possibly pregnant

LegacyUser · 12-12-2004 2:39pm #1

regular poster here....ive had unprotected sex recently and i dont know what to do.. Stupid i know, please dont tell me that cuz i know....if i am pregnant what are my options??? i cant have a baby, only in school....i know i shouldd have known that...please help, i need to know what the options are, please dont patronise me...too late for morning after pill- what other options???

I am MAN · 12-12-2004 4:05pm

No other options if its after 72 hours, just the waiting game.

Did the guy ejaculate?? or was it just pre-cum??

dudara · 12-12-2004 4:21pm

God, sorrry to hear this

You have lots of options,
1. tell your parents. Tough one I know, but if you're still in school (are u a minor?), their support could be invaluable.
2. go look for counselling. There is a group called Positive Options that will be able to offer more detailed advice regarding abortion, adoption or keeping the child.

However, if you're not sure yet that you're pregnant, get yourself tested at the first available opportunity by a doctor.

Did the guy ejaculate?? or was it just pre-cum??

BTW this has no relevance, you can get pregnant either way

LegacyUser · 12-12-2004 4:44pm

how much does that cost...help....i dont know what i was doing, its like i wanted this to happen

I am MAN · 12-12-2004 4:54pm

It is very relevant.

High percentage/Not so high percentage.

smoke.me.a.kipper · 12-12-2004 5:01pm

tell your parents. honestly, its their support your going to need more than anything else if you are indeed pregnant.

elivsvonchiaing · 12-12-2004 5:05pm

Get a testing kit in Chemist (preferably when some ouwld witch that knows who you are isn't in the shop). If that comes up positive :eek: You probably should tell your parents. If you can't afford the kit - you at least need to tell your friends and have a whip around for the cash!

You probably should wait until you think you've missed your period for this. In the meantime try those support lines mentioned in previous posts.

Evilution · 12-12-2004 5:29pm

Without wanting to sound cruel, I think it might also be worthwhile investing in an STD check too. Can't be too sure these days and if you did have something and went ahead and had the baby, it could seriously damage the child.
Just a suggestion.

I am MAN · 12-12-2004 11:07pm

Dont go that far yet for gods sake, i'm sure she is stressed enough. These things happen stupid or not.

Try not to get to freaked out but the first thing you should do is get a pregnancy test, I would recommend getting the clear blue easy one from most boots stores it has a high detection rate and can detect it very early on.

elivsvonchiaing · 12-12-2004 11:22pm

guest 50 wrote:

how much does that cost...help....i dont know what i was doing, its like i wanted this to happen

Further thoughts on this... If you were talking about abortion here, and you tell your parents, and they want you to have one, you really should make sure that this is what you want also. You don't want to spend the rest of your life with regrets. The reverse is also true - i.e. your parents want you to keep the kid and you deep down you don't want to but feel pressurized.

Unto your own self be true!

Amz · 12-12-2004 11:32pm

I am MAN wrote:

or was it just pre-cum??

There is sperm present in pre-cum.

Going Demented · 12-12-2004 11:33pm

I can't be bothered going private with logging in and loggin out.

You have to find out if your pregnant or not first. So there you have to play the waiting game.

If you are not pregnant - learn from experience.

If you are you have three options.

Parenting / Adoption / Abortion. None of these is the perfect option and i hope you are not pregnant and don't have to decide on any of the three.

I am going to London tomorrow for an abortion. It is a very hard choice to come to and right now i feel like backing out. All options are scary!

(site deleted)* is an abortion site that has the fees.
With general anasthetic it is £505 sterling.
Add on price of two tickets 214.50 Euro
Accomodation for one night £69 Sterling
Taxi from airport and back £33 Sterling to get there, £29 sterling to get back.

There you have it. It is not cheap. It's very friggen scary and finances is the least of the worries.

If she decides to parent/adoption she will automatically get the STD testing. If she has an abortion they will test for some if she wishes.

At the end of the day love you have to wait and see if you are or not. There is no point worrying now. Worry only if it is necessary. If you are pregnant only you can decide what road you want to go. If you are though please tell your parents straight away. That is the most stressful part of all. And the worrying is worse than telling them.

Fingers crossed this is only a "scare" for you

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I have taken the link out of this comment on the grounds it *may* cause boards trouble - however, if you wish to PM GD - I'm sure she will have no trouble giving it to you.
Beruthiel

keu · 13-12-2004 1:11am

^grrrr.

to the lass..go and have a test done and try to stop worrying, it's not the end of the world. Either way you will cope.

keu · 13-12-2004 1:24am

I find the whole abortion thing very depressing tbh, while I understand it's a reality it still makes me want to puke.
The girl doesn't even know if she is pregnant yet and already is being encouraged to consider abortion.

I'm not trying to be insenstive to the other posters who have recently touched on the subject, but for the love of god..it's heart breaking sh!t.

Victor · 13-12-2004 12:56pm

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Victor · 13-12-2004 1:13pm

First of all, you do need to find out if you are pregnant. As suggested, a pregnancy test kit is a starting place, but isn't 100% accurate. The test a doctor does is more accurate.

