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I should have put the part she has in her bio in a quote but anyway from 'Oh look at you' down is her bio with included bullet points.

I love talking about my children and grandkids

🤔 she is 32, grandkids?

I dont know, the nordies love having kids but still it couldnt be right.

All Quiet on the Western Front?

hinge and bumble are better

All quiet my end. But in the best of ways. Big work project completed that was devouring my time and attention. So i can breathe and start the summer properly now.

Holiday away with the girls at the end of the month and a big birthday weekend at the start of next month. The fella is working out just fine too! We get on great and the age gap is nowhere near as big a deal as I first imagined it would be.

Nothing to complain about .. apart from maybe the weather but I think that's gonna improve soon too.

So I recently got hacked. Email amazon facebook everything. Hacker had access to all my photos.

And he tried to use my address to log into tinder / pof only i dont have an account … so guess what he did .. he MADE ONE with my email and name .. presumably with my photos .. and i keep getting emails from tinder .. ( i recovered my email).

So you might think oh the hacker is going to have fun online … nope its more sinister. He is data harvesting on online dating sites. And if you think its not huge you are naive. Often men will give emails or whatever to photos of pretty girls. Then HE will get hacked.

Crazy women on dating sites are the LEAST of your worries. Trust me. Just hope they are really girls.

Tinder was the most successful app for me by a huge distance. Wouldn't write it off so quickly if you're looking for someone.

Bumble works just fine.

"They" like the fact that the woman messages first on Bumble, as it makes a change from guys having to send the first message on the other platforms and often not getting any response. At least if the girl messages you on Bumble there is a confirmed additional layer of interest or effort after the initial match which you'll never get on Tinder and only sometimes get on Hinge.

One critique I do have of Bumble is how many women send really low effort openers on it. Like the stuff they'd complain about getting from lads (which I'm fully sure they get bombarded with on the other sites). Stuff like Hi/Hey, or a waving gif are very frequent and I'm just thinking - you almost certainly know from experience how dumb this is to receive but you're sending it to me anyway.

I never get the people who hate getting a hi or how are you etc, what do people expect an essay?, if you met someone in a pub or club a hi is usually how it would start, its just where most people will start a conversation, then you go from there. stupid to disqualify someone because they didn't tell you their life story in the first message.

You say hi to me, I say hi back. Where does that go? The conversation is already dead. If everybody approaches conversations with that abysmal level of effort nothing goes anywhere.

If a girl just says the word hi on Bumble she's basically shifted all the responsibility back onto me to get the conversation going which in my mind defeats the entire point of Bumble.

What I'd expect is at the very least, how is your weekend, or your week as an absolute baseline. A genuine compliment is another level of effort above that, or a question about my photos, or my interests. No essays required. Just a tiny bit of effort.

Because that's what I give (or gave). And it's served me very well.

Agree. Hey or hi is low effort and coming from a guy I’d assume him to be either a bit simple or a player or totally inexperienced, all of which are off putting for me. I want to see a bit of wit and genuine interest in me personally, and so it’s how I approach the first message too.

Everything going well with your guy still? 🤞

It’s going well. It’s only 2.5 months so very early days. It seems a good match for now, but as usual there could be differences in how we want to spend our futures, and you only have an idea of somebody so soon - you don’t truly know them. I think meeting each others friends and families and be a step that helps with that, you see how they are around other people etc. He’s definitely all in but I am the cautious one.