Rapist sentenced to 8 years

Relevance?

I did not downplay the actions of the rapist in the slightest. Nor did I “defend” R Kelly for that matter. I called him an idiot for that matter.

Your take on P-Diddy was that he was careless in getting caught on cctv when he was beating the crap out of his girlfriend. You didn't care about the actual assault itself, just the fact that he didn't cover his tracks.

Meanwhile here you are victim blaming in a rape case.

On Newstalk now.

She’s coming across incredibly well. Lovely articulate woman.

Yes, our Taoiseach has said that, but I do have to point out, that men can be victims of sexual violence as well, and are even less likely to report than women.

So we all have a role to play here, both men and women.

Having said that, asking questions of all parties concerned to determine what happened when an assault is reported, is necessary. Investigations have to be fair across the board.

My biggest issue is the speculation that follows cases like these, which is really barely veiled victim blaming. It is still very prevalent and needs to stop. It's here on this thread.

Questioning why Blathnaid did this, or why didn't she do that… why did she go into the shed with Moran. These questions are NOT relevant to what happened once they were in the shed.

Talk of "could she have escaped" or "why didn't she leave earlier…" when the most relevant question is

Why didn't he just NOT rape her?

Consent is ongoing and can be withdrawn at any time.

This is the message that needs to be strongly put across, and I don't know why so many people, simply do not get it. I once engaged on a thread here, and was subjected to the height of abuse because I defended someone's right simply not to be touched without permission. (In that case it was a woman, but it applies to men too).

What bothers me most about the rapist Johnny Moran in this case, is that he spent five years, and right up to the sentencing he refused to accept what he did was wrong. His solicitor said he "struggled with it" but then reluctantly decided to "accept the decision" of the Court. Notably, he didn't struggle with what he did to Blathnaid. He struggled with it being called rape.

His "acceptance" of the verdict was most likely on the advice of his solicitor, in order to mitigate a lesser sentence. I personally don't believe for one second, that he actually accepts what he did was rape. He was also found to be a "moderate risk" of re-offending.

A lot of that divide only seems to appear on social media, in real life it doesn't seem to be as exaggerated as the dramatists you see on Facebook, tiktok, etc

I didn't know he anally raped her with a bottle aswell.

What the hell was wrong with him. Who does that.

That's some sadistic ****. Sign of an extremely dangerous man

I was watching a couple of blathnaids interviews.

I agree with one thing that she said.

She said that sports teams in Ireland need to have lessons on consent and respect.

I absolutely agree with this. The worst men I have ever met in Ireland have been men who play sports. The culture seems to promote alpha male, showing off, and an entitlement to have sex with women at the weekend. They treat women like a piece of meat.

No matter what the woman wants. The attitude is often "but sure how could she say no to me I'm a sports star". What she wants doesn't matter at all, I'm entitled to sex.

There needs to be consent and respect classes in sports clubs

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I was just chatting to my female friends yesterday about blathnaid. We all live in the midlands of ireland and blathnaids case has really upset us.

my female friend said yesterday to me

"Being a woman can feel like you are living in hell". How could hell be worse than here. It is like hell. We are already living in a place where we are constantly touched groped sexually assaulted and disrespected a lot. By people bigget than us.

And I agreed with her. Like, as a woman you can't do anything without constantly feeling afraid of the people who are bigger than you.

She said she wished there was a female only island where we could go on holidays to escape the constant fear. I would like to go for a holiday there too.

They've started making a couple of female only hotels around Europe. That's a start for safety.

I would also like female only train carriages. I've been groped on the luas and train way too many times

It was blathnaid raleigh, the rape victim, who said that there should be consent classes in sports clubs. She said it in her recent interview.

Did you see her interview on it.

So you disagree with what she said. Why.

Youre allowed to disagree but in an intelligent discussion, you need to state your points about why you disagree.

Why do you disagree? Why do you think consent classes in sports clubs would be a bad idea?

Titanium11, I speak to you as another woman.

You are coming across as very emotional (which is understandable) but also very "anti-man" in your posts, and that is not actually helpful.

Because not all men are as you describe and by lumping them all together, it actually discourages them from listening when we speak and clouds the message we trying to send.

Please think about that.

If you care to read back, what you're saying makes no sense at all.

Where did i say that "all men do this?"

I never that. I never said all men do this. As obviously that wouldn't be an accurate thing to say

Specifically, in my first post I actually wrote the words "not all men".

So what on earth are you about?

Ok, fair enough, you're not hearing yourself right now, or are in any way receptive to hearing others.

You are making sweeping generalisations though, and they don't help anyone.

I'll leave it at that.