What to do about my daughter being bullied?

Change her number and make all social media private.

Make a file or folder of all those recordings, voice notes and screenshots and give it to the Gardai and Tusla. A visit from the Gardai might cop those stupid chunts on.

Are their parents reasonable and approachable? If so, I'd be playing the voice notes to them so they can hear what their children have been doing.

I don't think the OP has any issue with going to the parents, it's their kids reaction after THEIR parents talk to them. Not saying he shouldn't, he should, it's just his worry.

If it is relentless, and his daughter may consider going to a different school. I wouldn't care if the 'witches' thought they'd won… at the end of the day it might be worth considering.

But, yes - change of phone number, although the witches will probably get it soon enough after. But, you're really into Gardai territory then.

Don't do any of that anyhow

We have had similar with our Daughter from 15 and same story, old friends drifted apart. One girl started the nastiness out of jealousy/spite and it's been ongoing for a couple of years. It has impacted my Daughters education. She's got a thick skin, but these things wear you down and isolate you, so it shouldn't be ignored. She could kick the shít out of the girl, but we are reluctantly encouraging diplomacy in the hope the other girl cops on.

We have been through the school bullying process, which is next to useless (box ticking) and our next steps will be to talk to the parents of the girl coordinating it. We already asked the school to facilitate a meeting, which they declined, opting to stick to their box ticking processes. We will know in September if it is necessary to speak directly to the parents.

This will only continue and get worse, so you need to do for your Daughter what she doesn't want, but definitely needs. Doing nothing is allowing these cvnts to bully your daughter into doing something that can't be undone. They only think they are smart, but leaving a trail of voice notes, messages and "hidden" numbers, calling dozens of times a night is beyond bullying.

School, Tusla, Gardaí, Parents. Go in that order because of your Daughters history.

Because it's ridiculously passive-aggressive and only likely to escalate things. The OP should speak to each set of parents directly and then perhaps a group approach is the best way to go.

A relative of mine had the same .

Ended up, despite talking to parents of these bxtches , bullying continuing so they left the school and did their final couple of years in another school where they were more on the ball about anti bullying .

While in principle I agree that stopping social media and changing phone number is 'giving in ' to bullies , the op has her daughter's mental health and welfare to consider .

I think if the parents are reasonable talk to them .

If not, copy all messages and recordings and go to the guards if school not getting a handle on it .

No point worrying about it getting worse , op .

It sounds as bad now as it is going to get and the quality of every day of your child's life is important.

Best of luck with this x

Jesus I HATE reading stuff like this - and what I hate worse is any attempt to change your or your daughter's behaviours because of this bullying. If you have numbers of the other parents - MY first step would be to send a polite yet curt message briefly outlining what has been going on, how it is RUINING your daughters life and how you FEAR for the risk of her KILLING HERSELF over this!!! Because that's what we are dealing with here! Someone's life!!!

And be sure to let them know that you have PLENTY of evidence. Not in he threatening sense… but in the sense that this is not he said/she said. This is not one parent's word over another's… This is based on FACTS!

Any self respecting adult, no - parent, will immediately put themselves in the OP's shoes - and react accordingly. Don't mind the school, their anti-bullying 'stance', Tusla or any other futile obstacle. The other girls PARENTS are responsible here.

Next step - take the phone, the messages and all the evidence to the Guards.

Don't wait till September. And do not approach these girls themselves!!! Stand up for your daughter before it's too late.

See your response is exactly why i'd do it, because all of a sudden you realise how serious the situation is to the other father ,

These kids are obviously poorly raised & also don't give a **** ,So im not sure just talking to the parents is going to change anything, They need to know its serious & your not going to stand for it,

Its a simple & effective way to let them feel the fear his daughter has without saying anything inappropriate or doing anything inappropriate

Or play nice nice & watch your own daughter continue to suffer

Your allowed speak to a minor in front of there parents ? What law are you breaking there ?

All you've said if they keep bullying there ill be consequences , You meant you;d get the Garda involved & now your delighted that they are involved, there daughter is now not going to continue, you have done nothing to beak the law then so what is the issue

If your more afraid of someone calling the Garda on you , (when you've done nothing wrong ) than helping you daughter then god help your children

if you remain calm & composed throughout there nothing but a win for you 7 your daughter

I'm sorry to hear that

I do think changing her phone number and talking to the parents, would be your starting point

I hope peace and pray for your daughter