New boyfriend earns substantially more than me and I can't keep up with him

Dump him

Run

Seriously, don't put any more effort into this relationship.

 if we go on a night out and he's bought me more drinks than ive bought him he'll let me know and I always make it up. 

Red flag. Run. Future you will thank you.

Where's the romance in that? Sounds crap

Dump him like a hot snot.

so he is someone to split down the middle person !! what is his thoughts about wife going on maternity leave or losing job or career growth due to pregnancy or sickness .

will he take care of his partner in that event?

Well what do you guys reckon a fair split is ? He isn't a walking bank account. Guys with self esteem, don't want to think of themselves as only buying your attention. Probably 60/40 or 70/30 split acceptable in this case is acceptable IMO. Also of it were the other way around, no doubt the man would be accused of being lazy or a waster... Women can spend depraved amounts when they are on tiny incomes , on nails , waxing etc... so can't really go further without more info, which there is no point in asking.... but at least you're not going out with a simp, where the line should be drawn, is debatable...

Just read the op again and the sub totalling the drinks and letting you know the balance, is in bad taste imo. Is he good in the other ways that matter?

OP your boyfriend earns good money and understandably will want to do those things, and like any other relationship, he will want to do the things he enjoys with his partner by his side.

It's a new relationship so there are bound to be plenty of date nights and plans made.

Him offering to lend you money to keep up with those plans isn't exactly helping when you've explained that you are not in a position to date like that (Doesn't make sense either - you pay him back and you're down money on your next payday. That same payday which will most likely follow with more plans).

You've said it's already making you feel under pressure and I'd imagine uncomfortable in the relationship.

Maybe it simply isn't the right relationship for both of you (This doesn't make you worth any less than him either!)

If you do decide to part ways, it doesn't need to be a terrible sad breakup. Maybe it's best to let him spread his wings and find someone who is able to live life as he does. And you too can look for someone that maybe prefers long walks, cosy nights in and the odd weekend away, etc. There's nothing wrong with that way of dating either..

Earnings and all that aside, anyone who points out that they might have bought more drinks than the other person on a night out and expects the difference to be made up is a stingy fook.

Seeing that type of behaviour early on in a relationship I can only imagine how much worse it could get.

Edited - picked an incorrect figure.

There are way too many factors missing to say if this is being fair or not - the key one being: How new is "new"?

For the sake of argument only - double salary doesn't mean double take home pay.

On the PWC Income tax calculator (with no deductions), €25k salary gives €1,869 €2,576pm. €55k salary gives €3,453pm. €967 €1,584pm difference, which is a decent chunk for sure, but it's 37% more, not 100% more take home.

You do say you have higher expenses, but are they "necessary" in his eyes, or discretionary?

What I mean by that is, some guys will see €300 in the hairdresser as and outrageous luxury (if they even realise it's that expensive) while societal pressure has meant that many women see it as absolutely necessary.

How much is he saving for the future? How much into his pension? What does his car loan really cost? Is he helping out parents with money? These are all big if's, but again, you do say "new" boyfriend so I'm not sure a financial audit is the best idea right now, but in any case that €967 gets eaten up quickly, and unnoticeably by one or two of the above and a bit of lifestyle creep.

Lastly, some guys just have a thing about drinks. Buying a girl a drink is the colloquial move for a guy to do in a bar, and some (not all) women take advantage of guys' good nature to get a free drink and walk away. It may have happened to him in the past and he just sees it as a glaring example of being taken advantage of that he can't shake, so has become petty about it. I mean he need to get over that, and I don't agree with it, just a possible explanation.

"if we go on a night out and he's bought me more drinks than ive bought him he'll let me know and I always make it up."
- wow dating sure has changed.

does he plan all the dates? Why not plan some cheap ones? Walks in the park with a coffee, feeding ducks at the river etc.

An honest conversation is need along the lines of “I don’t expect you to pay for me, but realise I can’t go out that often spending”

Lads common, read the OP. She's tried talking to him about it and he's just ignored it

Well, she says "I've tried to communicate with him", but that can mean a lot of things. For some people, that means something like "I've dropped hints" or "A couple of times I have mentioned particular instances of this problem"; for others it means "I sat him down and said 'Look, we need to talk about something. We have a problem that is going to keep cropping up, and we need to work out how to deal with it.'"

It's the second kind of conversation the OP needs to have with her boyfriend.