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Friendly or...

  • 23-09-2024 10:38pm
    #1
    Step23
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 131 ✭✭


    A few months ago, I was chatting to someone at an event, and we kept in touch. They offered to help with teaching me something I was interested in learning. A few months passed and they have kept their word. The extent of help they are providing is above and beyond though. Its something they are passionate about, but me being occasionally naive I just want to be sure where I stand.

    There has been a subsequent event where same person sat beside me, and we spent a few hours talking, me noticing a reasonable amount of arm touching and all that etc

    Any messaging is usually about lessons. But in the back of my head I am wondering if I am blindly walking into something.



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  • #2
    Buddy Bubs
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,124 ✭✭✭Buddy Bubs


    Are you interested in anything more? Nobody here will know based on the little info given



  • #3
    Step23
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 131 ✭✭Step23


    Yes, seems we have some common interests. Still getting to know person, though it's a matter of working out if there is anything more wanted from her side, based on various signs, which could be just being friendly.



  • #4
    extra-ordinary_
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,839 ✭✭✭extra-ordinary_


    https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122657100#Comment_122657100

    Ask her on a date, so.



  • #5
    Teapot30
    Registered Users Posts: 134 ✭✭Teapot30


    I wouldn't jump into asking her on a date, it could muddy the waters. I'd honestly go with the flow, she's very likely just friendly and likes to help people. When she's finished giving you lessons, see if you keep in touch and how the conversation flows.



  • #6
    Step23
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 131 ✭✭Step23


    https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122658369#Comment_122658369

    The being friendly and wanting to help is sort of my initial thought. But the event we were both at had the notice amounts of arm touching, prolonged eye contact etc. All I can do is play it by ear.



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  • #7
    tara73
    Registered Users Posts: 2,344 ✭✭✭tara73


    https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122647806#Comment_122647806

    OP, why don't you answer this elementary question? why this wandering around in answers? Nobody can give you an answer to your questions, only you can find out by keeping in contact with her and going to more events/go for coffee and cake or even a meal. must not be declared as a date…but you can keep on doing this for weeks or month, if it is the case you really like her and want more than a friendship, and there are still no 'clear signs' you seem to waiting for, you'll need to have an honest conversation about your expectations with her and find out for sure and all will be happy clappy or you can lay the expectations to a rest.



  • #8
    Princess Calla
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,035 ✭✭✭Princess Calla


    Why don't you ask her out for lunch as a thank you for the help she has given you.

    If there's no spark you wrap it up saying you've xyz to do that evening, thanks again for all the help.

    If there is a spark let the lunch date continue organically..... depending where you live try to pick a spot that has a nice scenic walk or close to some sort of activity that can be casually suggested.



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