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And that’s fine for her, I wouldn’t do that. I do like a nice dresser but it’s not a deal breaker. I’ve dated people who didn’t dress great because they had other qualities. A good dresser just gets bonus admiration. In the same way a guy might like luscious long shiny hair but wouldn’t reject somebody due to shorter frizzier hair if they were a good match….

were you Singing ''He ho He ho its off to work i go ''😛😛😂

Anyone that Still uses the Apps notice they seem to be overcome with Fakes lately, there seem to be more fakes on it than real/genuine people on them.

From what I can see ya, you notice same ones on different apps all Fake.Fake.Be tired of swiping to get someone real.

can this lady friend of yours find out find out if any of us are on it ??

& tons of fakes/catfishes as well

😉😂Willie

How's everyone?! Coming up to a year with the fella and I'm currently working on a little memory scrapbook. I've put in copies of some of our first messages, plane tickets, receipts like from first date drinks (just something to have the pub name on it!), photos, and little notes making a timeline with everything. I swear I'm 37 not 17, but this is just my vibe :) I won't see him on the exact date but we're doing dinner the week after so that'll be nice. I just want something to send beforehand as a wee surprise. Did flowers before and wanted to do something more personal for this.

Did flowers before and wanted to do something more personal for this.

WHAT? He got you flowers. My personal opinion on stuff like that is it's a waste of time. Wasting unnecessary money on crap. I would never do that ever unless it was valentines day and even then that is a long shot if I'd actually get them for her.

Yea it would be in my head I'd better get flowers for valentines day in the days running up to it and then on the day I'd say, ah f**k it I won't bother.

I never bought flowers for a girlfriend except once on holidays this fella came into the bar selling roses so I just bought one off him when he came up and asked me if I wanted to buy them. I'm 40 and bought a single rose once in my life.

Each to their own ☺️

Exactly. The time I got him flowers was just to celebrate an accomplishment when I wasn't there in person, wasn't a specific occasion.

Also everyone is confusing the situation. I was saying that "I" want to get him something different and more personal for this occasion. It's nothing to do with whatever he does or doesn't get me. I like getting/making gifts for people, it's just my thing.

Honestly time gathers speed at a frightening rate lately. I could do with it just chilling out please for a bit.

Ah I hope it's something you can work through or at least compromise on/live with.

Yes! Feels more like it should be early June not early July.

There have been quite a few very small things that was just compromise over and that is fine - he’s an early bird and im a night owl, political differences, texting differences, etc. But he previously made some comments about me (via text) and when I asked about it he just apologised and we moved on. It happened again yesterday and this time it can’t be just brushed off because this can’t keep happening. It’s related to lifestyle choices (basically what I spend money on). So it just needs to be talked through - he’s away currently. Might be easily solved - it just depends on how serious he is in his opinion or if it’s just a miss communication. We shall see :)

The political differences are fine - though I think part of it spills into the money argument.

He earns slightly more than me but I have more disposable income because he has an ex wife he gives a fair whack of wedge to each month.

Im not convinced it can be salvaged but it’s worth giving him a chance this far in rather than just pushing the eject button. I don’t like it anyway - if it was joint money fair enough, but it’s nobody else’s business what I do with mine. I could understand if I was in debt or not able to save every month - but I do save every month. And also I get value for money. For example in going away for a week in August and my accommodation for the week is one third of the amount he is spending on his for the same amount of time (I do go away more often I’ll admit which was pointed out - but I get value for money when I do). I like spending money on holidays and food as I work hard but having said that it’s deffo not over the top.
It could be a lack of understanding on his part, so I’ll give him a chance - but my gut is that he has a chip on his shoulder and resents me having more disposable. Which is why I don’t usually date guys that earn less but in this case it’s not earning less it’s less disposable. I am happy to go to cheap places to eat and I love staying in and making dinner - but I won’t be shamed for not buying own brand groceries all the time.