Rapist sentenced to 8 years

You'd probably need to tell us more, though you probably have good reasons for not doing so. I reckon each case is different, though the conditioning would be a common factor. In some cases the victim may be too worn down to escape (physically or by making a complaint) and the abuse is discovered by some other means. In other cases a victim may decide they have nothing left to lose, so they are willing to take the necessary risks in seeking help.

https://www.rte.ie/news/2024/0718/1460617-derry-orourke-coach-rape/

Third time this sick fcuker has been convicted of rape and sexual assault of young girls, 60 charges, including these latest ones.

They should throw away the key this time. I don't care if he is 78 and in ill health. Let him die in the Joy.

Caught this yesterday, its harrowing listening to it.

https://www.rte.ie/radio/radio1/clips/22416266/

(rte's superior quality broadcast service isn't working right now) same interview at 30mins here

https://www.rte.ie/radio/radio1/clips/11643946/

I guessed as much. But logic often isn't much help in these situations especially when people are worn down psychologically and emotionally and probably physically abused as well. Also, like the woman in the horrible case where the perpetrator thankfully got a life sentence, sometimes the abused stay in the situation in a misguided attempt to protect others, usually children.

The extraordinary thing for me (or interesting if you prefer) about that case is how the woman was able to get herself together enough to cooperate sufficiently with the authorities to secure a guilty plea.

Children are the silent victims of domestic abuse, they are equally affected and have the same requirements for support. Hope you're doing ok Jeqon.

So according to your logic, a woman who stays in a relationship where she is raped and physically and/or sexually assaulted repeatedly, is an enabler?

Your logic is twisted. This is pure victim blaming.

Did you read what the wife in this case said to her rapist and abuser about their wedding day in Court?

Maybe she should have been "more educated" about how not to pick a scumbag who was going to rape and abuse her over the next two decades, and threaten to withold money for food for their children.

How many abused women report that the abuse only begins after they're married or even when they become pregnant?

This line of thinking that "men are going to be men" and "women need to learn to be more careful in picking them" is giving rapists and abusers a pass on their behaviour and putting the responsibility back on women to avoid them.

And now according to some fcuked up twisted logic, they are being called enablers for not leaving their abusers.

Jesus H Christ.

Or knowing how to report abusers and ways to get away. There's no one size fits all but education about what makes a healthy relationship can be an ongoing process. Many people are 'locked in' in situations and more than just a case of being worn down or giving in there are all the elements of coercive control, so a woman may fear that her children will be taken from her or she might be financially abused (as is the case in this situation where she was only provided for when she became his sex slave essentially).

There's just too many variables to mention in one post but every case is different. Blaming a woman for not being able to get out of an abusive situation is a bit simplified and lacks any qualified understanding of how domestic abuse occurs. It was legal to rape your wife in Ireland 30 years ago.