18 year old son dating a settled traveller

Youve said your peace, its your house so you decide who's welcome and who isn't.

There's not much else you can do.

Like the time I dropped this girl I met out home.

When we pulled up at a halting site, I said , I thought you said you were a nurse, to which she replied, no, I said I was one of the Ward sisters.

Let it be don't drive him into something stupid ,at that age chances are it will fizzle out soon enough for a variety of reasons .

If her parents are aware that she is dating outside the "community" then that would be a comfort.

If her parents aren't aware then you need to talk to the son about the prospects for the relationship.

You shouldn't be so negative about the likely mother of your future grandchild. She's probably a lovely girl.

You might want to start saving now though for the Christening just in case there is any truth to the stereotype of having large family events. You might only have 7 or 8 months to get a nest egg built up before it.

I am Indian, and living in Ireland. I was dating my Irish GF and my parents protested HARD. The great shame to the family, the threat of disowning, absolute certainty that she would cheat and that she would divorce me in a few years (because it's common in the 'West') and threatening to suicide if I don't change my mind - and thiswent on for three whole years.

Well, we are married for 16 years now. My parents came around and agreed to it and is well proud of their daughter in law.

OP, I don't have your life experiences, so I can't begin to imagine or think anything useful to say - but in an ideal world - if you trust your son, support him. If you think he's making a mistake, advice him but support him anyway, so that you will have his trust if something goes wrong and you will be able to support him again.

It sounds discriminatory, because it is.

Get over yourself.

I worked with a settled traveller before, he was a lovely fella and his family were great. Why not give the girl a chance? Your son could really hold it against you if you don't imo.

A traveller and a settled traveller can be very different things...

It 'may' sound discriminatory? I hope that poor woman dumps your son's ass STAT. Nobody needs to deal with people like you.

a lot of the travellers girl start there families right young

iI won't sleep the night if I was you

I guess you don't like travellers

We know nothing about the girl in question so painting them all with the same brush is the standard reaction from people.

I know of a family, well those stories are always bulls**t becuase the next thread you will post similar.

The trouble is not the girls but the cumunity he would be marrying into you brought your son up with the proper values but the same can't be said for the other side I will explain my brother in law is working with a farmer that hired a traveller lad that has his eye on everything that s not tied down the milk collection lorry was around collecting the milk recently when the driver was out of the cab the lad was up in it routing around.

Also I have a necice that works in a hotel that had 2 family s of travellers in the other day that ordered dinner got up & walked out without paying.blame the parents they know no better let one in let them all in

Just pray he doesn't impregnate her, trav girls tend to have kids very young

Seems to be a thing with Boards of late.

Newly registered poster putting up controversial topics in the hope of starting a pile on?

…make sure its wrapped up!

…id be deeply concerned if i was in your position op, so hopefully this does fizzle out…..

….best of luck….

…and maybe appropriate communication with kids would be a better approach, the op has expressed their concerns, which are valid, but now backing off is probably required, and let it be…..

Lol

OP you have to let him make his own choices, you have told him your view

It may all work out good or fizzle out

Some are good skins, decent folk, have your heard anything bad about her or her family? I know the negative stories surpass the positive

You are a racist

My advice - support the relationship even though you don't like it, children of that age are rebellious so not supporting will in effect make it last longer. Also, your house, your rules but would you rather your son live under your roof or under another roof?

This advice stands for all parents of teenage children regardless of ethnic backgrounds