Rapist sentenced to 8 years

I honestly can't believe this post.

She was injured and permanently scarred by him. She had to receive lengthy treatment for her injuries.

Yet still someone comes on to say, well she agreed to go into the shed. Which is not true anyway. She says that she can't remember how she got in the shed.

The lack of empathy in some people is truly shocking.

Let me ask you, would you consent to be raped with not one but three bottles and be left with scarring for the rest of your life?

Right let's say look at the potential scenario that she agreed to go into the shed to stand with him for a smoke.

She said he wanted to go outside for a smoke. A

t this stage he hadn't hurt her, and she knew him through friends.

Maybe it was raining and they stood into the shed To get out of the rain to smoke.

So let's say she did agree to go and stand in the shed.

How does her agreeing to go into the shed,

mean that she agreed to be violently penetrated with three bottles?

One thing has absolutely nothing to do with the other

It's actually you who is coming across as extremely strange and utterly bizarre.

You haven't answered my question.

Even if she agreed to go into the shed.

What has that got to do with him violently assaulting her and leaving her injured?

Can you answer that

At poster Jequ0n.

Even if a person agrees to go into a private space with someone, the other person is not allowed to physically hurt and injure the person.

That is law101.

Learn it.

You are not allowed by law to hit, injure or assault another person

@jequon

You still haven't answered how her agreeing to go in the shed has anything to do with him violently assaulting her and leaving her with injuries that she had to get treated for ages.

Want to answer?

Because what you said is shocking beyond ridiculous.

I can answer that. As I was at two house parties when I was in college where some men got a bit threatening to me.

When you are the smaller person in a room, and the bigger person becomes threatening, you become very scared.

And when you are scared you start to think about - how to get out of the situation safely

You think -if I run out the door crying and making a fuss,,he is going to run after me and hurt me and hold me down .

You start to think, well i will just calm him down, and talk to him calmly, until I can get out of here safely.

She said she went outside with him for a smoke to de escalate matters .

I can totally understand her. You don't understand as you haven't felt that fear.

I was once absolutely terribly afraid of a man at a house party. He terrified the life out of me. He was sexually threatening and intimidating to me

I remember that i said to him "it was lovely to meet you, I would really like to see you and talk to you again next week ".

I didn't mean it at all. I said it to him so he would let me leave the house.

He let me leave the house , as he thought he would see me again the next week

Titanium, I was only looking at what happened from a pure technical perspective. I was NOT trying to victim blame or anything else. I can understand that the lady may have initially gone along with some of his suggestions re going out for a smoke, etc.

My core point centres around the comment she made on Oliver Callan’s interview when she said that when he turned off the light in the kitchen that his MOOD COMPLETELY CHANGED and for the worst - he becoming very aggressive. I am trying to comphrend why the lady did not formulate a quick exit strategy and get out of there / out of the situation. There are a range of excuses such as going to the toilet;, I must make a phone call - move around the house reception being bad ; go outside and get lost.:; call for help from someone else in the house, etc, etc, etc. As you might say that these are all ‘ fine and dandy’ when you are sober but when you have had a lot to drink or having consumed a lot of elicite substance such thoughts may not be easy to come by.
As they say ‘ we are all experts with hindsight’

I just felt really terribly sad about the Blathnaid raleigh case.

I know so many women who have been raped in Ireland.

That it has now gotten to the stage where some men are raping women with physical objects and leaving them physically damaged, is really shocking , heartbreaking and frightening. What kind of society are we living in.

Did you see the other ongoing rape case, where an Irish rugby player is one of the men accused of gang raping a woman in France -with a crutch.

Here you are attempting to downplay the actions of a rapist. Very relevant.

It doesn’t matter why she went outside with him , it doesn’t matter why she went to the shed , it doesn’t matter if she kissed him or not . Non of this matters because she did not consent to be abused and raped and injured badly with bottles

He raped her , he abused her , he injured her , he damaged her .
Brave brave girl to speak up like she did , well done to her

I am listening to her now . She is an amazing woman .

Indeed. Sadly there have been many strong women giving such interviews over the years, but she is unusually articulate. I'm not a fan of Ivan, but fair play to him for letting her tell her story without interruption.

As awful as the assault was, the five year wait for justice must have been torture.

The point is that, in most of these cases, there will be men who try to justify, mitigate & defend the actions of their mates. Ireland will of changed when no one defends these crimes.

I think another things that needs to be examined aswell is that certain men seen to link a lot of their self of sense identity and their self value to sex, so if a woman says no to them they don't know how to process it properly and they become absolutely enraged.

"How dare she say no to me" .

Any time that i have said no to sex myself, its never been received well.

i remember some men becoming absolutely enraged with anger when I said no, including one of my long term boyfriends.

I remember I said no to sex to one man and he tried to start something again and I said "I'm saying no and you have to respect that, and he said

"but you're saying no to me". And he got extremely angry. Like how could I a lesser person that him (in his eyes) possibly say no to him

I think there needs to be more lessons and teaching to people on consent, and on how to accept a no.

Is the transcript of his interview with guards anywhere?