down as gently as possible and move on.

Dude is a psycho, count your blessings, run and don't look back.

You've done nothing wrong. No loyalty is owed until you both agree that you're in a relationship.

Get out of Dodge, and BLOCK BLOCK BLOCK as Simon Harris would do.

Ill be honest I'm more of the see how things go if I have had a good first date and don't bother with multi dating. I noticed a lot of people had started to go back to that over the the multi dating approach when I used do it.

In fact nearly every multi dater I ever knew always tended to be single. It like a mix of they always were looking for the better option and not taking time to get to know anyone. Some used be on date 3/4 with someone and still arranging 1st dates with others!!!

In saying that, RUN! This guy is way too sensitive at best. It's way too intense to get this upset especially at his age. I'd understand if he was 18. If I was in his shoes and thought I had one I really clicked well with and was disappointed felt they were off exploring other options which meant they probably didn't feel the same you'd just stop texting them and move on not this nonsense.

This sounds like the type of fella that would guilt you for a week if you cancelled cause you'd a dose of the shites and couldn't leave the toilet.

The mistake was answering his call at 2am. That alone should have been the final red flag and you should have just left him stew.

Anyway, I concur with everything everyone has said. Be polite but firm with no ambiguity that you don't wish to pursue things. Wish him well.

If he persists contact after that, then ask him politely to leave you be as you are not a couple.

He sounds like a stalker , a first date is not a big deal , he,s no right to feel annoyed , you are not in a relationship with anyone the whole point of apps is to test the water go out with many people you may have a good time on a date. But some expert said there,s 3 points in a positive romantic relationship,

Do you find him sexy attractive

Are your lifestyles ,political viewpoints , attitude to life in general compatible

Is he reliable and trustworthy in terms of a long term relationship do you really enjoy being with him he's not boring or overly possessive is there a real Emotional connection there

You,d need to go on maybe 5 dates to work this out

This bloke sounds like a nutter or a control freak with maybe some type of mental problem

I don't think it's normal at all

Its weird it's not your job to fix him

If I meet a woman on a dating app. I would presume she has other options other men lined up to meet ie keep your options open

He,s sending up red flags control freak insecure overly possessive

After a few weeks most people if things go well there is chemistry there is affection. There is physical chemistry attraction than maybe someone says

do you want to be my girlfriend, boyfriend

This post reminds me of the TV show baby reindeer

A man is nice to a woman once he buys her a cup of tea

A she becomes obsessed with him and ruins his life

my advice is break off all contact with him and meet other people that might act in a normal easygoing way

Its very unusual for people to fall in love on the first date

Or this sounds like a question from

Newstalk

So you think you,re an Adult ?

People multi date maybe they meet the one maybe they don't ,some people expect to meet a rich man who looks like Brad Pitt and is kind and sensitive he probably does not exist

Open up a proton mail account use it to talk to potential dates wait at least 3 dates before before you go e them your phone no

Adk them their views on politics do they use drugs look for extremes do they spend most of their money on drugs drink clothes while living at home they save no money are they racist sexist

Its easy to be nice to someone on one date what is there life plan do they intend to buy a house and have kids

Are they obsessed with work or sport

Its not possible to find all this info on one date and theres no point in doing so if you don't like the man and also feel a deep attraction to him beyond a casual hookup

NoNo one says dating is easy date 2 or 3 men in one week

Maybe don't give out too much info on the first 2 dates where you work where you live your phone no

A man can be nice kind gentle well dressed while also having serious issues

II don't think it's possible for normal people to fall in love on a single date

If he continues to phone you block his no

or get a new sim card phone no

AA sim card is only 20 euros with 20 euros credit on it