If you are pregnant, then Positive Options is probably a good start. If you are a minor, you will have to tell your parents sooner or later, but perhaps a hurdle you need not cross before the test.

guest 50 wrote:

i cant have a baby, only in school

Tempted to patronise here, but I won't.

Pregnancy and having a baby is not the end of the world. Yes it has it's trials and tribulations and responsibilities, but I'm sure it will work out.

cajun_tiger · 13-12-2004 2:12pm

guest pm me if you wish am a mam of a teen pregnacy can talk you through the most part or mail me on cajun_tiger_baby@hotmail.com

Extra bit....
Got sometime to right more....
Listen I know its hard go to a doctor get the morning after pill
Wait a week or two get a test. If you wish to terminate you can't do anything till you are 7 weeks. Adoption seems like a nice idea the only problem is you have to go through the pregnancy and trust me from experience to give up your baby after caring for it for nine months and finally getting to see its beautiful face it would be the hardest thing to do. I myself have opted for an abortion like going demented. Missed my flights on Friday due to my passport being lost, still going through with it though. I have a child and I wouldn't be able to give two children the up bringing they disserve. I’m also very ill with this and any pregnancy I’ll ever have or had. My doctor has told me that this is the best option for me at the moment. If abortion isn't something you could do there are so many people out there that would love to help benardos will help you going back to school. vdp will help you at xmas, government daily weekly monthly until your on your feet. and people like climaxer and me will always support you in what ever desion you make. Someone told me in my hour of need that there is no good or bad desion when it comes to an unwanted pregnancy. There’s only the one that fits with you.

You can contact me in total confidence.

bug hugs and sending you lots of loves

climaxer · 13-12-2004 2:27pm

First of all get the test done - you may not be pregnant. If you are as pointed out to you already you have the option of abortion, adoption or keeping your baby. I have no experience in abortion but some girls have here and they've already kindly offered their advice and support via pm. If you are pregnant and decide to keep the baby you can pm myself or Cajun_tiger anytime. I got pregnant when I was 16 and in Leaving Cert class and had my daughter when I was 17. I know how scared you feel and I actually didn't tell anyone except my best friend and the dad (who fcuked off) until I was around 6 or 7 months. Without rambling on - just pm if want any advice or support. Mine is a happy ending though and honestly my daughter is the best thing that ever happened to me even though she wasn't planned.

galwaydude18 · 14-12-2004 2:55pm

get the test done ASAP to see if you are pregnant! you could also try to talk to the guy you shagged! if you are going out with him and he is any way supportive he will help you through this just dont lose the plot! if you are pregnant then you will have to think about what you want to! do you want to keep the baby (I hope you would) or not? then talk to the guy you shagged and then ye will have to think about when ye will tell yer parents that you are pregnant if you are!

cajun_tiger · 14-12-2004 3:03pm

say nothing to the guy until you know trust me men being told this sort of thing end up telling everyone

galwaydude18 · 14-12-2004 3:05pm

no they do not! not every man out there maybe like you who cant keep some things to them selfs!

cajun_tiger · 14-12-2004 3:08pm

yes very true but think about the majority

climaxer · 14-12-2004 3:20pm

cajun_tiger thinking of you too girl - hope you are ok. Can only imagine how you must feel. Keeping fingers crossed all will work out for you. PM if you want a shoulder to cry on. Must be so hard for you girl but you're a fighter. As you said everyone has a decision thats right for them. Really hope yourself and Going Demented are ok. Big cyber hugs to you both and the original poster. I really feel for you all having to make such a big decision.

WhiteWashMan · 14-12-2004 3:48pm

talk to cura or samaratins.

Going Demented · 14-12-2004 11:59pm

I just want to say in NO way whatsoever was i promoting this girl to have an abortion. You will see i named all options but i did answer her the price of it as she asked. I never thought itwould be in the situation to have an abortion and always thought if i did find myself pregnant abortion went against all my beliefs. It just goes to show, you don't know until you are in the situation. This girl is the only girl that knows whats right for her. Only she can choose that and i am not influencing her one way or the other. She may not even have to consider the options, and hopefully that will be the case. I would say talk to the irish family planning association. They were very helpful to me, and abortion was not my first option. I just hadn't the support in any respect. I will not and will never promote abortion but if someone asks something in relation to it i won't tiptoe around the question either.

keu · 16-12-2004 1:09am

hope all is well and a quick recovery to you.

LegacyUser · 16-12-2004 10:06am

I guess youve heard/seen the new "it only takes one sperm" ad on TV.

I take protection and it still gave me the willies.

Anyways, you need to wait until youve missed a period to get an (fairly)accurate reading on a pregnancy test.

You can also use "First Response" which is super sensitive and may pick up HcG (hormone present when pregnant, this is how the text works by detecting these levels) up to 4 days before a period. But it is more reliable to wait until youve missed a period.

If you get a positive result, then you can start with your "options", finding them and choosing them.

There seems to be an underlying and more sinister problem here to start off with.

I think you like the idea of being pregnant, or at least you think you do, for what ever reason (trying to be close to someone?) but the reality is you are terrified yet you like to scare the s*it out of yourself believing that you are pregnant.

possibly pregnant

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